Jan 242011
 
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Achieving peak human performance and personal power begins with a mental strength mindset and empowering mindsetbeliefs.  Reaching your personal goals starts in the mind and finishes with peak performance…taking massive action. 

This is one in a series of mental strength life coaching tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach your peak performance and personal success.

I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions.  The intention of these ‘sessions’ is for you to write the questions in a success journal reflect on them and answer them.

This series of posts is for YOU!  If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

Metacognition – Thinking about your thinking.  The goal of this virtual coaching session is help you understand the value of thinking about what you think about, and how your thinking and thoughts affect and impact your personal performance and results.

Let’s Get Started:

We humans are the only species on earth who have the ability to evaluate our own thoughts and thinking. This ability to step outside ourselves, to observe and become area of our thoughts and thinking is one of the mental strength techniques that separate’s the average person’s from those that are in truly in their personal power.  The benefit of this self-consciousness awareness lies in your ability to objectively consider how your thinking is helping or hurting you in reaching your personal goals, and then making the adjustments in your thoughts to reach your peak personal performance.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

  • Do you believe thinking about what you think about can help you reach personal success?
  • Have you used meta-cognition in the past to enhance your personal performance?
  • Do you believe there is a cause and effect relationship between your thinking and your results?

 Unsupportive Beliefs about Meta-Cognition

  • My thinking is fine.  It’s my results that need improvement.
  • I’m too busy to think about what I think about.
  • My thinking has nothing to do with what happens in the real world.

 Mental Strength Beliefs about Meta-Cognition

  • The more aware I ma of what I’m thinking the easier I can adjust my thoughts.
  • I become what I think about
  • Mental strength thinking leads peak personal performance.

Outrageous Questions:

  • What do you think about most of time?
  • Are your dominant thoughts helping or hurting you achieve your personal goals?
  • What thoughts would you considering releasing or changing?

 Reflective Questions:

  • How can I help you increase your awareness of what you’re thinking about?
  • Do you think it’s possible to get better results by changing your thinking?
  • What would motivate you to become more aware of your dominate thoughts?

 Mental Strength Coaching:

My goal in the virtual session is educate you to build that habit of using meta-cognition, and to stop and become aware of your thoughts and your thought process.  You need to understand that is these thoughts that keep you away or move you closer to your personal goals.  When you understand and belief that there is a cause and effect relationship between your think and your personal performance you will develop the mindset to become a master of your thoughts.

 Final Thought

Depending on the study, the percent of negative thoughts a persons thinks per day is between 60 and 80%!  Even at the low end this is horrific! Your thoughts do directly affect your personal performance and your performance dictates whether you’ll reach your personal goals, hence your personal success.  Here are some tips to help you become aware of your thoughts:

PRACTICE: Get control of your daily stream of thoughts–think and feel more positively. These were real examples from that one day in my life. Try observing yourself for one day. Keep a log of them.

  • Observe emotions and thoughts. What thoughts are associated with positive and negative emotions? Observe positive and negative emotions in a neutral, almost scientific manner. What types of thoughts precede positive versus negative emotions?
  •  How are you viewing external events?  What external events preceded the positive and negative thoughts? What assumptions intervene between the external event and the negative thoughts? How can you question these assumptions or see them from a new or higher point of view?
  •  List recurring positive and negative themes. What themes are present in many thoughts associated with positive emotions? With negative emotions? List them.
  •  List inner sources of positive and negative thoughts. What parts of yourself (or belief systems) are producing these positive or negative thoughts? What additional parts of yourself can you use as sources of positive points of view and thoughts? Your Higher Self, positive interests, and positive belief systems are key sources. Themes supporting higher values such as truth, beauty, creativity, love, romance, art, growth, family, self-sufficiency, internal control, play, and kindness are powerful sources of positive thoughts. List them.
  •  Plan to control your thought-stream (therefore emotions). List what you can do to decrease negative thoughts and replace them with more positive, realistic thoughts.

 If you’d like to get started on controlling your thoughts and  developing a rock solid mindset for personal power,  peak human performance, goal setting or achieving your personal goals request your Introductory Consultation today!

Or, if you’d like to study on your own today, order a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.” This is a fantastic e-book that helps you take control of your thoughts, develop success awareness and helps you tap into the powers of your unconsciousness mind to create the mental strength to succeed at anything!

OK…now it’s your turn!  Let me know about your thoughts on this subject in the comments below.

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Jan 212011
 
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Recently I’ve been getting a lot questions around “what to do to…” i.e. have personal success, to develop mentalpersonal power strength, have personal power, etc.

All theses are great questions because they create a moving forward action.  And as I questioned deeper it became clear that these questions were generated by three main areas:

  • Media mind programming
  • Comparison to others
  • Lack of vision  

 I’m not going to address the first two issues since they seem to be obvious and actually would fall away if the last issue was addressed.

Visions have always held an import part in living a life with inner strength to stay the course.

