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Mental Strength Tip #138: Support Structure and Personal Success

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May 062013

Welcome back to another Mental Strength Tip!

Personal development is essential to live a life of power, purpose and passion….with perseverance. Personal development is about know how to full use all of your four personal resources; physical, emotional, spiritual and mental.

The mental aspect of personal development requires mental strength and mindset of empowering beliefs that will instill the feeling of self-empowerment.

Reaching your personal goals, achieving personal success and exceeding your human potential starts in your mind…and finishes with taking inspired and massive action.

This is one in a series of virtual personal coaching and mental strength tips to help kick-start your week. It is intended to create self-empowerment and inspire you to take action so that you can reach your personal goals and personal success.

I take one mental strength tips and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct coaching questions. The intention of this virtual personal coaching session is for you to write and answer these questions in your success journal and then reflect on them to gain insight on yourself, your dreams and what’s holding you back.

These series of posts are for YOU!

If I’m not able to be your live personal coach, then I highly recommend picking up a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.” It’s a book that will take you through the exact process to take back control of your thoughts so that you can live a life a power, purpose and passion with perseverance!

You can grab your copy now by going HERE.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To encourage you to build and use a support teak to provide a mental oasis on the way to creating a life of power, purpose and passion!

Let’s Get Started:

It’s hard to live in this world and achieve all the things you want to achieve. The best thing you can do is to make sure you have a lot of tools available to help support your dreams. This network of support can make all the difference in whether you succeed or fail.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

What role does a support system play in your pursuit of success?
Building an emotional support team is a sign of ___? (fill in the blank)
What role has the emotion support of others played in your life?

Unsupportive Beliefs about a Support System

Emotional support is for weak people.
Emotional support is for unstable people.
I don’t need a support system to succeed.

Mental Strength Beliefs about a Support System

Your support team is your emotional pit stop.
Support isn’t a necessity, it’s a strategy.
Utilizing a support system gives you an emotional oasis.

Outrageous Questions:

If you were using a support system more often would you be moving toward your vision at a more consistent pace?
What limiting beliefs would you have to change in order to embrace a support system?
How could you use a support system more effectively in the next 90 days?

Reflective Questions:

Are you allowing yourself adequate time to recharge yourself emotionally?
What activity could you plan with your support team in the next 30 days that help recharge yourself?
On a scale of 1-9, 9 being most, how often do you utilize your support system and team?

Mental Strength Coaching:

Having a support system is incredibly important if you want to get anywhere in life. You can only do so much on your own so you’ll want to make sure to surround yourself with others. You’re not limited in your options, so you’re sure to reach your goals as soon as possible.

Final Thought

The very first on your ranking of support should be family. Family members are the number one method of support because they know where you’re coming from. They also love you and want to help you do everything you want to do in life. (And if they don’t, they should!)

Each family member serves a different purpose in your life. A mother or father might nurture you and pad your falls. A child will help you to see the reasons why you’re working so hard. A spouse can help you in all that you do. They are usually your number one supporters.

Even though family is great you’ll also want to include your friends. While they may not know you as well as family (or they might know you better than family in some cases!), they can still add a lot to your support system. Friends are helpful because they might even have the same goals that you have. For example, if you’re exercising you can call a friend up to come join you.

Friends don’t even have to live in the same town that you do. In this day and age more and more people are making friends on the Internet. Location is definitely not an issue when you consider the Internet lifestyle. Even if you’re going through a particularly difficult time there’s probably someone, somewhere going through the same thing.

Joining online forums and chat groups can do you a lot of good in this case. Getting things off of your chest can feel great. This is even true when you don’t know the people at the other end of the computer screen. In fact, developing such a wide network of support can help to load you with all the help you’ll ever need.

If you want to include even more support in your network of success you can always join a program. There are different programs out there for everything under the sun. This includes anything from weight loss to money management. These programs can be found in your local town as well as online.

Of course, when you’re considering support networks you can’t forget yourself. You alone know yourself the best. Keeping a journal can be a great way to organize your thoughts and develop your own methods of support. Don’t forget to write in your journal each and every day so that you’re able to keep a record of everything you do to reach your goals

Get started today on creating a support system and request your Introductory Consultation by going HERE.

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Personal Transformation for a Life of Power and Purpose

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Apr 192013

You only have to browse through the shelves of any bookstore (even Amazon) these days to see that people today are very interested in personal transformation. You have all sorts of books for improving or even changing people and their lives for the better.

It’s no secret that people are longing to live a life of power, purpose and passion!

Many of these books promise to help you be become emotionally happy. Books that promise a happier you in so many steps and books that help you to explore your hidden capabilities.

But is there really what personal transformation is about?

Personal transformation refers to the overall change in a person’s attitude, outlook, self-image, capacities, directions and actualization. It is a metamorphosis that can begin dramatically or through a person’s gradual realization that he or she can indeed grow toward a different path.

How the Process Begins

Sometimes the change begins with a dilemma or a crisis or a loss that forces people to take stock of themselves and the world they live in. This puts them in a position where they need to redefine themselves and their environment after seeing everything with new eyes. As they cope with challenges that confront them, they are forced to seek inner resources. Through this they discover new aptitudes, uncover new abilities and develop new plans for living. A new dynamic is established – one that affirms and cements the transformation – when people meet new goals and conquer problems successfully. Sometimes people have to go through pain and grief to find out what is personal transformation.

Some people embark on their road to change with less drama, gradually gaining an awareness of the desire to understand and improve themselves and their surroundings. Sometimes this comes from a positive environment and at other times, school and other learning sources provide the stimulus to set the process in motion.

Ingredients for Positive Transformation

Once the stimulus has been received, certain ingredients must come into play for transformation to be constructive and positive. Change can happen to many people but these ingredients impact the depth and quality of change which will determine the essence of what is personal transformation.

