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Mental Strength Tip #138: Support Structure and Personal Success

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May 062013

Welcome back to another Mental Strength Tip!

Personal development is essential to live a life of power, purpose and passion….with perseverance. Personal development is about know how to full use all of your four personal resources; physical, emotional, spiritual and mental.

The mental aspect of personal development requires mental strength and mindset of empowering beliefs that will instill the feeling of self-empowerment.

Reaching your personal goals, achieving personal success and exceeding your human potential starts in your mind…and finishes with taking inspired and massive action.

This is one in a series of virtual personal coaching and mental strength tips to help kick-start your week. It is intended to create self-empowerment and inspire you to take action so that you can reach your personal goals and personal success.

I take one mental strength tips and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct coaching questions. The intention of this virtual personal coaching session is for you to write and answer these questions in your success journal and then reflect on them to gain insight on yourself, your dreams and what’s holding you back.

These series of posts are for YOU!

If I’m not able to be your live personal coach, then I highly recommend picking up a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.” It’s a book that will take you through the exact process to take back control of your thoughts so that you can live a life a power, purpose and passion with perseverance!

You can grab your copy now by going HERE.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To encourage you to build and use a support teak to provide a mental oasis on the way to creating a life of power, purpose and passion!

Let’s Get Started:

It’s hard to live in this world and achieve all the things you want to achieve. The best thing you can do is to make sure you have a lot of tools available to help support your dreams. This network of support can make all the difference in whether you succeed or fail.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

What role does a support system play in your pursuit of success?
Building an emotional support team is a sign of ___? (fill in the blank)
What role has the emotion support of others played in your life?

Unsupportive Beliefs about a Support System

Emotional support is for weak people.
Emotional support is for unstable people.
I don’t need a support system to succeed.

Mental Strength Beliefs about a Support System

Your support team is your emotional pit stop.
Support isn’t a necessity, it’s a strategy.
Utilizing a support system gives you an emotional oasis.

Outrageous Questions:

If you were using a support system more often would you be moving toward your vision at a more consistent pace?
What limiting beliefs would you have to change in order to embrace a support system?
How could you use a support system more effectively in the next 90 days?

Reflective Questions:

Are you allowing yourself adequate time to recharge yourself emotionally?
What activity could you plan with your support team in the next 30 days that help recharge yourself?
On a scale of 1-9, 9 being most, how often do you utilize your support system and team?

Mental Strength Coaching:

Having a support system is incredibly important if you want to get anywhere in life. You can only do so much on your own so you’ll want to make sure to surround yourself with others. You’re not limited in your options, so you’re sure to reach your goals as soon as possible.

Final Thought

The very first on your ranking of support should be family. Family members are the number one method of support because they know where you’re coming from. They also love you and want to help you do everything you want to do in life. (And if they don’t, they should!)

Each family member serves a different purpose in your life. A mother or father might nurture you and pad your falls. A child will help you to see the reasons why you’re working so hard. A spouse can help you in all that you do. They are usually your number one supporters.

Even though family is great you’ll also want to include your friends. While they may not know you as well as family (or they might know you better than family in some cases!), they can still add a lot to your support system. Friends are helpful because they might even have the same goals that you have. For example, if you’re exercising you can call a friend up to come join you.

Friends don’t even have to live in the same town that you do. In this day and age more and more people are making friends on the Internet. Location is definitely not an issue when you consider the Internet lifestyle. Even if you’re going through a particularly difficult time there’s probably someone, somewhere going through the same thing.

Joining online forums and chat groups can do you a lot of good in this case. Getting things off of your chest can feel great. This is even true when you don’t know the people at the other end of the computer screen. In fact, developing such a wide network of support can help to load you with all the help you’ll ever need.

If you want to include even more support in your network of success you can always join a program. There are different programs out there for everything under the sun. This includes anything from weight loss to money management. These programs can be found in your local town as well as online.

Of course, when you’re considering support networks you can’t forget yourself. You alone know yourself the best. Keeping a journal can be a great way to organize your thoughts and develop your own methods of support. Don’t forget to write in your journal each and every day so that you’re able to keep a record of everything you do to reach your goals

Get started today on creating a support system and request your Introductory Consultation by going HERE.

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The 5 TRAILS of Personal Transformation

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May 012013

Maybe you are just about ready to take on the task of personal transformation or maybe you’re in the middle of it. Wherever you are in this journey, there are times when you need to recall (without the help of a book or a laptop) what the basic principles of personal transformation are.

Here is TRAILS 5, an acronym for you to call to mind whenever you need a quick reminder.

Take your past hurts where they belong. Bring them to the place in your heart that allows you to accept that you were wronged; realize that you are greater than the sum of all your hurts and gather strength to move on. This is not going to be easy but nothing worthwhile ever is. You don’t need to forget the hurt because that is sometimes not possible but you need to put it someplace where it cannot hurt you and you need to be able to tell yourself that it will not determine how you live the rest of your life.

