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Welcome back!  This is a series on “positive motivation” bases on a e-course I’m taking.  The foundation of this is Goal Systemsrooted in positive physiology.

These series, and the e-course takes a look at the different aspects of motivation and how they can affect your personal success and reaching your personal goals.

Again, so far we’ve been talking about the “why” and “what” of motivation.  Today we’re going to explore systems for the achievement of personal goals.

The Goal Systems Approach to Motivation

This “goal systems” approach is in mechanistic in nature.  It sees humans similar to robots that need to be correctly programmed in order to achieve their personal goals and objective.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t resonate with the idea that we are like programmable robots! Although at some level we are all programmed, I like to believe that we can choose the programs to install.

Anyway, when this mechanical approach is combined with the humanistic SDT (Self-determination theory) approach, there is a very powerful resulting process.

To introduce the goal-systems perspective, let’s go back to the “why” question of motivation. SDT says it is best to do anything “because it is enjoyable” or “because I believe in it,” (intrinsic) and not “because I have to” or “because I ought to” (extrinsic).

But if you think about it, the “why” of many behaviors of yourself or others, it very often turns out to be a bit more complex than simply “how I feel about it.” Often one goal is related to another and they can be more accurately described by statements such as “because I needed to complete X before I could move on to Z” or “because X brings me closer to Z.” In this arrangement, X (the lower-level goal) supplies the “how” of Z (the higher-level goal), and Z supplies the “why” for X.

This is how I coach around setting goals.  I have my clients determine an “achievable outcome”, something one year out.  Then they set SMARTER goals for 1, 3, 6, and 9 months out.  The we break it down into strategies, tactics and an action plan.

This has worked VERY well.  So let’s take a look several points in a goals setting system.

Goal Systems Point 1: Hierarchical Organization

This point illustrates, action is hierarchically organized, that is longer-term goals, principles, and values set the agenda for shorter-term skills, processes, and procedures. Then the shorter-term action steps give the means of bridging the gap the between the present state and a desired future state.

In other words, short-term goals act like stepping-stones that help break up overwhelming goals and give us a clear path for progress.  In NLP terms we call this “chunking down.”

Imagine, for example you want to write a book. If you sat in front of a blank page on your computer screen and thought about the overwhelming task of churning out a 350 page story, you might give up, even though it is a meaningful goal to you.

Instead, what you would do is chunk down writing the book into smaller goals. You might consider writing a page or a chapter per day. Then these smaller goals will seem much easier to carry out and still putt you on the road to the long-term goal.

Goal systems are how we pull ourselves into the future — first envisioning, and then actually creating, how we want things to be. In addition, most if not all of  our momentary behaviors can be located somewhere within the overall system.

The ideal action system should have a clear set of characteristics. First, every goal, at every level, should be furnished with lower-level plans, skills, and procedures, that allow people to keep bridging the gap between the present state and desired future state.

Bringing this concept back to reality, ‘self-regulatory’ tools are necessary in order to pursue personal goals effectively and efficiently. That is, goals are not just products of random luck or the shotgun approach.  Succeeding at them is not a matter of effortless trial and error.

Instead, we have to be in control of our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and often at a conscious level in order to succeed. First, we need to be able to keep the goal in mind; second, we need to be able to mentally compare it to our current situation, noticing discrepancies between the goal and the current situation; third, we need to be able to act effectively to bridge the gap, and fourth, we need to be able to detect when the discrepancy is gone (when we have achieved the goal!), so we can stop taking action and celebrate!

The Four Steps of Goal Systems

  1. Keep the goal in mind
  2. Evaluate our current situation, and be able to compare it to where we want to be in terms of the ultimate goal.
  3. Understand what actions we need to take in order to reduce the discrepancy and move closer to the goal.
  4. Recognize when we have achieved the goal so we can quit working and pat ourselves on the back!

Goal Systems Point 2: Goal Conflict

A second positive goal system characteristic is, goals should be consistent with each other, and not conflict with one another.

For example, it would be hard to simultaneously achieve the goals of becoming an Olympic level athlete and reading all of the masterpieces of world literature! The problem here would be a time conflict.  There also can be material conflicts between goals, i.e. ”I want to own a private yacht and helicopter” but “I am dedicated to the idea of working in the non-profit sector for a low salary.” As well as logical conflicts between goals, i.e. to “become a more agreeable and cooperative person” may conflict with the goal to “aggressively grow my business by beating out the local competition”.