Critical reflection is vital to make change positive and productive. This involves trying to make sense of what has happened and it means looking for answers about the personal issues that have arisen. Critical reflection is a sincere search for what has led to the current state; an examination of cause and effect relationships. It means moving on from seeking who to blame.

Discovering and exploring options for the future is part of the process. This is when the person becomes aware of the possibility for changing their reality through abilities and powers that may have been untried in the past. It means going through task-oriented problem solving until issues are resolved. For example, the person who wants to become more financially competent may begin with tasks like balancing a checkbook or understanding a financial statement.

A shift in the fundamental beliefs through which the individual understands and draw inferences about the community and the world he or she lives in. In everyday terms, this boils down to a realization that certain things are permissible and even good. For example, a career woman may realize for the first time that it is okay to refuse to perform tasks that are supposed to be the responsibility of others. This strikes at the belief that a nice person and a good co-worker should please people – a belief that the person may have espoused.

A resolution towards making a new set of plans for the next chapter in life. After conflict and new learning have changed self-image and worldview, transformation becomes imminent with the forming of plans to build a different path for living.

People who go through crises and emerge from them often want become different from what they used to be. This is when the term “reinventing oneself” is often heard and it bodes well for personal transformation because the litmus test of change is when behavior is altered.

Personal transformation takes place through a process that is radical, internal and rational. Most of all, it is one that encompasses the way a person thinks and feels; how he sees the world and himself; what he does henceforth and his behavior. It is often a difficult change to make but it is very much worth the effort it takes in order to live a life of power, purpose and passion!

Start your personal transformation today by picking up a copy of Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.

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Soul Spelunking – A Journey to Wholeness

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May 012012

All that you are is actually a culmination of who you were, basically a result of what is now behind you.

Yes, you heard me correctly.

The bigger question is, have you been able to understand exactly how to accept who you really are?

People from all the ages have attempted to resolve this question. Many seek solace; others look for the guidance of a mentor, spiritual leader, coach or guru.

I’d like to share a small bit of my understanding of how to start to reconcile what no longer is and being able to integrate your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual energy.

This topic is so vast that I’ll only take a small look at the integration of the physical and the spiritual in this post.

A big part of this assimilation is self-acceptance, acceptance of you and your shadow self. It is a large part of being able to discover and then move forward towards fulfilling your life’s purpose.

If you’re not able to truly accept all of you, it will indeed be a challenge to face all that is before you, which is a reflection of what’s inside you.

It would of course be much easier to simply stay where you are, not seek, not change and not transform into the potential you have inside.

If you decide to stay where you are and how you are you won’t be able to live a complete and full life…one filled with power, purpose and passion!

You really only have two choices:

Go backwards.
Move forward.

You may be thinking I’m just going to stay where I am. But there is no “standing still” in nature, either something is growing or it’s dying.

The same goes for us, ether we are growing mental, physically, emotionally and spiritually, or we are dying in these areas.

The perception of staying where you are is actually giving up on all you desire to accomplish…your personal goals and personal success. It’s thinking that you have no life purpose and you are here simply to exist.

So how do you accept ALL of you?

How do you reconcile the gap between where you have been and where you want to go with you standing in-between these points?

It is simple, yet it is not always easy. It requires what I call Soul Spelunking.

Soul Spelunking is the process of climbing deep into the depths of your soul to find all the “good” and “bad” you have hidden away. This process helps you recover and bring to light the treasures you have hidden away for so long.

It necessitates you reaching through and beyond everything you have ever though you knew. It requires that you not listen to ego chatter which only seeks to disempower you.

Soul Spelunking requires you to be prepared to not only let go of everything you have come to know, but to accept those aspects that are not known. In a sense it’s complete surrender of what is and placing all your faith and trust in knowing that you are so much more than you think you are. You have untapped veins of potential deep inside you that have been there since you were born.

This process takes healing, which requires you to take action, hopefully with the assistance of a qualified individual.

Responsibility for where and who you are, as well as, where and who you are not, is yours and yours alone!

If you find it difficult to trust what is unfolding in your life and is beyond your understanding than Soul Spelunking is necessary to help smooth out the road you are on.

The key to self-empowerment starts with self-acceptance and self-acceptance comes from the exploration and realization of ALL the aspects you hold deep inside.

Trust is a key ingredient to accepting and knowing that you are on the path for which you were intended, the path of discovering and fulfilling your life’s purpose.

This trust is about releasing disempowering emotions life anger, sadness, fear and guilt as well as enhancing your mental strength to combat thoughts having anything to do with negativity or lack.

It is about being responsible for your personal success, for being a conduit of empowerment for others. It’s about being a “hollow bone” for the Great Spirit to flow through. It’s about being comfortable with being uncomfortable.

It is about you being the change you want to see in the world.

Don’t allow someone else’s negativity, disapproval or their self-limiting thoughts of lack dictate how you travel your path. Your path is yours, it is unique to you. You are unlike any other human in this realm and yet you are the same. Who you are is who you were….who you can be is pure potential. And in that potential are unlimited possibilities!

In truth you are whole, complete and perfect you simply need to reclaim and re-member your pieces you have buried deep in your soul.

It’s time now for you to do some Soul Spelunking…are you ready?

If you’d like to start on your Soul Spelunking adventure take a look at The Warriors Quest and then contact me so we can discuss that adventure in more detail

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7 Falsehoods Of A Life Purpose

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Apr 032012

I could have also called this post “What You Must Know to Live a Life of Power, Purpose and Passion with Perseverance.”

Well here we are…the last days of life on earth…or is it?

I’m sure you’ve heard that on December 21, 2012 is the end of the Long Count Mayan calendar. This is also supposed to be end of time. Of course no REALLY knows what this means or what WILL actually happen. So how about if we looked at this as a great adventure!