Reflection is part of your life. Reflect everyday on what has happened during the day and think of where you are going. Give this a regular schedule. Begin your day with it and end your day with it. People are not supposed to live their lives in a constant whirl of action; you need quiet time to center your thoughts and to pray. With reflection you have assessment and analysis. You try to find out where you are in terms of how far you have progressed and you take a look at what still needs to be done.

Affirm your achievements. After reflecting on what has transpired during the day, don’t forget to affirm all the positive things that you have accomplished so far. This affirmation is an important part of transformation. You cannot simply reject all the parts of your own behavior that you like; you have to strengthen the good qualities in you.

Internalize the lessons life has given you. Internalizing lessons means paying attention to what life is teaching you. It means doing what you need to reverse any trend or cycle that is self-defeating or counterproductive. Determine what works and what doesn’t work. For example, if you recognize impulsive shopping is the reason why you are always short of funds then promise yourself you will not go shopping without a list and you will stick to what is written on it.

Live life as you believe you should. Be true to your principles and concentrate on doing what you think is right. If all around you people are doing things that you are uncomfortable with then either move away from their circle or pay no heed to what they are up to. This is not easy to do at all but remember that you won’t be happy either living life according to what others want.

Straighten the way you think. Get rid of all the thoughts that limit you. Stop thinking that others are better or more talented and that you will never make things better. Every time you catch yourself thinking negatively shift your thoughts to something affirmative and positive. Remind yourself of one or two accomplishments you achieved.

5 priority goals. Make a list of your top 5 must-dos. Be clear about what you want and how soon you want to get things done. Break your goals down into manageable segments and time frames. For example, if your goal is a beautiful and healthy body then you could tell yourself that you want to develop the habit of exercising for thirty minutes at least four times a week at the end of four weeks. Now here’s the thing: even when you break down goals in this manner, you will sometimes meet with failure or achieve only partial success. When this happens, just get up, shake the dust off your pants and try again. You will make better progress if you do not allow yourself to be hampered by unrealistic expectations.

If you’d like to start a journey of personal transformation so that you can live a life of power, purpose and passion, but don’t know where to begin, I urge you to consider The Warrior’s Quest Intensive. This is a 3 ½ day one-on-one, private coaching and transformation experience. For more information about The Warrior’s Quest take a look HERE.

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How To Turn Your Habits and Routines into Rituals

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Mar 272013

In my coaching I help many clients with releasing unsupportive habits, creating empowering routines and introspective rituals.

Often when I’m going through the process there are inevitably questions about the difference between the three.

Many people I have found use the phrase habit and routine interchangeably. Since words have power, when I help with the distinguishing the difference in these three, there is a subtle shift in perception. Once this begins and the person begins to describe these differently they act differently and then almost like magic their results change.

So, what is the difference between routine, habit and ritual?

First let’s look at dictionary.com definition of each for them

Routine

A customary or regular course of procedure.
Commonplace tasks, chores, or duties as must be done regularly or at specified intervals; typical or everyday activity: the routine of an office.
Regular, unvarying, habitual, unimaginative, or rote procedure.

Habit

An acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary: the habit of looking both ways before crossing the street.
Customary practice or use: Daily bathing is an American habit.
A particular practice, custom, or usage: the habit of shaking hands.
A dominant or regular disposition or tendency; prevailing character or quality: She has a habit of looking at the bright side of things.
Addiction, especially to narcotics (often preceded by the).

Ritual

The established form for a ceremony; specifically : the order of words prescribed for a religious ceremony
Ritual observance; specifically
1. System of rites
2. Ceremonial act or action
3. An act or series of acts regularly repeated in a set precise manner

We can look at a habit as an individual and stand alone behavior, i.e. smoking, negative thinking or even positive thinking, something that is completely unconsciousness. The individual is almost totally unaware that they are performing the habit.

A routine can be looked at a set of actions that have an outcome in mind, i.e. working out, driving to work, etc. A routine is also unconsciousness and the difference between a routine and a habit is you can look at a routine as a series of habits that have a specific end result.

A ritual is a completely different way of performing a task or series of tasks. A ritual is performed with mindfulness and awareness. A ritual doesn’t have to be associated with a religious or spiritual practice, but it does required being in the here and now.

So, when we look at these three actions the one thing that separates them is mindfulness, which is being 100% aware of what you are doing.

You can turn any habit or routine into a ritual simply by being mindful. And here’s the great thing, as soon as you become mindful of what you are doing you will either stop what you are doing (if it is a “bad” habit) or you will enter the zone and experience bliss.

I suggest you take a look at your day have some fun and experiment a bit. Select one to three things you are currently doing as a habit or routine and turn them into a ritual.

For example, when you are eating, turn off all outside noise, i.e. TV, radio, music and contemplate everything that was required to get the food to your table. The people involved, the processes, the trucks, the ships everything that was necessary to bring the food from where it was grown or raised to your table. Then, as you eat the food chew it slowly and try to pick out all the flavors in each bite. Feel the textures, taste the difference, notice the where in your mouth you are experiencing the flavors.

Sure, it will take you longer then usual to finish your meal….and that’s the point. A ritual has a specific intent and process behind it, which may mean more time involved.