Chronic goal conflict is associated with chronic low-level stress and with increasing health problems over time, and thus it is worth the effort to untangle and sort out any such conflicts.

In NLP parts integration might be used to resolve these types of conflicts.  People who actively pursue conflicting goals find themselves frustrated, ambivalent, or stretched thin.

So far we’ve discussed that in a “positive goal system,”

  • Desired outcomes should be helped by goals at lower levels of the system, and should help goals at higher levels of the system.
  • People should be able to realize when action is needed towards a goal, and take action effectively.
  • Goals should not conflict with other goals at the same level of the system, and ideally, would help and support those same-level goals.

So, how can we tell if these are the case?

One way is to diagram your own goal system thoroughly, and to explore the helpful and harmful interconnections between the different goals.

Goal Systems Point 3: The Importance of Success Expectancies

A very important issue for motivation, from the goal systems perspective, is a person’s expectancies for success. Having high expectations for success (or a high sense of self-efficacy) provides many resources.

For example, when unexpected difficulties emerge, high-expectancy people do not immediately become discouraged and withdraw their effort; No…dig into their mental strength and keep going, and why shouldn’t they, after all this is the warrior mentality.

They expect to succeed in the end. Having high expectancies also allows us to proceed with social confidence and conviction, persuading and selling others on our intentions and thereby securing their help and cooperation.

But what if a person’s expectations seem overly optimistic, unrealistic, or even self-delusory? This can happen, but there this is still an open question of “how unrealistic is too unrealistic?” The existing research suggests that overall, positive illusions provide more benefits than drawbacks, often helping people turn former illusions into current reality. As a result, the take-home message for motivators is:

Always display confidence in your or your friends’ abilities to do what needs to be done, and do not be too quick to criticize your or their high ambitions!

Goal Systems Point 4: Approach and Avoidance Goals Differ

Another important distinction from the goal systems perspective is between approach motivation and avoidance motivation. In NLP we take about “move away from” and “move towards” goals.

Approach motivation is working toward a desirable future outcome, such as making a sale or getting a new client, whereas avoidance motivation refers to trying to avoid an undesirable outcome, such as trying not to get fired or not becoming overweight.

Most goals fall into approach or avoidance. The research shows that approach framing is preferable — both for promoting greater performance and achievement, and for promoting better mood and feeling.

Why?

First, avoidance goals contain an implied reference to failure, which can in the end automatically cue failure. If I am trying not to fail, I am aware of failure as a constant possibility. Just think of when we tell children “Don’t spill your drink!” – and then they do – at least in part because we primed that thought in them!

Second, achieving an approach goal simply requires finding one path to success, from among the many paths that may be available; in contrast, achieving an avoidance goal requires avoiding (or fending off) all possible paths to failure. The latter is often more difficult.

Third, the goal system is built to take action, not to avoid action. This makes avoidance goals logically awkward to pursue.

The take-home message for motivators is therefore:

Try to use approach (moving towards) rather than avoidance (moving away from) framing, whenever possible.

This can extend even to goals like “lose weight;” as framed, this has an avoidance component (avoid weight), and might be better framed as “exercise more” or “eat better.”

Review:

  1. In this post, we discussed the goal systems viewpoint upon motivation. This mechanistic approach, “positive motivation” means to be a high-functioning “robot”, with a well-constructed goal system full of action plans, strategies, skills, sensory acuity, and tactics, and with little conflict between goals. In this case, one makes swift progress towards the goals in the system.
  2. Goal systems thinking can tell us a lot about the “how” and “why” of motivation, by showing which higher-level goals supply the “why” for lower-level goals, and which lower-level goals supply the “how” for higher-level goals. They can also further clarify the “how” with concepts such as planning, bridging the gap, execution intent, and preparation.
  3. But we also noticed that goal system theories don’t talk about how the higher-level goals get into the system in the first place, i.e. did I really decide to become a doctor or this what my parents wanted?
  4. This shows the importance of picking goals that represent one’s true values, interests, and dispositions, rather than the insistence of others – in this case the Self owns the goal system, rather than being owned by it.

OK…I hope you go a lot out of this post…I know I did!  So…what are your thoughts?  Let me know in the comments below.

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We are finishing up our “Beyond Limits” class and next week we’ll be our last “graduation” celebration, so this will be relationshipsthe last post…at least for this class.

Last night we discussed three topics; relationships, affirmations and perception/projection. I’d like to highlight the topic of relationships.