In the book “2012 and the End of the World” , Matthew Restall and Amara Solari (the author’s) describe Western civilization’s expansion across the Atlantic brought apocalyptic ideas which thrive in North America. And when a predicted apocalypse didn’t materialize, doomsday predictions didn’t stop, they simply moved from one end-of-world date to the next, i.e. New Years of 2000.

The authors explain “In recent decades no year has escaped prophecies of doom; regardless of when you are reading these words, you will find online a prediction that the end is months, if not days, away.”

One of my morning affirmations I repeat while doing my meditative walk is “I create the energy that supports the manifestation of my goals.”

Beside entertainment value, I have no use for people, news reports, idea, and energy that does not support me in the creation of my goals and dreams, this includes any doomsday predictions!

I have the responsibility to either remove myself from the non-supportive energy or assist them (if they are a client) to shift their focus and concentration to a more supportive consciousness that will help them manifest what they want.

Yes, the world we live in is certainly changing, and lots of things ARE coming to an end, they must…it’s part of life. And although 12-12-12 may signify the end, my projection is that is just the end of 2012 and we’ll all move one into the next year of our life.

So, since you are here and now (if you aren’t here you wouldn’t be reading this) and will be moving forward with your life…whether you like it or not, the most important and fulfilling thing you can be do is decide to live a life of power, purpose and passion!

To help you with this I’m going to go over 7 falsehood of a life purpose. During The Warriors Quest intensive we cover these deeper and for now I hope they at least start you thinking.

This list is by no means inclusive and most of the points I’ve realized through research of ancient texts, working with others, and through my own life experience.

Living a life of power, purpose and passion is about identify that one passion that you want to share with the world and allowing the desire to do so “inform” you what to do.

This is basically listening to your Soul.

Yes, this will cause the “death” of the old you and it will give birth to a new you! This “new” you will have a fire for living, as zest for life and commitment to your future.

You have important work to do in the short time you are here; it’s essential that you get your life focused on your passions so you can engage them on a daily basis.

When you align your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual “bodies” along with our three “selves” (ego, Soul and Self) you will manifest abundance in your environment and relationships. How you spend your time each day and the choices you make will all be informed by and support your highest good in order to fulfill your life’s purpose.

When this starts happening it feels oh soooo good…you are in flow. You will be finally on your path and doing what you are here to do.

Just to let you know that your purpose is NOT a destination, it is something you life everyday. Your passions will have a material aspect to them and the realization of them will probably not happen overnight, and that is all part of the adventure!

However, when approached consciously, things can happen relatively quickly. Moment by moment saying YES to your passions and what is on your path, and ignoring what is not on your path, begins to get you aligned. Your life force energy flows into your dreams and you begin to manifest them.

To help with your internal alignment of your power, purpose and passions below are seven common falsehoods that might be holding you back from fully realizing who you are:

Falsehood #1: “It’s too late for me” or “I’m too old and missed my chance.”

Reality: It’s NEVER too late. If you’re still here, you are here for a reason (nothing exists without one) and you have time. Get on with it.

Falsehood #2: “Leap and ‘my wings will grow’ on the way down” or “Leap and a net will appear.”

Reality: Plan, plan, and plan, then leap and then you’ll grow wings on the way down. Do not expect them to grow by themselves – they won’t. With regards to the net, put your own net there, then leap. Again, don’t expect one to magically appear for you; better to put it there yourself.

Falsehood #3: “Follow your passion, do what you love and the money will follow.”

Reality: No it won’t. If that happens for some people, it’s out of pure luck, because this is NOT a law. Manifesting money, like manifesting anything else in life, requires focus and competence. To the extent you focus on manifesting money and build your competence in that arena, while at the same time doing what you love, it’s quite likely that money will flow from your efforts.

Also, I don’t know if you’re like me but I love and am passionate about a lot of things. Which one should I follow? I came to realize that we have personal passions and passions we feel compelled to share with the world. When you know the difference, you’ll know which to create a living from.

Falsehood #4: “You can be anything you want.”

Reality: No you can’t, well you can, but when you are aligned completely, your “wanting” will take care of itself. You are no longer the “kid in the candy shop.” You know exactly what you want. This is a self-inflicted torture thinking you can be anything you want. Don’t let the wanting drive your decisions; let your alignment inform you.

Falsehood #5: “The purpose of life is material success” or “If one is successful in the material area of life, then they are successful in all areas of life.”

Reality: For me the purpose of life is Soulful evolution. This is the constant expansion of your capabilities to be and manifest who you are. This is typically achieved by overcoming adversity and challenge, barriers both real and perceived. Manifesting material goods is a byproduct your Soul challenge. You can attract only what you are capable of “holding.” The more you expand yourself the more you can hold.

Falsehood #6: “You need formal education, training, and credentials to make a difference.”

Reality: You need competence to make a difference. This is developed and obtained in many ways, of which formal education and training is only one. In addition, when you are on the path of your authentic purpose, you do not need “others” to validate you.

If you’ve done your Soul work to become the open channel for your life force, then the Universe is the only credentials and authority you need. And believe me you “feel” this…when you get this…deep down…others will instinctively know this as well.

People will get that your power comes from the Universe and not from external credentials or letters after your name. God, Universal Intelligence, Great Spirit, Source Energy, what ever label you use, is the most powerful credential there is.

When you have aligned your four “bodies” and three “selves” your power, purpose and passion will be the only “authority” you will ever need.

Falsehood#7: “If anything is going to happen, it’s up to me to make it happen.”

Reality: There are two parts to this. The first is really…I’m really how much is in your control? You may have the illusion of control, but if you look closer, the only thing you really have control over is yourself.

Part two is that Non-local intelligence has infinite organizing power and can make things happen far beyond what your physical self may be able to think about, much less orchestrate. The Universe unfolds things when the intent or desire is aligned, that is authentic. Your job is to align your “bodies” and “selves” so that when you live your life of power, purpose and passion that manifestations of your desires will be effortless.