As you turn the three routines or habits into a ritual notice your feelings, your thoughts and where your attention is. As you develop your own personal rituals you will find your life becoming full with gratitude and appreciation.

This will be the first step in living a life of power, purpose and passion!

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Are You Living In Passion?

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Mar 222013

What is passion? Dictionary definitions include “a powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger; ardent love; strong sexual desire; lust; the object of such love or desire; boundless enthusiasm or the object of such enthusiasm; an abandoned display of emotion, especially of anger”, and so on.

This post is about passion in the sense of powerfully focused emotion/enthusiasm. Your passions can be an excellent indicator of what you are here to do.

In my understanding and the premise of my coaching and work shops, we are composed of three “selves.” First there is the ego. The language of the ego is words based in duality.

Next is the soul. The language of the souls is feelings, hunches and symbols.

Then there is our Self. This is the part of us that is eternal, never changing and its language is energy.

We’re going to discuss passion, which comes from your soul. So here are a few questions. I’d like you to answer them as quickly as possible and notice your feelings and emotions as you do.

What do you love?
What do you know?
What do you desire?
What do you excel at?
What do you focus on?
What do you see that others don’t?
What do you need to integrate? That means getting your system lined up with what you want, on all levels.

These are seven components that can reveal your passion.

Let’s now take a closer look at them

What Do You Love?

When you love someone or something, then you tend to see the best in that person or topic, and openly lend yourself to its care and support. This opens up you up for compassion and light. You are more naturally light-hearted and enlightened about those things you love, and this increases your desire and ability to learn about that person or subject.

Remember when you were in love? And how you wanted to know everything about your beloved? Well, some people feel the same about medicine, design, or engineering: it’s endlessly fascinating if that is the object of your love. Well, if that topic is part of your blueprint, you will have a similar enduring fascination. So what you love is going to be part of what you are here to do. In fact, learning to love is one of our required courses during this lifetime.

What Do You Know?

Your inner blueprint is always going to combine your previous experiences and types of training, no matter how diverse. Whatever you did and learned in the past adds to your unique skill set and perspective, both of which can be used in the service of your divine blueprint once you are in alignment.

What Do You Desire?

What do you lean in to? What do you feel the lack of when it’s absent, and enjoy when it reappears? Contrary to some religious positions that distrust desire, or see it as the root of all suffering, I believe that desire is your firmest connection between your soul and your human self, between the seen and unseen fields.

Through desire, your soul is attempting to guide you using your emotions. When you have expanded feelings, it means “go here – do this!” Contracted or negative feelings mean “not this one”. So you can use your desire nature to find out what you are here to engage with. Usually your desires are positive, and bring you joy or pleasure. Of course, sometimes the lesson is “don’t do this again!”

What Do You Excel At?

If you are designed to do something specific, you will naturally have the resources to fulfill your assignment. You come fully loaded with the talents and programs you require to thrive! So many people think they should do this or that, and then look at how they can train as an accountant, doctor, architect, or whatever.

They think about what might work for them, rather than asking what their inner blueprint calls for. People who go the conventional route tend to get burnt out by their 40s, because the work they do is out of alignment for their lives. It’s so much more efficient and enjoyable to listen within and find out what programs you already have, and what you require to polish that up and express it. Mozart had an innate genius for composition; he just needed to practice the piano, and fortunately was born to a father who taught keyboards. Now, that’s the way to learn excellence!

What Do You Focus On?

By universal law, what you focus on expands in your life. You always focus on what’s important to you, for good or ill. Some people appear to relish suffering, martyrdom, poverty and depression – at least they stay focused on stress or pain. Your focus says a lot about what your soul and ego finds important. One person devotes a lot of time to staying fit and healthy; another speaks/writes/thinks about spiritual issues all the time.

Yet another is fascinated by numbers and spends all her time on mathematics and physics. Someone else loves order, and becomes an accountant (as well as keeping a tidy home and having a haircut every month). Your focus shows up everywhere in your life, not just your profession, though of course, it’s best to have a profession that uses your natural focus! Fortunately it’s usually easy to identify your natural focus, because (of course) you’ll be spending a lot of time doing whatever that is.

What Do You See That Others Don’t?

This identifies your area of service, and thus what you are passionate about. Serving humanity, the planet, and Infinite Intelligence is about seeing problems and creating wonderful solutions that restore, improve or create better conditions for everyone. In order to solve a problem, you have to see that there is a problem. The more precisely and clearly you see a particular problem, the more likely it is that you are part of the solution, and the greater passion you will have for solving it.

We each have a unique vision of the world, and we can use that to help co-create heaven on earth. This applies equally to the negative (situations that are out of whack) and positive (your vision of how great and wonderful things could be). Your vision will indicate your unique contribution to rebuilding the world.

What Do You Need To Integrate?

Most of us have issues that need to be resolved, and goals that need to be integrated so that we can get back in alignment with who we truly are. Integration means bringing your goals into harmony with your field so that what you desire becomes possible for you. A goal is anything you want that you don’t have yet.