When a person has their vision they have the help of a “wing man” like in the first episode of Stars Wars.  Remember when Jedi fighters were in the channels of the Death Star and were being attacked from behind from the evil Empire’s fighters? As one of the Jedi fighters got closer to the air vent he started to get distracted by the Empire’s fighters get closer and closer.  His wing man kept saying “Stay on target…stay on target.”  In case you forget, here’s the clip.

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That’s exactly what happens when you have our vision.  If we start to get distracted we have our wing man (our unconsciousness mind) that tells us to stay on target.   Now we won’t get blown up like the movie and by stepping into your personal power you will experience peak personal performance.

 When you’re unsure of what actions to take, why you’re taking the actions or even where you should be taking actions, this is a good indication of a lack of vision. The goods news is all this uncertainty will dissolve as soon as you have your vision.

 Vision was so important to Native American’s that is was one of the sacred ceremonies, as described in the book “The Sacred Pipe” by Black Elk.  The term for this ceremony was “Hanblecheyapi”, or crying for a vision.

Even back in Biblical times it was quoted that “Without Vision the People Perish.”  I interpret this as not a physical death, but more of an emotional and spiritual death.  That is, without a vision we can’t live our mission…who were are here to be.

Sure, without a vision you can reach small personal goals.  But with a vision you can reach big audacious personal goals and in the process you’ll develop the inner strength and mental strength to help others

When a vision is clear everything else falls into place.

 Robert Dilts explains this in relation to neurological levels as follows:  

Levels of Processes Within Individuals

Environmental factors determine the external opportunities or constraints which individuals and organizations must recognize and react to. They involve considering where and when success occurs.

Behavioral factors are the specific action steps taken in order to reach success. They involve what, specifically, must be done or accomplished in order to succeed.

Capabilities relate to the mental maps, plans or strategies that lead to success. They direct how actions are selected and monitored.

Beliefs and values provide the reinforcement that supports or inhibits particular capabilities and actions. They relate to why a particular path is taken and the deeper motivations which drive people to act or persevere.

Identity factors relate to people’s sense of their role or mission. These factors are a function of who a person or group perceives themselves to be.

“Spiritual” factors relate to people’s view of the larger system of which they are a part. These factors involve for whom or for what a particular action step or path has been taken (the purpose and vision).

Dilts likes to call the process of moving through these levels in respect to coaching “from coach to awakener”

 Here’s what he say’s about the last step, awakener.

Awakening goes beyond coaching, teaching, mentoring and sponsorship to include the level of vision, mission and spirit. An awakener supports another person by providing contexts and experiences which bring out the best of that person’s understanding of love, self, and spirit. An awakener “awakens” others through his or her own integrity and congruence. An awakener puts other people in touch with their own missions and visions by being in full contact with his or her own vision and mission.”

When we have our vision it will direct out mission and then migrate all the way down to where do we need to be to realize our vision (the environment)?

Having a vision gives us the juice for personal growth; do that we can become the person in the vision, i.e. our mission.

I hope you can now appreciate the power of a vision and how it can change your life so that you will experience peak personal performance, the feeling of contribution and meaning as well as a sense of bliss.

As Joseph Campbell said, “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.”

I am so passionate about helping others find there vision I’m now offer a private 2 ½ -Day High Intensity Inner Strength Vision Quest.   If you’re feeling lost, empty, confused or even emphatic towards life, this quest is for you! 

If you’re 100% committed to finding your vision and would like to experience your personal vision quest, Contact Me today so that we can talk and make sure the time is right.

OK, please let me know your thoughts around a vision and mission in the comments below.

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Jan 172011
 
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Achieving peak human performance and personal power begins with a mental strength mindset and empoweringpersonal power beliefs.  Reaching your personal goals starts in the mind and finishes with peak performance…taking massive action. 

 This is one in a series of mental strength life coaching tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach your peak performance and personal success.

 I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions.  The intention of these ‘sessions’ is for you to write the questions in a success journal reflect on them and answer them.

 This series of posts is for YOU!  If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

 Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To help you understand that you everything you do is a choice.  The mentally strong, aware and competent you become, the more choices you have.

 Let’s Get Started:

You make choices everyday; from getting up in the morning to how to invest in your day (what to do).  You need to understand that everything you do is a choice.  For every one thing you choose to do, you automatically choose not do thousands of other things you could do.  Often, many of the things you choose simply do not support you in achieve your personal goals.  These choices are based on beliefs, values and habits.

 Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

  • What are some of the things you do in your life that you believe are not choices?
  • If you had the freedom to choice in every area of your life, what would you choose to be, have ad do?
  • What would it take for you to be able to choose everything you would be, have and do?

 Unsupportive Beliefs about Choice

  • I have very few choices.
  • Only wealth people have choices.
  • Have too many choices makes me nervous, scared and overwhelmed.

 Mental Strength Beliefs about Choice

  • I choose everything I do.
  • Freedom of choice is essential to living in my personal power.
  • Freedom to choose is the ultimate gift and completely supports peak human performance.

 Outrageous Questions:

  • Did you choose to get up for work this morning because you wanted to or because you HAD to?
  • Who makes most your choices for you?
  • How could making better choices help you more quickly towards achieving your personal goals?