Finding your passion by aligning your four bodies, three selves and then living YOUR life of power, passion, purpose with preference is focus of The Warriors Quest. It helps you get out of your own way, find what gives you energy and removes that which does not.

Try this:

A very simple way to identify what is aligned with your life purpose is to look at what gives you energy vs. what takes it. Those things that give you energy, that you look forward to and really enjoy, are most likely aligned with your life purpose. Those things that you dread and resist are most likely not aligned with your life purpose.

Take out a piece of paper right now, draw a line down the middle and label the left column “Gives energy to me” and label the right column “Takes energy from me.” Then write down all the things you do each day, putting them in the column that best represents how you feel before, during, and after that activity.

If you feel mostly positively energized, put it in the “Gives energy to me” column. If you feel mostly negatively drained, put it in the “Takes energy from me” column.

Then look back over the columns.

See if you notice any patterns – are there common themes you see regarding the things that give you energy? Are there common themes for the things that take energy from you?

Are the things that give you energy done come from a place of love and the things that do not give you energy come from a place of fear and obligation?

Pay attention!

Now choose one or more things on the list of items that give you energy and decide right now to do MORE of those things. Then, choose things on the list of items that take energy from you and decide to do LESS of those things.

Great job! You’re one step closer to living a life of fulfillment and meaning…a life of power, purpose and passion!

If you’d like to get started on living your authentic life, consider participating in The Warriors Quest. You go HERE to find out more or download a complimentary e-book HERE.

You deserve to live a full and meaningful life…start today!

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8 Mental Strength Principles For Finding Your Life Purpose

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Mar 062012

I recently conducted another Warriors Quest, and again my client experienced tremendous results!

The Warriors Quest is a 2 ½ day intensive where I work with one person in a private setting to help find, confirm or at least gain clarity on their life’s purpose, vision and mission.

Every single person who has participated in The Warriors Quest has left feeling that their life now has power, purpose and passion.

There is no right way to find your path in life and The Warriors Quest is the way that I have found to be the most effective.

Today I’m going to go over some other ways to help you find your path in life.

Have you ever seen the Great Redwood forests in Northern California? Or at least seen pictures of them?

Being fortunate to live here in Northern California they are in my “backyard” and I have the opportunity to visit them often. These trees are the tallest and oldest living “creatures” on our planet!

Some are taller than 350 feet, and over 2,000 years old.

Every one of those huge and breathtaking trees started out as a small tiny seed. This seed is so small you can literally hold in the palm of your hand. Yet in that small seed is the entire blueprint for the manifestation and full-self-expression of these amazing living organisms.

Just like these trees, you also have your own unique and magnificent blueprint inside you.

Below are eight mental strength principles for helping you find your path in life…your life’s purpose. These are principles that I and others have used when working with individuals in gaining clarity in their life.

If you can’t join me in a Warrior’s Quest, then I hope these eight principles will help you gain some insight on your life’s purpose and finding your own blueprint of magnificence so that you can live a life of power, purpose and passion with perseverance.

Principle #1: Understand that you do have a purpose. Each and every living thing has a purpose and each every single person has a purpose. We are born with it. It’s part of our DNA. Others may have a similar purpose, but yours’ is unique to you and the methods of demonstrating and bringing it into the world are unique to you and you only.

Principle #2: It’s your job to find it. No one else can do this for you no matter how much you may wish that someone else will tell you what it is. Yes, others can help you pull your gifts out of you and help you discover your path, but ultimately it is up to you. When you actively participate in your own vision quest you will attract the resources required to uncover your purpose.

Principle #3: 80/20 rule. 80% of the population don’t care or don’t want to care about what they have to offer. 20% do care and these 20% create the biggest changes in the world. You can be part of that change or you can float around like a cork on the ocean. The major hurdle for most people wanting to find their path is the perceived responsibility. Once they step on their path and get a glimpse there’s no turning back and this frightens most people. The warrior embraces his/her path and walks it with courage and understands how they and their gifts can make a meaningful contribution to society.

Principle #4: Not every “passion” is your purpose. I’m sure you’ve heard many people in books; videos and seminars tell you to follow your passion, that this is your purpose. Well I don’t know about you, but I have many passions, I don’t have just one. And mine are quite diverse. For a longtime I became extremely frustrated trying to find ways to tie them all together or pick just one to follow. Then it hit me…we have passions for us and we have one passion that we are to share with the world. When know the difference…this makes all the difference in your world.

Principle #5: From a personal success perspective your “customers” will show up after you do. There are groups of people who are looking for what you have to offer….your gifts. They will not find you until you find you. You must show up first. You must take a stand, draw a line in that sand and say “This is who I am, this is what I have to offer!” When you make a deceleration to the world, you set in motion powerful forces that conspire in your favor. You have to be courageous, bold and committed to your path. When you are, you will attract the individuals that have been searching for you. And this will aid you in achieving your personal success.

Principle #6: You will be happy, successful and satisfied with your life to the extent you embrace your authentic purpose and inner blueprint – AND – you will be unhappy, unfulfilled, dissatisfied and frustrated to the extent you do not. In fact, I would go so far as to say that we must create and manifest our life purpose or we will die…at least on the inside. Individuals that are resisting their life purpose will end up making themselves sick; they are literally “killing themselves” because they are not living on purpose and expressing and channeling their Life Force in the way that is unique to them.

There an ancient book well over 2,000 years old that says “a people without a vision will perish.” Your vision (purpose) is part of you and when you deny it you deny and reject a part of you. This is the part that makes you feel alive with power, passion and purpose.