Most people don’t attain their goals because they have unconscious conflicts that are creating defocus, problems and frustration. When those conflicts are resolved the probable’s become possible.

So what are you passionate about?

Where does your enthusiasm show itself most strongly?

Or are you still searching?

Your passion is a roadmap that points to why you are here and what is it you are here to do. The Awakened Warrior has strong passions and they know they are on a path with heart

Many of us have to search and work at it. This is mainly from external “pressure” from friends, culture or society, and that can be distracting until one learns that being who you are is the most important thing you in life.

Without passion, there is no life direction.

The most effective way in resolving internal and external conflicts as well as gain an understanding of your passion is The Warriors Quest Intensive. This is a private, one-on-one experience that is guaranteed to get you on your path with heart and start to become an Awakened Warrior.

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Signs You Need A Personal Coach

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Jul 132012

Some people misunderstand the purpose of Personal Coaching. They think that a personal coach is just someone who is there for them to talk to. However, a personal coach is not just a listener, they will guide you in finding solutions rather than excuses, help you set realistic goals and most of all will hold you accountable for taking the steps set for your goals.

Personal coaching is not a therapy, it is not fixing what is broken; it is closing the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.

“Part therapist, part consultant, part motivational expert, part professional organizer, part friend, part nag — the personal coach seeks to do for your life what a personal trainer does for your body.” – Kim Palmer

So what are the signs that you need a Personal Coach?

You’re Stuck: You do everything but despite your best efforts to make changes in your life, nothing has changed. You are still in the same place with the same issues you had 5 years ago. You may want to ask for help from a personal coach to guide you to get out of where you are now.

“I absolutely believe that people, unless coached, never reach their maximum potential.” – Bob Nardelli

People Avoid You: People may stop listening to you if you are complaining about the same issues over and over for years. The lives of your friends will be drained if they listen to your repetitive problems.

“A coach can play any number of roles –mentor, consultant, motivator, but one thing she [or he] is not is a therapist. Coaching deals with the “how”: how you can move on from where you are and make change. It’s action-oriented, and concerned with the present and future, not the past.” – Shape Magazine

You’ve Lost Your Purpose: You feel tired and you have unexplainable pains all over your body. Due to your unhappiness, boredom and resistant on taking responsibility of your life, you are bound to become stressful at all times. If you wake up one day and realize that you want to be happy but impossible, try to talk to a personal coach.

You’ve Lost Your Power: If you are so uptight and can only see problems and not solutions, a personal coach can help you by using some tools to program your daily routine to be happy. They will help you create your plan and guide you step by step on where you want to go in life.

You’ve Lost Or Given Up On Your Dream: If you want to pursue your dream but hesitate, then you might want to find a helping hand to take the first. It won’t happen overnight but taking small steps is brave enough to face the reality that you need personal coaching.

You’ve Lost Your Passion: You already have great maps, plans and strategy on achieving your goal in life and you do well on the beginning but you lose motivation to go on along the way. There may be many reasons why you didn’t follow through your plans and the best help may be coming from a Professional Personal Coach. The fear of failure holds you back and a personal coach will keep you going by implementing some process that may change your perception in life.

If you feel any of the signs above, then it is time for you to consult a personal coach. A personal coach will give you strategies, techniques and procedures that will last a lifetime.

To find out more about how personal coaching can help you, request your Introductory Consultation today.

Also, personal coaching can be a great benefit in the business world. Download a free report from Harvard Business Review on the ROI of coaching in business – What Coaching Can Do For You.

“Coaching is unlocking a person’s potential to maximize their own performance. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them. “ – Timothy Gallwey

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Self Empowerment and Our Four Bodies

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Jun 292012

During the first call on the “21 Days to Creating a Workable Life” part of what we discussed was that each individual has four bodies:

Physical
Mental
Emotional
Spiritual

And when a person can become of aware this bodies and how to fully integrate them, then they are well on the way to self-empowerment.

You see, most of us only focus or are aware of only one of these bodies at a time. But when we can develop a practice to align and strength all our bodies, then we are on to journey to becoming a master of our destiny, or as the last two lines in the poem Invictus tell us “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”

Here is a brief overview of our four bodies:

Physical Body

The physical body relates to self-healing. Physiological symptoms indicate conflicts within the physical body. Factors such as diet, nutrition, exercise, sleep and fasting promote healthy cells, organs and physiological functioning’s. Living in alignment with your personal constitution promotes self-healing. Focusing, visualization, proper breathing and meditation allow positive energy (“prana” or “qi”) to flow through all parts of your physical body.

Mental Body

The mental body speaks to your level of self-confidence. We need self-confidence to be all we can be in life. A healthy mental body gives us clarity, concentration, will power, discipline and joy in all our thoughts, words and deeds. To achieve this, we need to review and enhance our identity, beliefs and values, capabilities, attitudes, behaviors and environment (inner and outer).

