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01/07/2017

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You Get What You Tolerate: Warrior Mind Podcast #341

Over four years and going strong!  With over 500,000 downloads from over 9 countries and 5 continents’…. this is you get what you tolerate the Warrior Mind Podcast.

In this episode of the Warrior Mind Podcast I going to discuss the concept of you get what you tolerate and how this plays a role in your personal performance.

You Get What You Tolerate

Here’s an excerpt from http://www.renaissanceswag.com/you-get-what-you-tolerate-in-life-but-accepting-it-is-your-decision/

Tolerance looks something like this:

  1. Being given extra work by your boss to pick up the slack from your co-workers lack of efficiency and diligence, so you, and your hard-working self take on the challenge and leadership role, until you realize this is not a one time charlie, but a consistent pattern, again, and again, and again. And you think, “Wait! I didn’t sign up for this. I don’t feel appreciated. I feel taken advantage of. And I’m not sure how to handle this, but I don’t want to confront the situation and perhaps upset my boss, so I guess I’ll keep doing the work and feel slighted.”
  1. You start going out with a guy or a girl. And it’s been 1,2,3,4,5 times that you’ve been out together to some type of big occasion like a party, family gathering, mixer, or perhaps even a Great Gatsby-esque soiree and your partner just decided to introduce you as “a friend.” After the 5th time you’re thinking, “Huh, I didn’t think we were just friends?!” You’re on a completely different page, but you remain in this “friend-relation-ship” status anyways.

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The article continues….

Once you’ve properly communicated yourself, do not be attached to the results. Don’t expect to hear something that’s going to work in your favor because expectation is the root of all problems (up for debate ? ).

When you expect something to work in your favor, and it doesn’t, things tend to get ugly.

Think of the relationship example above. Not saying this is the paradigm of every relationship, but usually there is a pattern in all types of relationships:

  1. One person is usually not recognizing that they are not fulfilling needs.
  1. The other person is not expressing what they need.

So let’s say you are the one who isn’t expressing your needs and you finally voice your feelings to your partner telling him or her that you see them in a different light than just “friends.” You see them as a whole lot more, someone that well, you want to get to know deeper, and their response may not be the sugarcoated answer you were hoping for or simply, the “me too” that you were waiting to hear back. If you’re not willing to accept what gets fired back at you, it can turn into a pity party or a flash of anger (cause as humans we tend to take things personally). OR it can be a sting of pain but you’re willing to accept the other person’s perspective, let it go, and move on.

*Remember: what you get is what you tolerate.*

The person who isn’t recognizing that you feel taken advantage of or unappreciated isn’t going to know until you tell them! It’s really that simple. This battle of miscommunication is will remain prevalent until someone speaks up! Let’s communicate properly what we are feeling in that moment, not by being rude, malicious or wishy-washy. Rather, let’s converse clearly, speaking from a place of calmness and with an open heart.

Lastly, we must know when to pick and choose our battles. Not every situation warrants a full-blown diatribe. Tolerance has a threshold. There’s a fine line between saying something right away or brushing it off, depending on the context of the situation. We encourage you to take a stand at your own discretion. You know what’s best for you and whether that one time occurrence is a red flag or something you let slide. And remember, we cannot approach all circumstances with an air of unwavering conditions. Honest and open communication is about meeting the other person halfway and coming together to form a mutual agreement.

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