 Reflective Questions:

  • Can you see how altering your perception about making choices can help you create the mental strength for personal power?
  • What would empower you to take control of you life by making better choices?
  • How can I help you make better choices in your goal setting and thinking?

 Mental Strength Coaching:

Average people think and believe they have no choices and tend to see themselves as victims of outside circumstances and people.  In order to develop the mental strength to achieve your personal goals you’ll need to shift your thinking so that you understand that everything you do is a choice.  Once you “get this” you will be empowered to take control and responsibility for you life, your personal power and ultimately your personal performance.

 Final Thought

It is imperative as an individual on the road of success you truly believe that the freedom to choose is essential for attaining quantum leaps in your personal power, personal performance and reaching your personal goals.  My job as your virtual coach is to remind you that you are 100% responsible for your personal success, fulfillment and happiness, and the attainment of theses are all based on YOUR choices.

 If you’d like to get started on developing a rock solid mindset for personal power,  peak human performance, goal setting or achieving your personal goals request your Introductory Consultation today!

 Or, if you’d like to study on your own today, order a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.” This is a fantastic e-book that helps you take control of your thoughts, develop success awareness and helps you tap into the powers of your unconsciousness mind to create the mental strength to succeed at anything!

 OK…now it’s your turn!  Let me know about your thoughts on this subject in the comments below.

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How many times have you wanted to take an important decision but felt like lost? A part of you wants to ‘this’ and personal poweranother part wants to ‘that’ and you end up stuck. For example, a part of you wants you to quit your job and start your own business for a brighter future while the other part of you wants to enjoy the current job’s security.

Whether it was a bad habit or an important decision it’s the inner conflict you are experiencing that prevented you form acting the right way. At some point in our lives we may run in a conflict where a part of us wants to do something and another part wants to do the opposite, see the examples below:

Sometimes you may not be able to break a habit just because a part of you wants it. In this case the more you will try to break it the more will this part hold on to it and so the result will be returning back to the habit without knowing why.

Resolving the Inner Conflict

Even if you managed to ignore the needs of one of your parts you will still suffer from lack of inner integration and you will be full of suppressed emotions and unmet desires.

The solution to this dilemma is getting more understanding of those conflicting parts then working on uniting those parts together under a common goal. This may have sounded impossible before NLP came into existence but now it’s possible and even easy.

For best results is recommend to find a certified NLP Practitioner, but you can attempt this on your own as well.

Basic Parts Integration Using NLP

The following are the steps you should follow in order to unite your conflicting parts under one common goal. The technique is taken from NLP and its called parts integration or visual squash. Make sure you read all steps before applying the technique.

Note that you aren’t going to resolve the inner conflict on the conscious level but instead you’re going to do it on the unconscious level and that’s why the below steps may require some imagination.

Step One – Identify the conflicting parts (in this example we’ll use ‘job’ and starting your ‘own business’): Hold both of your hands in front of you So that your palms are facing up. Look at the first hand and imagine that you are holding the first part on it and try to imagine the shape of the part. Some people see it as an object, some see it as a person, still others see much more weird things so just relax and the image appear that makes you most comfortable. Try to notice if the part has a weight, sound, feeling, taste or smell associated with it.

Now when you get the first part out on one of your hands (your unconsciousness mind will tell you which part goes in which hand) do the same for the second part. Symbols are used here because your subconscious mind thinks using symbols.

Step Two – Ask the first part about its Intention and purpose: look at the first part and ask it “Job, for what purpose?” the answer might be something like “Because I want security.” Then ask it, “Security, for what purpose?” the answer might be something like “Because I feel safe.” Now comes the tough part if you’re doing this alone…keep taking the answer and ask “For purpose or intention” until you determine the highest positive intention of the part.

Step Three – Ask the Second part about its intention and purpose, i.e. “Own business, for what purpose?” Continue with the same process as in Step Two. Your main goal is allowing the two parts to agree on a common positive purpose or intention, which might be “peace” in this example. The more you go up in the hierarchy of intentions, the more will you find that the parts agree on their purpose.

Step Four – If you hands haven’t already come together (often they will “mysteriously” float and come tighter) then bring them together: Talk to both parts and tell them that they are both having the same intention and that there is no need for a conflict. If you were doing it right from the beginning you will notice that your hands are coming closer and closer until they touch. If your hands touched each other then hold them together firmly and bring them to your heart. This will send a clear message to your subconscious mind that the conflict was resolved, and so the next time you won’t find that big resistance when you want to make a decision about your career.

One affect after the parts integration is that you won’t remember the conflict and a brand new thought/idea will be there on how to move forward. This is you unconsciousness mind infusing you with personal power.

Parts integration is a powerful tool to help with goal setting, achieving established personal goals and enhancing human performance.

If you would like to experience a Parts Integration for yourself, simply request an introductory consolation.

Please let me know your experience with this NLP technique in the comments below.

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This post is based on the book “Iron Will” by Orison Swett Marden.  I have modified it slightly to reflect the association of iron will mental strengthwith mental strength.