Emotional Body

The emotional body is a key gateway to vitality. It addresses self-awareness. Clearing emotional reactivity and unresponsiveness allows for full emotional expression of genuine, heartfelt feelings. This self-awareness creates happiness within, and strong healthy relationships without. This promotes an abundant life on all levels. What ever you were feeling during the day today or when you were calling in…that was your emotional body

Spiritual Body

The spiritual body addresses the aspect of self-unity with all that is. It’s really the difference between being your soul essence rather than doing what you’ve been programmed to do. Ancient wisdom asserts that lack of unity within the spiritual body is the origin of all illness. The spiritual body–while being the most pervasive, important and immortal body–is nonetheless the least recognized today.

These bodies are always connected, although we often don’t realize it.

Now image, living your soul essence with vitality and self-confidence that produces self-healing…WOW!!! I’d call that self-empowerment wouldn’t you?

The problem most of us spend way to much time on the physical or emotional bodies, and mainly NOT in a good way.

We can’t work on one and forget the others. We ARE these four bodies…all the time. There is never time that you are not these four bodies.

By creating a program that develops physical strength, mental strength, emotional strength and spiritual strength you’ll be self-empowered to create a life of power, purpose, passion with perseverance.

You can get started today on developing your mental strength by picking up a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.”

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The Powers of Mind and Spirit

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May 182012

We are all live in two realms, the inner realm of mind and spirit, and the outer realm of the body and the physical universe. In the inner realm resides the silent, subtle forces that are continually determining, and with exact precision, the conditions of the outer realm.

To strike the right balance in life is one of the supreme essentials of all successful living; this is at the heart of self-empowerment. We work because we have to eat, pay bills and attempt to enjoy life. We do however require other things than just food and shelter.

These other things are not only important, but necessary.

It is however an “unconsciousness” person that doesn’t realize that life is more than food, shelter and paying bills. This type of person merely exists; they are not living a full and abundant life, one with power, purpose and passion through self-empowerment.

We can become so absorbed in making a living that we have no time “for living.” To be talented and efficient in one’s career is a good goal; but efficiency can be created by machines and software that also robs life far more than it returns it.

We can become so possessed, and even obsessed, with the idea of power and greatness through efficiency and organization, i.e. multitasking, that it becomes the “great machine” and robs people of the finer things of life.

This is where balance comes into play…again.

Our dominant thoughts and emotions determine, and with absolute accuracy, the prevailing conditions of our outward, material life, and likewise the prevailing conditions of our physical bodily. If we something a miss in the body, we must then first look at ‘cause’, the thoughts and emotions back for the physical issue. The silent, subtle forces of mind and spirit, ceaselessly at work, are continually molding these outward and these bodily conditions.

This is where the practice of mental strength comes in.

A person makes a fundamental error who thinks this logic is merely emotional thinking without science or evidence to back it up. They are, as many people are now realizing, the great and fundamental things in life, the only things that really count in the end.

The average person can never find real and abiding satisfaction in the mere possessions, the mere accessories of life. There is an eternal something within us that ‘forbids’ it. That is the reason why so many of highly financially successful people are turning so eagerly to the very things I am now asking you to consider.

To have personal success and all the trappings cannot bring satisfaction and fulfillment. Hey, I’m all for a fast car and a big house…and we can use these things to serve us. But when we start to be the servant of these possessions, we have lost more than just control. We have lost ourselves.

Its’ a consciousness and awakened warrior that realizes that it is the things of the mind and the spirit, the fundamental things in life, that really count; that here lie the forces that are to be understood and to be used in molding and creating the everyday conditions and circumstances of life; that the abundance of life all from within, that as is the inner will always and inevitably manifest into the outer.

This is why developing your emotional, spiritual and mental strength are as important, if not more so, than developing your physical strength.

Again, here balance comes into play. We must ultimately be significantly and equally strong in all our four bodies to be able live a life of power, purpose and passion with perseverance.

Through the discipline of mental strength practice, along with emotional and positive intelligence training, soul spelunking and intense physical exercise can we create a bridge between the inner and outer realms.

If you feel that “something” inside that is calling you to live a greater life than you’re living, I encourage you to participate in The Warrior’s Quest. You can find out more by going HERE now.

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Relationships – Focus On What You Want

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Apr 172012

I am fascinated by people.

I guess that’s why I’m a coach.

I can’t tell you how often my conversations center on the frustration that people are having with what’s showing up in their lives. They say they want one thing, yet something completely different keeps manifesting.

Even with all the information available today, people generally still don’t realize that they are the creators of their reality and what they focus on is what they’ll get.

People are experts at what they DON’T want, but very few really know exactly what they want. This knowing what they don’t want is so deep in their unconsciousness that many individuals don’t even realize it.

All they know is they don’t like their life the way it is.

Let’s take relationships for example.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that if you continue to look for fault with your partner you’ll find it. LOVE is the foundation for long-lasting relationships so why do so many people focus on the faults and not the love?

Why, because they are actually “projecting” their own shortcomings on the other person because they haven’t dealt with those issues yet.

What is on the inside is projected on the outside and herein is the heart of the problem.

People are great at focusing; unfortunately they are focusing on what they don’t want, especially with relationships.

Now my area of expertise is not on relationship, but the principles I’m disusing here can be applied to every other part of your life.