There is nothing that provides the opportunity for personal growth and personal development as relationships.  It doesn’t matter if they’re intimate, platonic, business or even hobby.  Every relationship provides us a mirror for reflection and self discovery.

So, what makes a “healthy relationship?”

Think about for a few moments…what do you think makes up a health relationship?

Answer: two healthy individuals.

The term healthy is meant to encompass here mental and emotional.  Sure it would be great to have healthy bodies and a healthy spiritual practice, but for the sake of this post I’ll be looking at the mental and emotional aspects.

When we are in a committed relationship – again this applies to ALL committed relationships and yes, you can have a committed business relationship – the goal of the relationship is for it to ‘work’ … to be expression and acceptance of each other.

To set up a relationship that ‘works’, both parties must come to a definition and agreement of what a ‘workable’ relationship is, i.e. what is the primary goal for the relationship…and here we area again…back to setting goals.

The dictionary correlates commitment to pledging, and pledging is: “a solemn promise or agreement to do or refrain from doing something”

And the dictionary refers to a relationship as: “the mutual dealings, connections, or feelings that exist between two parties, countries, people

When both parties are committed to a ‘workable’ relationship the accountability for the health of the relationship is placed on both shoulders, but the responsibility is yours!

This means that you ask yourself, “What can I do to increase and deepen the feelings and connections of this relationship?”

This is kind of twisty in that it’s not up to other person…it’s up to you.  I know…I know….you’re probably thinking, what if the other person doesn’t do the same for me?

Then you take a look at what the goal of the relationship is and revisit it.

But here’s the underlying part of a relationship that provides an opportunity for personal development…you’re going to have to find out what makes the other person ‘tick.’  Just because you like to express yourself in one way, doesn’t mean the other person does.

Let’s get to a specific example…I’ll talk about an intimate relationship.

In NLP we are taught that we all have a primary modality when it comes processing information, i.e. visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, gustatory.  We also have ‘strategies’ (decision process) for how we make a determination about something.

Hang on because this is where it gets good.

The strategies themselves involve one of more modulates and generally when it comes to romance it’s only one of them.

What the heck does all this mean?

Well your partner might “know” you love them when you hold them (kinesthetic).But you might know they love you when they tell you (auditory).  If we don’t take time to find out how our partner knows (their love strategy) we love them, we all tend to show affection the way WE like it.

Can you see how this can cause some issues?

If you’re partner’s “love strategy” is visual and you primarily tell them you love them, they may still not get that deep sense that you really do love them.

This brings us back to the responsibility of a ‘workable’ relationship and that it’s up to you…this is where personal growth and personal development comes in.  You have to find out their “love strategy.”  This will involve YOU asking them.

They most likely don’t have a clue their “love strategy’ and again…this is where the personal development comes into play.  You will have to a conversion and dig into how and when your partner knows you love them.

I have found that is simplest to remove ways at first, that is, ask them if all you did was hold them, touch them and never told them you love them, would they sill know?

Continue with this until you both have discovered each other “love strategy.”

This even works in a business relationship…no, no, no…you’re not going ask them how they know you love them :-)   But you can ask questions around how do they evaluate a product or service before they make a purchase.

If you listen carefully they will tell you exactly their “purchasing strategy.”  You can then (being responsible for the workable relationship) deliver the information in just the exact way they like it.

By using your mental strength and taking time to find out how your partner (life, business, hobby, etc) process certain information you are actively participating in your personal development and the growth of the relationship and keeping it workable.

If you’d like to explore this further go ahead and request an Introductory Consolation today.

OK…how do you make a relationship ‘workable’?  Please let me know in the comments below.

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How many times have you wanted to take an important decision but felt like lost? A part of you wants to ‘this’ and personal poweranother part wants to ‘that’ and you end up stuck. For example, a part of you wants you to quit your job and start your own business for a brighter future while the other part of you wants to enjoy the current job’s security.

Whether it was a bad habit or an important decision it’s the inner conflict you are experiencing that prevented you form acting the right way. At some point in our lives we may run in a conflict where a part of us wants to do something and another part wants to do the opposite, see the examples below:

Sometimes you may not be able to break a habit just because a part of you wants it. In this case the more you will try to break it the more will this part hold on to it and so the result will be returning back to the habit without knowing why.

Resolving the Inner Conflict

Even if you managed to ignore the needs of one of your parts you will still suffer from lack of inner integration and you will be full of suppressed emotions and unmet desires.