 

His information is still as powerful today as the day he wrote it.  By applying these concepts you will not only enhance your personal development, but reach new levels of personal performance and personal success.

A strong, defiant purpose is many-handed, and lays hold of whatever is near that can serve it; it has a magnetic power that draws to itself whatever is kindred”. – T.T. Munger

What is mental strength but will-power, looked at in a large way, but energy of character?  Energy of will, self-originating force, is the soul of every great character. Where it is, there is life; where it is not, there is faintness, helplessness, and despondency. “Let it be your first study to teach the world that you are not wood and straw; that there is some iron in you, that you are mental strong.” Men who have left their mark upon the world have been men of great and prompt decision. The achievements of mental strength and will-power are almost beyond computation. Scarcely anything seems impossible to the man who can will strongly enough and long enough. One talent with a will behind it will accomplish more than ten without it, as a thimbleful of powder in a bullet and the barrel which will give it direction, will do greater execution than a carload burned in the open air.  

The Wills, The Won’ts and the Can’ts  

There are three kinds of people in the world: The wills, the won’ts, and the can’ts. The first accomplish everything; the second oppose everything; the third fail in everything.     

The shores of fortune, as Foster says, are covered with the stranded wrecks of men of brilliant ability, but who have wanted courage, faith, and decision, and have therefore perished in sight of more resolute but less capable adventurers, who succeeded in making port.  

Were I called upon to express in a word the secret of so many failures  among those who started out with high hopes, I should say they lacked  will-power. They could not half will: and what is a man without a will?  He is like an engine without steam. Genius unexecuted is no more genius than a bushel of acorns is a forest of oaks.  

Will has been called the spinal column of personality. “The will in its relation to life,” says an English writer, “may be compared at once to the rudder and to the steam engine of a vessel, on the confined and related action of which it depends entirely for the direction of its course and the vigor of its movement.”  

Strength of will is the test of a young man’s possibilities. Can he will strong enough, and hold whatever he undertakes with an iron grip? It is the iron grip that takes and holds. What chance is there in this crowding, pushing, selfish, greedy world, where everything is pusher or pushed, for a young man with no will, no grip on life? The man who would forge to the front in this competitive age must be a man of prompt and determined decision.  

A Tailors Needle  

It is in one of Ben Jonson’s old plays: “When I once take the humor of a thing, I am like your tailor’s needle–I go through with it.”  

This is not different from Richelieu, who said: “When I have once taken a resolution, I go straight to my aim; I overthrow all, I cut down all.”  

And in business affairs the counsel of Rothschild is to the same effect:  “Do without fail that which you determine to do.”  

Gladstone’s children were taught to accomplish “to the end” whatever they might begin, no matter how insignificant the undertaking might be.  

Worse Than Rashness  

It is irresolution that is worse than rashness. “He that shoots,” says Felltham, “may sometimes hit the mark; but he that shoots not at all can never hit it. Irresolution is like an ague; it shakes not this nor that limb, but all the body is at once in a fit.”  

The man who is forever twisting and turning, backing and filling, hesitating and dawdling, shuffling and parleying, weighing and balancing, splitting hairs over non-essentials, listening to every new motive which presents itself, will never accomplish anything. But the positive man, the decided man, is a power in the world, and stands for something; you can measure him, and estimate the work that his energy will accomplish.  

Opportunity is coy, is swift, is gone, before the slow, the unobservant, the indolent, or the careless can seize her. “Vigilance in watching  opportunity,” said Phelps, “tact and daring in seizing upon opportunity;  force and persistence in crowding opportunity to its utmost of possible  achievement–these are the martial virtues which must command success.”  “The best men,” remarked Chapin, “are not those who have waited for chances, but who have taken them; besieged the chance; conquered the chance; and made chance the servitor.”  

Is it not possible to classify successes and failures by their various degrees of will-power? A man who can resolve vigorously upon a course of  action, and turns neither to the right nor to the left, though a  paradise tempt him, who keeps his eyes upon the goal, whatever distracts  him, is sure of success.  

Conscious Power  

“Conscious power,” (and I’ll add mental strength) says Melles, “exists within the mind of every one.  Sometimes its existence is unrealized, but it is there. It is there to be developed and brought forth, like the culture of that obstinate but beautiful flower, the orchid. To allow it to remain dormant is to place one’s self in obscurity, to trample on one’s ambition, to smother one’s faculties. To develop it is to individualize all that is best within you, and give it to the world. It is by an absolute knowledge of yourself, the proper estimate of your own value.”  

“There is hardly a reader,” says an experienced educator, “who will not be able to recall the early life of at least one young man whose childhood was spent in poverty, and who, in boyhood, expressed a firm desire to secure a higher education. If, a little later, that desire became a declared resolve, soon the avenues opened to that end. That desire and resolve created an atmosphere which attracted the forces necessary to the attainment of the purpose. Many of these young men will tell us that, as long as they were hoping and striving and longing, mountains of difficulty rose before them; but that when they fashioned their hopes into fixed purposes aid came unsought to help them on the way.”  