Principle #7: It’s not your job to question your purpose; it’s your job to engage and live it. Given the reality in which you find yourself when you discover your authentic purpose, it may seem ridiculous, unimportant, impossible, or perhaps “not for you.” But this is a destiny pre-chosen for you, most likely even by you, for your life, and it cannot be changed. And as the Borg say “resistance is futile”.

Resisting your calling is like the Great Redwood saying “No, no, no, I want to be a tomato!” This is ludicrous! The sooner you discover and embrace your purpose, the happier you’ll be. Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead…charge like a rhino!

Principle #8: You must nurture your purpose. Your purpose will ebb and flow throughout the course of your life. At times it will be strong, at others weak, and even at times impossible to distinguish. But through it all is YOU, and your job is to continually nurture your purpose. Keep fanning the flames and know that it is your job to build the bridge from the invisible to the visible, to make your vision a reality in the here and now.

That is the game of life, to find your purpose, create your vision and embody your mission.

TRY THIS: Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and ask yourself, your deepest, your “Truest Self “Am I really living my authentic life purpose?” And listen to what comes up.

Write down what comes up. Most of us know if we’re truly living our higher purpose. If you get confirmation that you are on the right path…congratulations, your one of the 20%, now go out there and charge!

If you are not on the right path, and believe me you know it…you feel it deep inside, like something’s missing. This something is often equated with an unsociable hunger that never stops.

Is this feels like you, spend a few moments exploring what your life purpose is – and if you say “I don’t know” you can say to yourself “Well, if I DID know, what would I say it is?” The truth is, we ALL know what we are here to do – the blueprint is inside – the challenge is having the COURAGE to ADMIT it and EMBRACE it!

It might help you to know it’s not a black and white thing – not an all-or-nothing proposition. Just start right where you are. I recommend to my clients they embrace their life purpose one step at a time, and just do the next, perhaps very small thing, that will begin moving their life in that direction.

Ultimately, it’s the series of these steps taken in that authentic direction that adds up to the manifestation and realization of your own unique internal blueprint. This is what transpires during The Warriors Quest and the year that follows.

I’m there as guide every step of the way.

Be daring, be unique, be courageous….go out there and find your path and live a life of power, purpose and passion!

You can find out more about The Warriors Quest today by going HERE.

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10 Principles For Living With Passion and Purpose

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Jan 032012

Thousands of successful people reach middle age—and get the surprise of their life. They look around and instead of savoring their personal success, they wonder what it all means.

While their parents and grandparents expected to live only about fifty years, men and women today realize they have a whole “second life” ahead of them. But what should they do with it?

Most have little idea.

This is why I created “The Warriors Quest.” The video below will give more information about the time in our lives where we hear a knocking.

Even after finding their passion and purpose individual are still faced with certain challenges.

“In a few hundred years, when the history of our time will be written from a long-term perspective, I think it is very probable that the most important event these historians will see is not technology, it is not the Internet, it is not e-commerce. It is an unprecedented change in the human condition. For the first time—and I mean that literally— substantial and rapidly growing numbers of people have choices. For the first time, they will have to manage themselves.” – Peter Drucker

While that sounds good, it also troubles a lot of people, because they haven’t spent much time thinking about how to manage themselves once they’ve achieved a certain level of success.

“In a very short time, we will no longer believe that retirement means the end of working life.” Peter Drucker

Retirement may even come much earlier than ever, but working life will continue if only out of economic necessity. For many, however, working well beyond retirement will be a choice based on preference. They will either tire of luxury or desire to use their knowledge and experience to contribute to society.”

Most of these men and women, however, face a daunting problem. They simply don’t know what to do next. They have so focused their energies on achieving success that they have little idea how to leverage that success into something they see as having long-term meaning.

To help move such individuals forward, Drucker outlined ten principles that he says can help anyone to find meaning in the second half of life.

1. Find Out Who You Are

“Whenever people are on the road to success,” Drucker said, “they tend to think of repositioning as something they do if they’re a failure. But I would say that you ought to reposition when you’re a success, because that’s when you can afford it.” But no one can reposition for significance, Drucker claimed, without first knowing who they are and where they belong.

2. Reposition Yourself for Full Effectiveness and Fulfillment

“Early in their careers,” Drucker said, “people tend to have a fairly limited timeframe, of four years or so. They can’t visualize what comes after that.” By the time they achieve some measure of success, however, the timeframe expands.

“Suddenly they begin to think about options that are twenty, thirty, or more years ahead of them,” Drucker said. Such a long view often brings clarity where none existed before.

3. Find Your Existential Core

“There’s a strong correlation between high achievement and the ability to come to terms with life’s basic questions,” Drucker said. “I think the most successful people are those who have a strong faith . . . there is a very substantial correlation between religious faith, religious commitment, and success as doers in the community.”

4. Make Your Life Your Endgame

The only worthy goal is to make a meaningful life out of an ordinary one, Drucker declared. He recommends setting one’s sights on achievements that really matter, that will make a difference in the world, and to set them far enough ahead of current achievements that the journey will be demanding but worth the effort. “Make your life your endgame,” Drucker said.

5. Planning Doesn’t Work

“Opportunity comes in over the transom,” Drucker insisted, and that means one has to be flexible, ready to seize the right opportunities when they come. “Too much planning can make you deaf to opportunity,” Drucker said. “Opportunity knocks, but it knocks only once. You have to be ready for the accident.”

6. Know Your Values

“If you don’t respect a job, not only will you do a poor job of it, but it will corrupt you, and eventually it may even kill you,” Drucker said. “For example, ninety-nine percent of all physicians should not become hospital administrators.

Why?

Because they have no respect for the job. They’re physicians and they feel that hospital administration is a job for clerks.” Knowing what you value and what you don’t can keep you from making some bad choices.