The solution to this dilemma is getting more understanding of those conflicting parts then working on uniting those parts together under a common goal. This may have sounded impossible before NLP came into existence but now it’s possible and even easy.

For best results is recommend to find a certified NLP Practitioner, but you can attempt this on your own as well.

Basic Parts Integration Using NLP

The following are the steps you should follow in order to unite your conflicting parts under one common goal. The technique is taken from NLP and its called parts integration or visual squash. Make sure you read all steps before applying the technique.

Note that you aren’t going to resolve the inner conflict on the conscious level but instead you’re going to do it on the unconscious level and that’s why the below steps may require some imagination.

Step One – Identify the conflicting parts (in this example we’ll use ‘job’ and starting your ‘own business’): Hold both of your hands in front of you So that your palms are facing up. Look at the first hand and imagine that you are holding the first part on it and try to imagine the shape of the part. Some people see it as an object, some see it as a person, still others see much more weird things so just relax and the image appear that makes you most comfortable. Try to notice if the part has a weight, sound, feeling, taste or smell associated with it.

Now when you get the first part out on one of your hands (your unconsciousness mind will tell you which part goes in which hand) do the same for the second part. Symbols are used here because your subconscious mind thinks using symbols.

Step Two – Ask the first part about its Intention and purpose: look at the first part and ask it “Job, for what purpose?” the answer might be something like “Because I want security.” Then ask it, “Security, for what purpose?” the answer might be something like “Because I feel safe.” Now comes the tough part if you’re doing this alone…keep taking the answer and ask “For purpose or intention” until you determine the highest positive intention of the part.

Step Three – Ask the Second part about its intention and purpose, i.e. “Own business, for what purpose?” Continue with the same process as in Step Two. Your main goal is allowing the two parts to agree on a common positive purpose or intention, which might be “peace” in this example. The more you go up in the hierarchy of intentions, the more will you find that the parts agree on their purpose.

Step Four – If you hands haven’t already come together (often they will “mysteriously” float and come tighter) then bring them together: Talk to both parts and tell them that they are both having the same intention and that there is no need for a conflict. If you were doing it right from the beginning you will notice that your hands are coming closer and closer until they touch. If your hands touched each other then hold them together firmly and bring them to your heart. This will send a clear message to your subconscious mind that the conflict was resolved, and so the next time you won’t find that big resistance when you want to make a decision about your career.

One affect after the parts integration is that you won’t remember the conflict and a brand new thought/idea will be there on how to move forward. This is you unconsciousness mind infusing you with personal power.

Parts integration is a powerful tool to help with goal setting, achieving established personal goals and enhancing human performance.

If you would like to experience a Parts Integration for yourself, simply request an introductory consolation.

Please let me know your experience with this NLP technique in the comments below.

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This final installment of ‘Fitness, NLP and Personal Performance’ (inspired by an article by Robert Dilts, Daniel Dilts and Lily Dilts.) can play an important role in fitness and personal performance.

I’d like to discuss how clearing the past can create a smooth future.

Clearing the Past

In working with diet and weight issues, it is also useful for fitness coaches to help clients understand the difference between themselves and food, what food is for, and what their internal “programming” is regarding food. Some people, for instance, “live to eat” rather than “eat to live.” Frequently, these people have addictive personalities or enjoy food beyond enjoying themselves. In some people’s minds, their joy in life comes from sitting down and eating something, trying to satisfy a never-ending need.

This is where NLP can be especially handy for fitness coaches. NLP techniques, such as those involving Time Empowerment® work, can be very useful to help bring such a person back into his or her past in order to discover the situations that triggered unhealthy eating habits leading to weight gain. This can be a very emotional process, but once people find such triggers, the issues can be addressed directly rather than trying to resolve them through food. It does take more than one or two sessions to identify and reprogram the problematic thought process. Taking this time, however, can help lift the burden off clients so that they are able to move forward with their lives.

For example, a client struggled with eating and weight issues. The source of this struggle was her feeling that she didn’t deserve to be happy. Through NLP and fitness coaching she explored the origin of this feeling and discovered that she came from a rural, blue collar background. Having grown up in a poor but hard working community, she felt guilty that she was more successful than her friends and relatives. She was afraid that if she embraced her success, she would lose it all. Overeating and being heavy was a way of punishing herself for her success, so that she wasn’t perfect.

Once this was discovered the client was able to reframe the part of herself that felt guilty for succeeding. As a result, she was able to change her perception of success and find other, more satisfying ways to share and celebrate her accomplishments with her family and friends.