Do You Believe in Yourself?

The man without self-reliance and an iron will is the plaything of chance, the puppet of his environment, the slave of circumstances. Are not doubts the greatest of enemies? If you would succeed up to the limit of your possibilities, must you not constantly hold to the belief that you are success-organized, and that you will be successful, no matter what opposes? You are never to allow a shadow of doubt to enter your mind that the Creator intended you to win in life’s battle. Regard every suggestion that your life may be a failure, that you are not made like those who succeed, and that success is not for you, as a traitor, and expel it from your mind as you would a thief from your house.  

There is something sublime in the youth who possesses the spirit of boldness and fearlessness, who has proper confidence in his ability to do and dare.  

The world takes us at our own valuation. It believes in the man who believes in himself, but it has little use for the timid man, the one who is never certain of himself; who cannot rely on his own judgment, who craves advice from others, and is afraid to go ahead on his own account.  

It is the man with a positive nature, the man who believes that he is equal to the emergency, who believes he can do the thing he attempts, who wins the confidence of his fellow-man. He is beloved because he is brave and self-sufficient.  

Those who have accomplished great things in the world have been, as a rule, bold, aggressive, and self-confident. They dared to step out from the crowd, and act in an original way. They were not afraid to be generals.  

There is little room in this crowding, competing age for the timid, vacillating youth. He who would succeed to-day must not only be brave, but must also dare to take chances. He who waits for certainty never wins.  

“The law of the soul is eternal endeavor, That bears the man onward and upward forever.”  

  “A man can be too confiding in others, but never too confident in himself.”  

Never admit defeat or poverty. Stoutly assert your divine right to hold your head up and look the world in the face; step bravely to the front whatever opposes, and the world will make way for you. No one will insist upon your rights while you yourself doubt that you have any.  Believe you were made for the place you fill. Put forth your whole energies. Be awake, electrify yourself; go forth to the task. A young man once said to his employer, “Don’t give me an easy job. I want to handle heavy boxes, shoulder great loads. I would like to lift a big mountain and throw it into the sea,”–and he stretched out two brawny arms, while his honest eyes danced and his whole being glowed with conscious strength.  

The world in its heart admires the stern, determined doer. “The world turns aside to let any man pass who knows whither he is going.” “It is wonderful how even the apparent casualties of life seem to bow to a spirit that will not bow to them, and yield to assist a design, after having in vain attempted to frustrate it.”  

“The man who succeeds,” says Prentice Mulford, “must always in mind or imagination live, move, think, and act as if he gained that success, or he never will gain it.”

“We go forth,” said Emerson, “austere, dedicated, believing in the iron links of Destiny, and will not turn on our heels to save our lives. A book, a bust, or only the sound of a name shoots a spark through the nerves, and we suddenly believe in will. We cannot hear of personal vigor of any kind, great power of performance, without fresh resolution.”

 

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Dec 292010
 
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2011 will be here in a few days….are you ready?  personal success

I want to finish this last Wednesday of 2010 with the final installment on creating a self development plan for personal success and peak personal performance with additional. 

Here is  the link to Part I.

First, I’d like to acknowledge ICA for their help and inspiration with this topic.  Next, I’d like to make a request of you to take sometime alone and seriously contemplate what you want in 2011.

Follow the guidelines in referenced in this post(s) and design your personal self development plan for 2011 so that you can achieve your personal success! 

Coaching and Transfer

One of the reasons that coaching has become so popular in workplaces and businesses is its capacity to provide tangible results, or what is known in adult learning theory as “transfer”; the ability to apply in one context something learnt in another. Mental Strength Coaching has a high level of learning transfer for a number of reasons.

1) It’s Ongoing. Mental Strength Coaching continues over a period of time so learning can be supported, monitored and measured over the time it takes to apply it. I sometimes use “spaced practice” of new skills with my clients. For example, if a client wants to practice having difficult conversations with their supervisor, they could go to a seminar called “Dealing with Difficult People” which would give them the theory of how to have difficult conversations. They may or may not then be able to act on this information. Alternatively they can practice with me many times over a period of time until they have thoroughly embedded the skill.

Coaching also allows my client to leverage more value out of formal and informal learning experiences that occur outside the coaching encounters by providing the opportunity to reflect on these with a skilled listener.

2) It’s Experiential. Coaching draws on the field of experiential education, in particular, Kolb’s theory of adult learning (Kolb, 1984). My clients learn by having an experience, then reflecting on that experience with me, coming up with new insights or ideas, and then going out into the world to apply these new insights. Upon applying new insights, they then have new experiences to learn from. In this way, learning goes on and on in a powerful cycle.

3) It’s Supported. There are some remarkable human beings who self manage their own learning, in the manner outlined by Kolb. Dig into the biography of Mozart or Michelangelo and you will find an extraordinary capacity for self-reflection, goal setting and ongoing development. Coaching provides the support that is needed at each of the steps of a learning cycle, holding us accountable for our own learning and development.