7. Define What Finishing Well Means to You

“My definition of success changed a long time ago,” Drucker said. “I love doing consulting work and writing—I regularly lose track of time when I’m doing those things. But finishing well, and how I want to be remembered, those are the things that matter now. Making a difference in a few lives is a worthy goal.

Having enabled a few people to do the things they want to do: that’s really what I want to be remembered for.”

8. Know the Difference Between Harvesting and Planting

“For many years, I measured my work by my output—mainly in terms of books and other writing that I was doing,” Drucker said. “I was very productive for many years. I am not so productive today, because these are years of harvesting rather than years of planting.”

One needs to know the difference between the two.

“The only worthy goal is to make a meaningful life out of an ordinary one…’make life your endgame.’” Peter Drucker

9. Good Intentions Aren’t Enough; Define the Results You Want

The number of non-profits and charitable organizations in this country has exploded in the past several years, but many of them get poor results, Drucker said, because “they don’t ask about results, and they don’t know what results they want in the first place. They mean well and they have the best of intentions, but the only thing good intentions are for (as the maxim says) is to pave the road to hell.” To achieve the best results, Drucker said people must ask the right questions and then partner with others who have the expertise, knowledge, and discipline to get the right results.

10. Recognize the Downside to “no longer learning, no longer growing”

“I see more and more people who make it to their mid-forties or beyond, and they’ve been very successful,” Drucker said. “They’ve done very well in their work and career, but in my experience, they end up in one of three groups. One group will retire; they usually don’t live very long. The second group keeps on doing what they’ve been doing, but they’re losing their enthusiasm, feeling less alive.

The third group keeps doing what they’ve been doing, but they’re looking for ways to make a contribution. They feel they’ve been given a lot and they’re looking for a chance to give back. They’re not satisfied with just writing checks; they want to be involved, to help other people in a more positive way.” And they’re the ones, Drucker said, who finish well.

“My definition of success changed a long time ago…making a difference in a few lives is a worthy goal. Having enabled a few people to do the things they want to do: that’s really what I want to be remembered for.”

Bob Buford calls them “pathfinders”—individuals for whom age 40 and beyond has been an opportunity to further their significance rather than to rest on their success. They are people who have pioneered the art of finishing well in these modern times, and who can teach us to do the same, starting today.

Bob sought out 60 of these trailblazers—including Peter Drucker, Roger Stauback, Jim Collins, Ken Blanchard and Dallas Williard— and has recorded their lively conversations in these pages so that they can serve as “mentors in print” for all of us.

“Twenty years from now,” Bob writes, “the rules for this second adulthood as a productive season of life may be better known. But for now, we’re out across the frontier breaking new ground.” Bob gives you a chance to sit at the feet of these pioneers and learn from them about Finishing Well so that you may shift into a far more fulfilling life now, no matter your age.

A life of significance that will be a legacy for future generations too.

After selling Buford Television, Inc.—a large network of cable systems across the country—in July 1999, Bob Buford has turned to investing the remaining years of his life in the lives of others. He is chairman of the board of The Buford Foundation and Leadership Network, was the co-founder and first chairman of the Peter F. Drucker Foundation for Nonprofit Management, and has authored three books including Halftime and most recently “Finishing Well.”

You get a copy of “Finishing Well” HERE.

If you really want to jump into the deep end, I encourage you to participate in “The Warriors Quest.” This is a private, one-on-one vision quest to help me move into the 2^nd half of life with power, purpose, passion and perseverance.

To find out more about “The Warriors Quest” Contact Me or go HERE now.

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Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part 15

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Oct 072011

Welcome back the continuation of this series entitled “Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man”

We’ve been breaking down 21 habits of a purposed focused man one. A man with a purpose driven life exhibits specific qualities in 5 segments of his life, these segments are:

Mental
Physical
Emotional
Financial
Spiritual

If this is your first time here the link back to “Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part I.

There is no “mid-life crisis” for men…generally speaking.

This “mid-life crisis” for men is, is just a lack of focus and purpose. When men lose their purpose, they also lose our focus. When they lose their focus they feel lost. And many men attempt to find themselves in unproductive behaviors.

My main point of these posts and my private intensive, The 2^nd Passage, is to help men realize that they do have a mission and purpose in life. And once they find it they can live a life of power, purpose, passion and perseverance!

My hope is that through these series of posts and The 2^nd Passage Intensive, I will help men who, admittedly or not, are experiencing a mid-life emptiness and guide them back to manhood and step into their masculinity…without becoming a jerk.

We’ve already covered the mental qualities and well into the emotional habits of a highly focused purpose driven man. We’ll continue with my favorite physical habit:

Physical Exercise:

Purpose Focused Man

Regular (4 -5 days per week) of vigorous exercise that includes aerobic and strength training

They boost their energy by working out and exercising

Enjoy the challenge of physically and mentally pushing themselves

They know that oxygen and oxygen is the key to peak performance

Enjoys exhaustion

A man with a purposed driven life knows the importance of extreme physical exercise and looks forward the feeling of exhaustion afterwards.

A man with a purpose focus life knows that physical exercise is not just walking around the block. He understands the importance of pushing himself physically so that he will also develop more mental strength.

He makes sure he schedules his workouts ahead of time and let’s noting get in the way of doing them.

A man with purpose driven life exercise at least 4-5 times per week knowing that as he exercises he’ll gain more energy to do the things he is on the earth to do.

No Life Purpose, Unfocused Man

Physically stagnate

No desire to exercise

Perceives they don’t have the time

Don’t have the discipline, mental strength or organization to put together a regular exercise routine

Most virtually exercise via TV watching others, i.e. football, basketball, bicycling and even video games.

A man with no life purpose perceives he has no time to workout, wasting his time on unimportant reading or watching TV.

A man without a purpose driven life thinks that life should be easy and see’s exercise as hard and painful.

A man without a purpose driven life will let any distraction keep from working out and justifies the distraction as being important.