I’m using relationships here are a metaphor to try to get you to understand how you really do get what you look for, i.e. focus on.

So, if you want to experience more love in your life, it makes sense that you should focus on only loving thoughts. Relationships really bring out the unconsciousness thoughts, which many are mainly based in fear. Fear of being abandoned, fear of not being enough, and fear of…fill in the blank.

We are so afraid of these fears showing up that unconsciously we look for them in the other person. And when we find them…oh boy…do we take them and run with them.

We knew we were right!

Then to amplify this more, your partner is doing the exact same thing!

This leads to an inharmonious relationship. Sure it might not be this way ALL the time, but all it takes is a few of the fear projections to start to erode the relationship.

Just in case you feel that I’m not talking about you, perhaps these projections are showing up in your other relationships, i.e. business, social, etc.

You don’t need to be in an intimate relationship for your unresolved issues to show up.

And just in case you’re wondering, here are some standard excuses why people tolerate staying in a no supportive relationship. Remember, this can apply to a business relationship as well, just tweak the examples a bit.

10 Excuses For Not Improving A Relationship

It’s not the right time.

If I rock the boat I do not have the financial backing to leave the relationship (business).

Marriage (business) is for life, regardless of how bad it gets.

I am staying because of the children (clients).

Nothing I try works, and they are unwilling to work on the relationship.

He/She just won’t listen.

I’ve tried and it doesn’t work, i.e. We tried marriage counseling (business coaching) and it didn’t work.

It’s been like this for so long why should I change now – resignation.

I am fearful of what they will do, I am fearful of the unknown if I was to leave so best to stay with what’s known.

It’s not me; they are the ones who are creating the problems.

Here’s where it gets interesting…if your relationship is not “working” then you’re getting a payoff in some way. Most likely this payoff is confirmation of an underlying limited belief.

You are staying in the relationship most likely because:

You are getting something out of staying in it and it feeds your own negative beliefs about yourself .

You are not committed to living in a harmonious way. If you were committed to living in a loving relationship you would be in one by now.

You are fearful of the unknown.

You tolerate things the way they are because you are stuck in the HOW and are UNWILLING to get the required support to rectify the situation.

You are not aware of the coast of the underlying negative beliefs.

You get to be a victim! You get mileage out of enrolling people in your life, family, friends, acquaintances about how bad your lot is – very attention seeking.

You do not believe that things cannot get better because of the years of evidence to the contrary – so beliefs are running the show – fundamentally you are resigned to a new possibility.

You don’t trust your faith, yourself or others.

You get to remain a martyr in your life given the impact your situation has on your own well-being.

You need to validate your own unhealed aspects of yourself by staying in a dysfunctional relationship.

I know this can seem pretty harsh, but if you can’t coach with me I have to get your attention some how.

So, what now?

Well, if you’ve been following me for a while this will sound familiar….find your path with heat and start walking on it.

By finding and walking your path with heart you will be forced into looking deep inside and addressing these underlying negative beliefs that show up in your life as your relationships with money, people, your health…all those things that can help you live a life of power, purpose and passion!

Stop tolerating and start living!

You can do this by joining me for the one-on-one private intensive, The Warriors Quest. You can find out more by going HERE now.

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5 Mental Strength Tips On Living A Successful Life

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Apr 102012

It seems everyone and their grandmothers are constantly seeking the secrets to true personal success. Since most individuals have their own definition of what personal success is, there really is no one clear-cut formula.

There are however certain traits that are common in many high achievers. The following are five mental strength tips that will help you live a life of power, purpose and passion…basically a successful life.

1. Learn, Discard, And Create:

Learn what is useful, discard what is not and add what is uniquely your own.

All throughout our lives, we are educated and forced to learn things about society, people, religion, politics and life…all from someone else.

Many of these teachings will be of no use to you in creating your future. Keep what resonates with your Soul, that which you know will be good for you. Then, discard the disposable information; it will only tend to confuse your mind.

When you were younger and just starting out learning about math, reading, science, etc it was delivered in a “one size fits all” program. Now that you have moved on from that style of learning is time to purge your mental cache.

It is up to you to determine which information supports you and your personal goals and which information does not.

Become a master at your craft.

Seek out the resources that are required for your personal success at your chosen profession. Then add a dash of uniqueness and make your life your own by adding your personality.

This way, you know that the knowledge you acquired, combined with application in real life, plus your additional perspective makes for a life lived with power, purpose and passion!

2. Go Beyond Your Limitations:

Most high achievers were told that they couldn’t do it. They were told they where too poor, too inexperienced, too unattractive, or too weak to achieve any sense of personal success.

Don’t let others limitations become your limitations!

Use your mental strength and learn to break down the barriers of your comfort zone.

Be open to change, possibilities and adventure!

Believe you can do it.

Remember, there is no failure only feedback. Use your feedback to motivate yourself into doing more than you thought possible. Think powerful and positive thoughts. These thoughts will lead to powerful and positive action that will help you break out of your self-imposed limitations and on to achieving your personal success.