4) It’s Measured. Coaching is data driven. This data might not come in the form of charts or statistics, (although I use evaluation instruments at times). It may come in the form of the observations that I makes about my client’s response to questions. However formal or informal this data gathering is, it is part of the coach’s role to measure the client’s development.

Mental Strength Coaching and Kirkpatrick’s Model

So what does Kirkpatrick’s model have to do with mental strength coaching?

It is important with any learning activity, to include an element of evaluation. We heard earlier about how coaching has a high level of “transfer”. Evaluating the extent to which transfer occurred through a period of coaching is often very powerful for my client and very useful for other stakeholders such as corporate employers. More than this though, a skilled coach can assist the client to evaluate their learning at all four of Kirkpatrick’s levels. This can be done in a very formal way using an evaluation instrument, or it can be done more informally, as part of the coaching dialogue.

Reaction – It is important at the beginning of my coaching relationship that I establish what it is my client hopes to gain from an agreed period of coaching. As the period progresses, I regularly check to see whether those expectations are being met. I do this by listening and asking questions of my client. Some examples of questions that I ask are:

  • You stated early on that you wanted to get X out of our coaching sessions. How can I structure our next session to make sure that happens?
  • What did you learn from today’s session? How does that fit with the things you said you wanted to learn as part of the coaching experience?

These types of questions all help the coach and client evaluate the clients learning at the “reaction” level. They help the coach to build rapport with the client and to make sure that the client’s initial motivation is being sustained through the coaching experience.

Learning – My coaching process usually includes an analysis of the client’s strengths and areas that my client wishes to grow in. My client and I then attempt to use the client’s strengths as a platform to build on. This development of skills and abilities can then be measured against the initial skills outline, as my client builds on their strengths. I emphatically support this process by acknowledging skill development against this list.

Over time, I encourage and support my client to measure and acknowledge their own learning. This can be done formally with a skills assessment instrument, or more informally through a free-flowing dialogue. I will offer feedback when I notice a change in attitude in my client and acknowledge when I see that my client has developed a new skill. An example of this type of feedback would be: “I remember when you first came. You said you wanted to know how to manage a performance review. The way you are describing it to me now, shows that you have a strong understanding of how to do this.”

Behavior – Through questioning and discussion, I am able to uncover not only what my client has learnt in a particular period, but how this learning has altered their behavior and personal performance. Coaching is action oriented. While many learning activities do not require action, coaching does. I and other coaches need to ‘enthuse’ our client into action and then acknowledge them for their achievements.

I often acknowledge the behavior changes that I perceive within the coaching environment. For example, “You speak with such clarity about your goals. Well done.” I also acknowledge behavior changes that are demonstrated outside the coaching environment, in my client’s day to day life.

Results – Finally, as part of the mental strength coaching experience, my clients will develop goals for themselves; tangible examples of what their learning and development will look and feel like. Part of my responsibility is to support my client to be accountable for these goals and to celebrate milestones along the way. Coaching is outcome oriented. It is part of my role to support and acknowledge these outcomes- learning that results in positive life changes. It is the ultimate goal of coaching!!

Learning Through Coaching

One of the most important aspects for me in being a coach is living a coaching lifestyle. For me, a good coach “walks the talk” by sharing the passion for learning their clients. Part of the coaches learning journey is to learn how to be a better coach. This includes seeking, accepting and acting on feedback from clients, and making learning goals. I’m able to support my clients on their learning journey, not because I have a theoretical understanding of lifelong learning, but because I am on a learning journey of my own!

References

Kirkpatrick, D.L. (1994). Evaluating Training Programs: The Four Levels. San Francisco, CA: Berrett-Koehler.

Kolb, D. 1984, Experiential Learning. Prentice Hall, Englewood Cliffs, NJ

My e-book, “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” can assist you tremendously in discovering and developing your own self development plan.  If you’d like to explore this further with personal attention,  request your Introductory Consultation.  

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Achieving peak personal performance and personal success begins with a mental strength mindset and empoweringpersonal success beliefs.  Personal success starts in the mind and finishes with peak performance…taking massive action. 

This is one in a series of mental strength tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach you peak performance, personal success by enhancing your personal development.

I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions.  The intention of these ‘sessions’ is for you to write the questions in a success journal reflect on them and answer them.

This series of posts is for YOU!  If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To help you evolve your thinking from ego based to soul/spirit based.  To assist you in raising your level of awareness and advance the belief that self actualization is a more gifted approach to peak performance

Let’s Get Started:

Consider the concept of competing vs. creating. What’s the difference?  What are the similarities?

I’d like to encourage you to redirect your thoughts of beating your “competition” (actually there is no competition) to thoughts of creating peak personal performance results.  I’d like to help you realize that while competition is healthy, fun and often energizing, it’s usually a waste of mental strength energy that could be better invested in focusing on creating peak personal performances and superior personal success.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

  • Do you believe competition is the best way to improve your personal performance?
  • What motivates you more, beating your competition or achieving personal success?
  • What percentage of your time do you invest your thinking in beating your competition vs. improving your personal performance?

Unsupportive Beliefs About

  • Competition is the highest form or motivation.
  • Success is being #1.
  • Show me a good loser and I’ll show you a loser.