Another client struggled with her weight for a different reason. She had recently broken up from a long-term relationship with a particular man. In exploring her unhealthy relationship toward food, she discovered that she was doing it as a way to punish both herself and her old boyfriend. A part of her thought was, “I’ll show him and get huge. I’ll punish myself, then he will feel sorry for me for being unhealthy and overweight.” This realization allowed to her to reevaluate her feelings toward herself, her ex-boyfriend and food, and to get satisfaction by taking care of herself rather than punishing herself.

By exploring the events that triggered her unhealthy eating habits, another person discovered that her conflicts about fitness stemmed from the fact that she had been molested by her father when she was a child. She placed much of the blame for this situation on her mother, who always wore a lot of makeup, and she thought of as a “slut.”

As a consequence of her family history, she did not want men to look at her. She hid behind her weight, choice of drab clothing and lack of makeup. After working with the lady using the NLP Change Personal History technique to bring new resources to herself and resolve these past events, she went home, dressed up and put on makeup for the first time. This was the beginning of a series of positive changes that she claims has “changed her life.”

Triggers and beliefs that come from the past are not only limited to weight and food issues. Another lady, for example, was a ski instructor who was involved in fitness training in order to get to the next level in her profession, but she found herself “holding back.” An exploration of her resistance revealed that she felt she “shouldn’t do things boys can do.” Her belief was, “If I am fit, I will compete with men. Girls don’t do that.” With the help of an NLP fitness coach the lady reflect upon the origin of this feeling, she recalled that her mother had discouraged her from being athletic. It turned out that she had an older brother who was not interested in athletics at all. She would use the equipment her parents bought for her brother and her mother thought her father would “have a fit” if he found out.

By going back on her time line to explore the situation more deeply, this lady realized that her father did not mind at all. As a result, she was able to let go of the concern that she had picked up from her mother’s well-intentioned but erroneous messages and reach her goals on the ski slopes.

One more example is of man who was thin and athletic but had suffered a back injury. He came to fitness training in order to regain his strength after surgery. He sometimes found himself listless and demotivated, however, because he had lost a lot of money in the stock market as a result of the “dot-com” crash. The coach found that it was important for him to do a lot of listening and be an outlet for man’s concerns in order for him to be able to keep up with his training.

Reframing Inner Resistance

To successfully reach our goals we must be congruent about getting what we want. This is another aspect of the “inner game” of fitness. Sometimes it seems like parts of us are resisting or uncooperative. Other times, we have to struggle against old patterns, responses and habits. Rather than simply fighting with ourselves, it is important to acknowledge and communicate with all parts of ourselves.

Reframing is an NLP process for addressing inner conflicts and resistances, and for finding other ways to get what we want without engaging in negative or unwanted behaviors. Reframing is based on the principle of “positive intention.” The principle of positive intention states that at some level all behavior is (or at one time was) “positively intended.” Another way to say it is that all behavior serves (or at one time served) a “positive purpose.” The positive intention behind eating candy, for instance, might be to “get comfort” or “reward yourself.” “Comfort foods” often serve the positive purpose of “showing appreciation or love,” “sharing a good experience,” etc. In other words, every behavior or response is aimed at getting for a person something that he or she wants.

Once the positive intention behind the seemingly negative behavior has been discovered, resources and alternatives are much more easily found. It is important to have other choices that are at least as effective for fulfilling the positive intention of the problem behavior in order to appropriately address the obstacle. If there are no alternatives, the risk is that you will become conflicted internally or become overly rigid or dogmatic.

Rather than feeling mistrustful, guilty or ashamed about difficulties, the recognition of your own positive intention leads to trust in your positive intent and gives a specific strategy for finding other alternatives rather than becoming frustrated with the typical “trial and error” (or “trial and horror” as it is sometimes called) approach.

The reframing process involves understanding and communicating with yourself, rather than blaming or punishing yourself. The basic steps involve:

  • Identifying the problematic feeling, response or behavior. What behavior or response is getting in the way of achieving your fitness goals?
  • Discover the source of the problematic feeling, response or behavior in your past. When did this pattern of behavior start and what were the conditions under which it began?
  • Finding the positive intention or motive for the response or behavior. What is that behavior getting for you or trying to do positively for you?
  • Identifying alternatives and resources that address the positive intention, but without the negative consequences. What other ways can you get that benefit? What resources and understandings do you have now that you did not have at the time that this pattern started? (Find as many as you can.)
  • Enlisting the cooperation of all of your inner parts to try a new choice. Which new alternatives and resources would you be willing to try? (Choose at least three.)