3. Set Goals:

Have you ever gone through a phase in your life and realize that you don’t really have a goal? Feels like you’re just wandering around doesn’t it?

Always have personal goals you’re striving for. This serves as the itinerary of your life. Every major or minor decision you make should be geared towards the fulfillment of your personal goals.

Then, when you set your goals, be patient and be flexible. Don’t be discouraged by delays or minor setbacks…you have your entire life to reach them. No success is lasting if it’s easy to get.

To be a truly successful person, your goals must not only be for your own benefit, but for the good of everyone in your life. And to really be successful, you must be in harmony with everyone else. No real success is borne out of the misery of others. Remember karma, you reap what you sow. Don’t step on anybody’s toes on your way to the top. It’s lonely being alone on your pedestal.

4. Create Your Own Destiny:

You are the master of your life – it’s no one else’s life but yours. In other words, you and only you can work towards your own success. If you rely on others to achieve your personal success you are not taking responsibility for your results.

Someone else is determining your destiny.

The simplest way to be accountable and responsible for creating your destiny is to follow your path with heart. That is, to follow the reason why you are here! If you need help with finding your path, check out The Warrior Quest.

When you use your mental strength and follow your path with heart, you have empowered yourself to live a life of destiny.

I said this is simplest way, not the easiest way. Simple because once you’re on your path there are very few decisions to make. Because of this, your life will not be easy. Others might look at you as if you’ve lost your mind.

You can rest assured that when you are on your path you are creating your own destiny!

5. Have a Clear Conscience:

Have integrity. This is probably one of the most ignored aspects of success. What good is success if you achieved it in not-so-good ways? Always strive to be the best person you can possibly be.

Remember, that integrity is believing, thinking, speaking and acting all in the same way.

This will take mental strength and when you are aligned, that is, when you are in integrity, you will always have a clear conscience about all that you do.

This last tip is the tip that will give you inner and emotional strength and success. It’s the one which will give you peace of mind.

As Zig Ziglar said, “Money will buy you a good comfortable bed, but it will not buy you a good night’s sleep.”

These tips were meant as a starting point for you to begin to live a successful life…a life of power, purpose and passion!

Get started today on living YOUR successful life and join me at The Warriors Quest. This is a one of a kind experience that will absolutely change your life.

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7 Falsehoods Of A Life Purpose

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Apr 032012

I could have also called this post “What You Must Know to Live a Life of Power, Purpose and Passion with Perseverance.”

Well here we are…the last days of life on earth…or is it?

I’m sure you’ve heard that on December 21, 2012 is the end of the Long Count Mayan calendar. This is also supposed to be end of time. Of course no REALLY knows what this means or what WILL actually happen. So how about if we looked at this as a great adventure!

In the book “2012 and the End of the World” , Matthew Restall and Amara Solari (the author’s) describe Western civilization’s expansion across the Atlantic brought apocalyptic ideas which thrive in North America. And when a predicted apocalypse didn’t materialize, doomsday predictions didn’t stop, they simply moved from one end-of-world date to the next, i.e. New Years of 2000.

The authors explain “In recent decades no year has escaped prophecies of doom; regardless of when you are reading these words, you will find online a prediction that the end is months, if not days, away.”

One of my morning affirmations I repeat while doing my meditative walk is “I create the energy that supports the manifestation of my goals.”

Beside entertainment value, I have no use for people, news reports, idea, and energy that does not support me in the creation of my goals and dreams, this includes any doomsday predictions!

I have the responsibility to either remove myself from the non-supportive energy or assist them (if they are a client) to shift their focus and concentration to a more supportive consciousness that will help them manifest what they want.

Yes, the world we live in is certainly changing, and lots of things ARE coming to an end, they must…it’s part of life. And although 12-12-12 may signify the end, my projection is that is just the end of 2012 and we’ll all move one into the next year of our life.

So, since you are here and now (if you aren’t here you wouldn’t be reading this) and will be moving forward with your life…whether you like it or not, the most important and fulfilling thing you can be do is decide to live a life of power, purpose and passion!

To help you with this I’m going to go over 7 falsehood of a life purpose. During The Warriors Quest intensive we cover these deeper and for now I hope they at least start you thinking.

This list is by no means inclusive and most of the points I’ve realized through research of ancient texts, working with others, and through my own life experience.

Living a life of power, purpose and passion is about identify that one passion that you want to share with the world and allowing the desire to do so “inform” you what to do.

This is basically listening to your Soul.

Yes, this will cause the “death” of the old you and it will give birth to a new you! This “new” you will have a fire for living, as zest for life and commitment to your future.

You have important work to do in the short time you are here; it’s essential that you get your life focused on your passions so you can engage them on a daily basis.

When you align your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual “bodies” along with our three “selves” (ego, Soul and Self) you will manifest abundance in your environment and relationships. How you spend your time each day and the choices you make will all be informed by and support your highest good in order to fulfill your life’s purpose.

When this starts happening it feels oh soooo good…you are in flow. You will be finally on your path and doing what you are here to do.

Just to let you know that your purpose is NOT a destination, it is something you life everyday. Your passions will have a material aspect to them and the realization of them will probably not happen overnight, and that is all part of the adventure!