Mental Strength Beliefs About

  • Creation is one of the highest forms of supportive mental strength thinking.
  • Creating solutions are the key to achieving personal success.
  • Competition is ego based, creating solutions is spirit based.

Outrageous Questions:                               

  • Would you rather be right or succeed?
  • Which is more important to you: beating an opponent or creating personal success by developing problem solving skills through creativity?
  • Are you more an ego or spirit based thinker?

Reflective Questions:

  • How can you strength your creativity muscle to become a better mental strength thinker and problem solver?
  • How often do you sue your creative powers to solve complex problems?
  • Do you think more about winning or solving problems?

Mental Strength Coaching:

My job, as your virtual coach, is to build your belief that creativity is the secret to personal success, and when you focus you mental strength energy on improving this skill, beating your perceived competition will take care of itself.  Think about the concept that the more time you spend in spirit-based consciousness the more creative you will become.  It’s critical to be aware when your ego is dominating your thinking and to know when and how to switch to spirit-based thinking instantly.   Focusing on thoughts of love and gratitude will help you make this shift in a matter of seconds.

Final Thought

Work on this mental strength skill and transcend the average person’s obsession with competition.  This can be one of the most magnificent gifts you can give to yourself.

While competition has motivational value and you can be effective and enjoyable, you’ll want to understand there is a higher level and purpose that manifest better personal results.

If you’d like to get started on developing radical mental strength for personal development, personal empowerment or personal success, request your Introductory Consultation.

Also, “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” is a fantastic e-book that helps you develop awareness, consciousness and mental strength with a step-by-step plan.

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Achieving peak personal performance and personal success begins with a mental strength mindset and empowering personal successbeliefs.  Personal success starts in the mind and finishes with peak performance…taking massive action. 

This is one in a series of mental strength tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach you peak performance, personal success by enhancing your personal development.

I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions.  The intention of these ‘sessions’ is for you to write the questions in a success journal reflect on them and answer them.

This series of posts is for YOU!  If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To help you understand the power of acquiring and developing the mental strength attribute of absolute confidence in yourself.  To achieve peak personal performance one must develop the belief that absolute self-confidence is a mindset created by thinking, felling and programming and not dependent on an external event or circumstance.   When you develop absolute rock-solid confidence your external circumstances WILL change. 

Let’s Get Started:

I’m wondering if you’ve ever noticed the difference between the language that an average personal uses and the language of a mentally strong individual. Thoughts and the language it produces has an immediate and critical impact on ones self-confidence.  I’m sure you’ll start to notice now won’t you?

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

  • On a scale of 1 to 9, 9 being the highest, how self-confident are you?
  • Do you believe absolute confidence is something you’re born with or something you learn?
  • Who are the three most self-confident people you know and what do you feel created their confidence?

Unsupportive Beliefs about Self-Confidence

  • Confidence is something you’re born with.  You either have it or you don’t.
  • Personal Success is the only thing that creates self-confidence.
  • Absolute self-confidence is arrogance, and people won’t like me if they think I’m arrogant.

Mental Strength Beliefs about Self-Confidence

  • Absolute self-confidence is self initiated and self created.
  • Self-confidence has nothing to do with whether you’re ‘winning’ or ‘loosing’. It’s resides on the inside…it’s a mindset.
  • Self-confidence is a decision you make about how YOU see yourself.

Outrageous Questions:

  • Would your three closest friends say you have absolute self-confidence?
  • Do your results reflect absolute self-confidence?
  • Dows your thinking, actions and habits really reflect absolute self-confidence?

Reflective Questions:

  • On a scale of 1 to 9, 9 being the highest, how would you rate your self-confidence?
  • What would it take for you to develop greater self-confidence?
  • What has contributed the most to the self-confidence you have now?

Mental Strength Coaching:

I encourage you to begin to monitor the way you use self-talk and what you say to others.  Self talk is the single most powerful proactive reprogramming technique.  Listen to mental strength programming CD’s and audios in the area of your life you need the biggest assistance.  If it’s about money take a look at:

http://warriormindcoach.com/recommends/T-Harv-Eker.html

If it’s about weight loss here’s a great program:

http://www.warriormindcoach.com/blog/mental-strength-for-weight-loss-and-fitness/ 

Another tool to use is visualization.  See yourself exuding absolute self-confidence in a situation that is currently creating some uncertainty and anxiety. As your visualization program becomes a habit, your subconscious mind will begin to see the internal representation as ‘real.’  Visualization combined with positive self-talk will serve as the foundation for developing a mental strength belief system.

Final Thought

The development of self-confidence is critical for the achievement of personal success and peak personal performance.  It’s both and active and passive process.  The active part is done through self talk, visualization and other mental strength techniques.

The passive part occurs when you begin to experience uncommon success.  Most people wait for personal success, but as your mental strength coach, my job is to help you understand that to get the results you’ve never gotten you’re going to have to become someone you’ve never been.

If you’d like to get started on developing radical mental strength for personal development, personal empowerment or personal success request your Introductory Consultation.