Self Assessment

Physical Exercise: The habit of participating in regular aerobic exercise. Valuing the joy of exhaustion and the victory of spirit that results from the body and mind surpassing old physical limitations and expanding to met new physical challenges. The prevailing attitude that oxygen is the life source and the energy substance of vitality.

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OK…looking at the above mental strength emotional characteristic for a man with a purpose driven life, take the below survey and see how well you’re doing… and please have the courage to be honest with yourself.

Men, I’m sure by now you’re beginning to get a sense of where you are in Life. Please remember there is not right or wrong place; it’s just where you are. The question is, what are you going to do about it!

Are you courageous enough to take action and change?

If this post has raised some questions, consider investing in yourself, your vision and your life. Take a look at The 2^nd Passage for a way to put your power, passion and purpose into action and life a purposed driven life.

I’ll leave you this quote’s:

“Lack of activity destroys the good condition of every human being, while movement and methodical physical exercise save it and preserve it”. ~Plato

“Physical fitness is the basis for all other forms of excellence.” ~ JFK

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Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part V

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Jul 292011

Welcome back the continuation of this series entitled “Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man”

We’ve been breaking down 21 mental strength habits, one by one, of men with a purpose driven life. These habits are in 5 categories; mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and finances.

If this is your first time here the link back to “Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part I.

I want to mention again, my belief is that there is no “mid-life crisis” for men…well generally speaking.

What I think a “mid-life crisis” is, is a lack of focus and purpose. When men lose their purpose, they lose their focus. When they lose their focus they feel lost. Many men attempt to find themselves in unproductive behaviors and this has been labeled a “mid-life crisis.”

My main point of these posts, as well as my private intensive, The 2^nd Passage, is to help men realize that they do have a mission and purpose in life. And once they find it they can live a life of power, purpose, passion and perseverance!

I hope is that through these series of posts and The 2^nd Passage, I will help men who, admittedly or not, are experiencing a mid-life emptiness and guide them back to manhood and step into their masculinity…without becoming a jerk.

The is the last trait that falls under the category of “Mental Habits”

Creativity

Purpose Focused Man

Supreme pleasure in creating something where once nothing existed.

Loves to solve problems

Turns problems into opportunities and turn opportunities into achievements

Predictable pattern of conceiving, developing, refining and brining into realty their ideas

4 stage process
- 1^st – Perceives a need or problem and gains all info about it and then releases the problem and turns attention elsewhere.
- 2^nd – Incubation, lets his unconsciousness mind work on the problem.
- 3^rd – Spontaneously receives the answer and does receive the answer
- 4^th – Implement solution

Their life blood

Creativity is the life blood a man with a purpose driven life. They are actively seeking ways to improve or fix situations, not for themselves…so that others can benefit. They have developed a process they trust explicitly of finding the problem. They do this by asking their unconsciousness mind to solve it, letting the problem go out of mind being open and respective to the answer that always shows up.

Using this creativity perspective all they see are opportunities around them, there are no problems, just situations that haven’t been solved yet.

This creativity energizing them everyday…they can’t wait see what they’ll discover next. They’re like a rhino charging through the jungle.

No Purpose, Unfocused Man

What for someone else to solve the problem, after all, they didn’t create it.

Follow the crowd

Why waste their time on a solution if they aren’t going to get paid for it

Not my job

The man not on the path of a purpose driven life see’s obstacles and problems all around and complains that “somebody” needs to fix it.

They follow the rest of the cows and complain about that they’re not being taken care of.

They see “problems” as someone else’s job to fix, not theirs.

They live a sad and uninspired life with no creative outlet, except for how to watch two channels at the same time.

Self Assessment

So looking at the characteristic of this mental strength behavior of creativity for a man with a purpose driven life, take this quick survey and see how well you’re doing… and please have the courage to be honest with yourself.

Creativity: The habit of creatively turning problems into opportunities. The ability to conceive, develop, refine, and transform one’s opportunities into successes.

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OK guys…I hope you’re beginning to get a sense of where you are. And there is not right or wrong place. And the awareness will help make a decision on what action to take.

I’ll leave you with this quote:

“Necessity is the mother of invention.” – Plato

In other words, what this means is difficult situations inspire ingenious solutions.

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Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part IV

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Jul 222011

Welcome back the continuation of this series entitled “Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man”

We’ve been breaking down 21 habits, one by one, of men with a purpose driven life. These habits are in 5 categories; mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and finances.

If this is your first time here the link back to “Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part I.

I want to mention again, my belief is that there is no “mid-life crisis” for men…well generally speaking.

What I think a “mid-life crisis” is, is a lack of focus and purpose. When we lose our purpose, we lose our focus. When we lose our focus we feel lost. And many men attempt to find themselves in unproductive behaviors.

I hope is that through this series of posts and The 2^nd Passage, I will help men who, admittedly or not, are experiencing a mid-life emptiness and guide them back to manhood and step into their masculinity…without becoming a jerk.

So…now let’s take a look at the first category of a highly focused purpose driven man.

The first falls under the category of “Mental Habits”

Search for Knowledge:

Purpose Focused Man

Insatiable search for knowledge
There is no luck, or they make their own “luck” from use of their knowledge
Flexible in the values that drive them towards excellence – not workaholics
Continual search for why and how things work and what motivates men
Reads biographies
Uses Albert Korzybski’s principle of “time binding” learn from past experiences and pass them on to future generations
Searches for time-tested process and use them in today’s situations with positive energy
They understand the quote “The more I learn the more I don’t know the more I want to learn” – Albert Einstein

What this mental strength habit is about is embracing the quest of knowledge. A man living a purpose driven life is constantly looking for ways to learn more, not just for knowledge itself, but how to apply this knowledge to reach his personal goals and personal success.

The purposed focused man is living a life with passion, power and perseverance searching for new knowledge and to apply it.