However, when approached consciously, things can happen relatively quickly. Moment by moment saying YES to your passions and what is on your path, and ignoring what is not on your path, begins to get you aligned. Your life force energy flows into your dreams and you begin to manifest them.

To help with your internal alignment of your power, purpose and passions below are seven common falsehoods that might be holding you back from fully realizing who you are:

Falsehood #1: “It’s too late for me” or “I’m too old and missed my chance.”

Reality: It’s NEVER too late. If you’re still here, you are here for a reason (nothing exists without one) and you have time. Get on with it.

Falsehood #2: “Leap and ‘my wings will grow’ on the way down” or “Leap and a net will appear.”

Reality: Plan, plan, and plan, then leap and then you’ll grow wings on the way down. Do not expect them to grow by themselves – they won’t. With regards to the net, put your own net there, then leap. Again, don’t expect one to magically appear for you; better to put it there yourself.

Falsehood #3: “Follow your passion, do what you love and the money will follow.”

Reality: No it won’t. If that happens for some people, it’s out of pure luck, because this is NOT a law. Manifesting money, like manifesting anything else in life, requires focus and competence. To the extent you focus on manifesting money and build your competence in that arena, while at the same time doing what you love, it’s quite likely that money will flow from your efforts.

Also, I don’t know if you’re like me but I love and am passionate about a lot of things. Which one should I follow? I came to realize that we have personal passions and passions we feel compelled to share with the world. When you know the difference, you’ll know which to create a living from.

Falsehood #4: “You can be anything you want.”

Reality: No you can’t, well you can, but when you are aligned completely, your “wanting” will take care of itself. You are no longer the “kid in the candy shop.” You know exactly what you want. This is a self-inflicted torture thinking you can be anything you want. Don’t let the wanting drive your decisions; let your alignment inform you.

Falsehood #5: “The purpose of life is material success” or “If one is successful in the material area of life, then they are successful in all areas of life.”

Reality: For me the purpose of life is Soulful evolution. This is the constant expansion of your capabilities to be and manifest who you are. This is typically achieved by overcoming adversity and challenge, barriers both real and perceived. Manifesting material goods is a byproduct your Soul challenge. You can attract only what you are capable of “holding.” The more you expand yourself the more you can hold.

Falsehood #6: “You need formal education, training, and credentials to make a difference.”

Reality: You need competence to make a difference. This is developed and obtained in many ways, of which formal education and training is only one. In addition, when you are on the path of your authentic purpose, you do not need “others” to validate you.

If you’ve done your Soul work to become the open channel for your life force, then the Universe is the only credentials and authority you need. And believe me you “feel” this…when you get this…deep down…others will instinctively know this as well.

People will get that your power comes from the Universe and not from external credentials or letters after your name. God, Universal Intelligence, Great Spirit, Source Energy, what ever label you use, is the most powerful credential there is.

When you have aligned your four “bodies” and three “selves” your power, purpose and passion will be the only “authority” you will ever need.

Falsehood#7: “If anything is going to happen, it’s up to me to make it happen.”

Reality: There are two parts to this. The first is really…I’m really how much is in your control? You may have the illusion of control, but if you look closer, the only thing you really have control over is yourself.

Part two is that Non-local intelligence has infinite organizing power and can make things happen far beyond what your physical self may be able to think about, much less orchestrate. The Universe unfolds things when the intent or desire is aligned, that is authentic. Your job is to align your “bodies” and “selves” so that when you live your life of power, purpose and passion that manifestations of your desires will be effortless.

Finding your passion by aligning your four bodies, three selves and then living YOUR life of power, passion, purpose with preference is focus of The Warriors Quest. It helps you get out of your own way, find what gives you energy and removes that which does not.

Try this:

A very simple way to identify what is aligned with your life purpose is to look at what gives you energy vs. what takes it. Those things that give you energy, that you look forward to and really enjoy, are most likely aligned with your life purpose. Those things that you dread and resist are most likely not aligned with your life purpose.

Take out a piece of paper right now, draw a line down the middle and label the left column “Gives energy to me” and label the right column “Takes energy from me.” Then write down all the things you do each day, putting them in the column that best represents how you feel before, during, and after that activity.

If you feel mostly positively energized, put it in the “Gives energy to me” column. If you feel mostly negatively drained, put it in the “Takes energy from me” column.

Then look back over the columns.

See if you notice any patterns – are there common themes you see regarding the things that give you energy? Are there common themes for the things that take energy from you?

Are the things that give you energy done come from a place of love and the things that do not give you energy come from a place of fear and obligation?

Pay attention!

Now choose one or more things on the list of items that give you energy and decide right now to do MORE of those things. Then, choose things on the list of items that take energy from you and decide to do LESS of those things.

Great job! You’re one step closer to living a life of fulfillment and meaning…a life of power, purpose and passion!

If you’d like to get started on living your authentic life, consider participating in The Warriors Quest. You go HERE to find out more or download a complimentary e-book HERE.

You deserve to live a full and meaningful life…start today!

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