Conclusion

Fitness and fitness coaching are classical examples of the overlap between mind and body, and achieving good fitness demonstrates the many benefits of that integration. The ultimate objective of fitness training is to create a positive spiral in which eating right and working out lead to better sleep and more energy which, in turn, lead to natural weight loss and other positive physical results. People are often surprised to find that they can be eating plenty of food and losing weight at the same time.

While fitness training requires a certain amount of motivation, learning and effort to begin, once a good routine is in place, it becomes a form of therapy and stress management in and of itself. Workouts are like a type of therapy and can become powerful ways of relieving stress and provide an effective strategy for taking preventative action. Fitness trainers can show clients how to use workouts to relieve stress. Then, instead of having a couple of drinks at the bar, clients can go to the gym for the same amount of time and work out the stress.

While there are basic guidelines for achieving good fitness, it is important for fitness trainers to remember that each person is unique and trainers must treat them as individuals. Fitness training and nutrition plans need to be adapted to the needs of each client, helping clients find their individual motivators and dealing with potential inner blocks and resistances. NLP is an important resource for fitness trainers in order to accomplish this.

NLP Tools such as establishing Well-Formed Outcomes, Creating a Compelling Future using Time Lines and Submodalities, Mental Rehearsal, Future Pacing, Changing Personal History and Reframing can be used to help clients achieve success in the “inner game” of fitness.

My e-book, “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” can assist you tremendously in moving into an area of mental fitness that will support you in physical fitness.  If you’d like to experience Fitness Coaching request your Introductory Consultation

OK…how are you doing with your action?  Let me know in the comments below.

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  • Dilts, R. and Hollander, J., NLP and Life Extension: Modeling Longevity, Dynamic Learning Publications, Ben Lomond, CA, 1992.
  • Gallwey, T., The Inner Game of Tennis, Random House, New York, NY, 1974.
  • Gallwey, T., The Inner Game of Work: Focus, Learning, Pleasure and Mobility in the Workplace, Random House Trade Paperbacks, New York, NY, 2000.
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You are much greater than you believe you are!mental strength

Wonder how I know?

There’s an old saying in NLP, “The map is not the territory.”  For me this took a very long time to comprehend until I hear a different version, “The menu is not the meal.”  This one made sense!   You see, a map of San Francisco is not the city of San Francisco.  The map doesn’t contain all the sounds, sights and smells of Fisherman’s Warf, the trolley cars, or even Alcatraz Island …thank goodness! San Francisco is far bigger, richer and more vibrant than could ever be conveyed by a map.

The same is true about you.  You map of who you think you are (your self-concept, self-image) is not who you really are. You are far more powerful, capable and amazing than your map of yourself.

Your “map” has been folded up so small that all you see is a tiny part of it (you).  Image one of those large driving maps that’s folded 5 hundred times…well that’s a slight exaggeration, but it certainly feels like that sometimes.

Well image trying to get somewhere and only see a small section of the map.  You believe that the map is the territory so you can only go to where you see (on the map).  But because you’re an experienced driver and map unfolder you KNOW that there is more there then meets the eye. 

You unfold the map and look at all the magnificence that you can explore.  And you also know that the map is guiding you to the “real” experience.

The same can be said about your perception of yourself.  You’re looking at a tiny section of your folded map…your potential.   When you use your mental strength and unfold the map you’ll discover ALL your personal power and potential.  This unfolding, is the true you, well at least a representation of you. 

It’s now your job to follow your potential (your map) and experience the REAL you!

Just stop for a moment, unfold your map and think about whom you are, what your qualities are, your weaknesses and strengths. Then realize that there is more to you than you are aware of. You are more than you think you are.  

You have the capacity to reach your peak personal performance and personal success anytime you want!  All you have to do is unfold the map.

If need assistance with unfolding your map request an Introductory Consultation or pick up a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.”

Now, let me hear about your map in the comments below.

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In this week Warrior Mind Podcast I’m going to share my recent interview with Troy M Anderson of Mental Strengthhttp://www.andersontrainingsystems.com

We discuss how NLP, mental strength and a fitness coach can assist a person with fat loss and fitness so that they can reach their peak personal performance.

Check it out below:

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Who Ever You Think You Are, You're More Powerful Then That

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