He’s not content simply building a collection of books, audio’s, etc. He’s on a quest to discover himself and the world around him.

He reads and takes action on all knowledge he acquires, this then becomes wisdom

He looks for other successful men that lived a life of purpose and models them using the principle of “time binding.

He knows that knowledge adds to his passion for living a life of purpose.

This knowledge will aid in creating flexibility in his behaviors so that he is not stuck in one way of thinking or doing.

A man living a purpose driven life doesn’t look at how much he knows, but how much more he can learn.

No Purpose, Unfocused Man

Dissipate their minds by watching TV. They surrender their lives to live vicariously through others via TV which is aimed at the lowest common denominator of unintelligence
Waist their brain power
Think they know everything
Favorite phrase “I know that” or “I’ve heard that before”
Prejudges and judges others quickly
Scared their limited view of reality will be destroyed
Meager base of knowledge
No real thought of investigation
Expect others it live into their limited view of reality
Self imposed limits (beliefs, values)
Quite desperation

A man without a life purpose and focus looks to TV for his “education.” He feels he has learned enough already and wants nothing better than to live vicariously through sports, reality shows and the news.

When presented with an opportunity to learn more they’re mantra is “I know that.”

Because of the inflexibility a man not living a purpose driven life is quick to judge and prejudge based on his limited experience not his knowledge.

He’s not curious about the world and is content to graze in the pastures with the other cows, fenced in by his limiting beliefs and incongruent value system.

A man not seeking more knowledge is living a life of quite desperation.

Self Assessment

So looking at the characteristic of this mental strength behavior of a man with a purpose driven life, take this quick survey and see how well you’re doing… and please have the courage to be honest with yourself.

Search for Knowledge: The habit of continually increasing one’s knowledge base

through study and reading, especially biographies that provide positive role models from

which one can build success blueprints. Continually learning from the experiences of others and applying that learning to everyday learning.

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OK guys…I hope this one ruffled some feathers, or at least is causing you to look outside your pasture and wonder.

I’ll leave you with this quote:

“”The doorstep to the temple of wisdom is a knowledge of our own ignorance.” – Benjamin Franklin

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Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part III

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Jul 152011

Welcome back! Or if this is your first time…welcome!

I’m writing a series on “The 21 Mental Strength Habits of a Purposed Focused Man.” Each week I’m taking on habit and investing it and show how it plays a role in living a life on purpose.

I’m taking the perspective that with men there really is no “mid-life crisis”…well generally speaking.

What I believe a “mid-life crisis” is about, is a lack of focus and purpose. At some point (around age 35) we begin to experience the illusion of “success” and start to question why are we doing “this?”

This basically is a loss of our sense of purpose. And when we forget our purpose, we lose our focus. When we lose our focus we feel lost. What the “mid-life crises” is, men attempting to find themselves and their purpose through unproductive behaviors.

In Mental Strength Habits Of A Purpose Focused Man – Part II we looked at the first mental habit of a purpose focused man, Sensory Life Vision. Today we’ll continue with the next mental strength habit of Disciplined Mental Application.

The main point of these posts and my private intensive, The 2^nd Passage, is to help men realize their purpose, vision and mission in life and assist them in articulating them so that they can live a purposed driven life.

Once they find and find “themselves” they can live a life of power, purpose, passion and perseverance!

I hope that through this series of posts and The 2^nd Passage, I will help men who, admittedly or not, are experiencing a “mid-life emptiness” guide them back to manhood and step back into their masculinity.

So…now let’s continue with the first category, “Mental Habits”, of a highly focused purpose driven man

The second habit of purposed focused man is:

Disciplined Mental Application – This is Law of the Harvest, i.e. hard work

Purpose Focused Man

Mental strength to go after your vision with super intensity.
To sustain a period of long hard work without receiving any immediate reward.
Do what ever it takes to create their vision.
With faith they see their life vision getting closer with each hour, day, month and perhaps year.
Anything worth while will involve long hard work.
Pursuit of goal with absolute excellence.
Vision in action.

What this mental strength habit is about is embracing hard work and knowing that your purpose, vision and mission is worth it!

The purposed focused man is living a life with passion, power and perseverance and knows that nothing will stand in his way to achieving his vision. He puts in the effort day after day knowing in the long run he’s going to be able to enjoy the fruits of his labor.

He works hard and smart now so that he can enjoy a rich and fulfilling life later. He is an active participant in the creation of his life.

He takes action and lots of it!

Unfocused Man

Average effort – The highways of life a littered with those that put in an average effort.
Looking for the easy way out.
Wants the instant fix
Gives up when work when effort gets hard, especially when they hit their first obstacle
No persistence.
Procrastination.
What’s the minimum I can do?
Copies others.
Wants the end results with the little effort.
Settles for second best.

A man without focus looks for the easiest way to “survive.” What’s the smallest amount of effort I can give and still get by?

He even goes so far as to copy others to try to short cut his “success.” This is not “modeling”, this is taking what someone else has created and use it for his own advancement.

He’ll wish for ship to come in and he won’t even buy a ticket to get on board. The only ticket he buys is the lottery ticket.

If he happens to start to take action and steps on his road to success, a man not living a purposed focused life with quite as soon as he hits an obstacle or the going gets tough.

He see’s the price to pay not worth the reward.

An unfocused man will come home and watch the success of other on TV. He’s a spectator in his own life.

Self Assessment

So looking at the characteristic of this mental strength behavior, take this quick survey and see how well you’re doing… and please have the courage to be honest with yourself.

Disciplined Mental Application:

The habit of sustaining a long, hard work effort toward a desired end without receiving immediate results. The ability to see a worthwhile goal through to completion. The patience to build a foundation of success, step-by-step, with giving up because it seems like too much effort.

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OK guys…if the first two posts didn’t get to you, I hope this one did!

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