Also, “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” is a fantastic e-book that helps you develop awareness, consciousness and mental strength with a step-by-step plan.

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Achieving peak personal performance and personal success begins with a mental strength mindset and empowering mental strengthbeliefs.  Personal success starts in the mind and finishes with peak performance…taking massive action. 

This is one in a series of mental strength tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach you peak performance, personal success by enhancing your personal development.

I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions.  The intention of these ‘sessions’ is for you to write the questions in a success journal reflect on them and answer them.

This series of posts is for YOU!  If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To encourage you to suspend and to put on hold, your disbeliefs and doubts around the ideas, thoughts and philosophies that have and will be presenting in these virtual sessions.

Let’s Get Started:

I’d like to think about how tightly at times you hold on to old beliefs like a drowning man holds on to a life preserver. We are sometimes so afraid of letting go for fear of “drowning.”  When often by letting go we can swim to a ship that will take us to exactly where we want to go. 

The cool thing about beliefs is you can try them on…like a suit or jacket.  If, after awhile, it doesn’t fit you can put it back.  This type of mental strength approach to open mindedness is spirit-based consciousness.  By being open and aware that there are new and different beliefs that can possibly change your entire life is the start of peak personal performance and personal success.  

The thoughts and ideas that I have been expressing…and will continue to express are based in solid research and personal experience.  I’m only asking you to “play” for a bit with them.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

  • Do you consider yourself to open-minded?
  • Are you more ego driven or spirit driven?
  • Are you willing to consider new ideas that have produced peak performance results?

Unsupportive Beliefs about Open Mindedness

  • I know what I know.  I’m not looking for new ways of thinking
  • I already know what to do; it’s just a matter of doing it
  • I’m already an educated person; I don’t need help

Mental Strength Beliefs about Open Mindedness

  • I’m always open to new ideas that move me closer to my vision of personal success.
  • I’ll listen to anyone who can show me a better way of doing things.
  • I always check my ego at the door.  I don’t care who gets the credit.  All I desire is the result.

Outrageous Questions:

  • Has ego-based thinking hurt you in the past?
  • How has open minded thinking helped you in the past?
  • What’s more important: achieving your vision of personal success or feeding your ego?

Reflective Questions:

  • Do you think it would help you to consider the ideas of other successful people?
  • Is it possible someone has found a better way to get the results you want?
  • How can I help you put what you know aside for a while and consider new ideas that have the potential to help you reach peak personal performance?

Mental Strength Coaching:

What I’m attempting to accomplish here is to encourage you to open your mind for the sake of getting the results you want faster and more efficiently. Once you’re accomplished this, please go back to the previous posts, read them and consider them as new ways of thinking. Remember the beliefs you have a probably as old as you are.  They’ve been re-stated, corroborated and reinforced for decades. Breaking limiting beliefs down can takes time, but with persistence and the help of mental strength coaching, NLP, Time Empowerment® and even hypnosis the change can be easy and life lasting. 

Final Thought

Again, think of this session as a suggestion to try on a new jacket.  When you’re presented with a new idea, no matter how small or radical, ask yourself, “I wonder how trying this idea on will help me reach my peak performance? Without an open mind it’s difficult to increase your level of conscious awareness.  Without an open mind you’re doomed to relive all your old beliefs that have been programmed into your mind and get the same results you’re currently dissatisfied with.

If you’d like to get started on developing radical mental strength for personal development, peak personal performance or personal success request your Introductory Consultation.

Also, “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” is a fantastic e-book that helps you develop awareness, consciousness and mental strength with a step-by-step plan.

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  • “Are you prepared to make a choice?”
  • “Once the choice is made, are you courageous enough to start?”
  • “Will you commit to finishing what you start?”

 

What do these questions have in common? 

A willingness to change.

As I mentioned in a previous post, How to Meet Your Potential, today is practice for tomorrow, often times habits and beliefs can have a powerful hold on our progress, and it can seem like they’ll never go.

I want you to really….I mean really contemplate this next sentence.

If you don’t change your beliefs at their origin you are automatically programmed to relive your past.

Sure, you can use willpower to temporarily change a habit, but even willpower has a limit.  Then sooner or later the old programs that have run your life will take over and you’ll slowly, very slowly you’ll start to creep back to the way you were.

Don’t believe me?  Take a look at your past 10 years…how much has dramatically changed?   If you’re lucky your life situation might have improved by 10%, and most likely, not all areas of your life.

You see, willingness is the key to change and change is required for new personal success and peak personal performance

It takes mental strength to honestly answer the questions – Are you willing to have what you desire? Are you willing to let go of your old way of doing or thinking? Some people ask “Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want?” It’s really not a matter of doing whatever it takes, that’s a byproduct of willingness to explore other beliefs and habits for living.

If you’re like me and really enjoy adventures, here’s an interesting affirmation to try on for size: “I am willing that my present and future be totally unlike my past.”

Again, willingness is the key.

OK, what are you willing to reexamine, question and change so that you can achieve your personal success?   Let me know in the comments below.

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