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Warrior Mind Podcast Episode # 47 – Integrity

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Jul 162011

This podcast is based on Mental Strength Tip #13 – Personal Success Starts With Integrity

According to dictionary.com, integrity can be defined as:

1. Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

2. The state of being whole, entire, or undiminished

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For the purpose of the tip integrity is when what you think, what you say and what you do are the same. When a person is in integrity, personal success and peak personal performance will come with ease.

There is a connection between self-image, behavior and the words you speak. This kind of like the Boy Scouts and the oath associated with it, “A SCOUT IS CLEAN IN THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED.” This is a prime example of integrity.

Mental Strength Coaching:

Once you’ve made the connection between self-image and integrity, it’s time to address the issues that are eroding your level of self-respect. I encourage you to really see yourself as the most integral person on the plant. This will allow the kind of behavior that goes with that vision to unfold. By doing this, you’ll be able to ‘test drive’ what it feels like to have the mental strength aspect of rock solid integrity. The longer you ‘pretend’ to be this person, the more you’ll prefer to operate in this mode. Loving and respecting yourself feels great, and carrying that into your interactions with others just adds to the jubilation you’ll experience.

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Warrior Mind Podcast #46 – Adversity

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Jul 092011

This episode of the Warrior Mind Podcast is in reference to Mental Strength Tip #12 – Adversity is Essential for Personal Success and discusses the importance of adversity plays in our lives and personal growth. Adversity is required and necessary for us to experience personal growth and to achieve personal success.

The real issue is how we label and frame an event. For some, adversity is challenging, something to test oneself. For others they think adversity means they’re doing something wrong. After all isn’t the Law of Attraction supposed to make life easy?

In your body if you don’t use your muscles they atrophy. You have to have some stress….some “adversity” to simulate growth. This is how adversity works in our lives. It provides the stress for us to experience personal growth.

The funny thing about adversity, the more you try to avoid it, the more you get. This IS the Law of Attraction in action! You are focusing on adversity, so you get it!

When you shift your perspective and begin to see adversity as an adventure that will help with your personal growth

Enjoy the podcast below.

So, let me ask you, what does difficulty mean to you? The way you answer this question will reveal a lot about your beliefs surrounding success and your performance (how you show up). If you feel that you life is hard, unfair and only the “lucky” or unscrupulous succeed…well then you’ll need to spend some time at mental strength bootcamp. If however, you understand that adversity is a sign that you’re taking action and you’re on the path to personal success….well then, let’s move on!

Mental Strength Coaching:

The first step here is to determine your current level of consciousness (that’s where answering the above questions come in) and then begin moving your thinking to a higher level of awareness. This is done by helping you understand that your greatest achievements and breakthroughs have come and will come out of your greatest adversities. Building this mental strength habit of being more concerned about how you respond to adversity as opposed to the adversity itself is a continual practice. The more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more you’ll achieve your peak personal performance.

Final Thought

Peak performance individuals aren’t out looking for adversity to conquer, but they are mentally equipped to deal with them as the need arises. Just as the military guard out boarders, the mental strong are well prepared and trained to handle any threat on any lever and respond in a proportional manner.

My job as a mental strength coach is to help you develop the beliefs that you have the ability and skill to adequately deal with any adversity that life throws at you. Once this belief takes hold, you become fearless, courageous and free to attack life with all the talent and ability you have inside!

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Personal Empowerment and Responsibility – Part II

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Jun 222011

This is the continuation and last segment for this topic. If this is your first visit here you can here is Personal personal empowerment Empowerment and Responsibility – Part I

In Part I we covered that you can be either on the ‘cause’ side or the ‘effect’ side. That is, you either have results or excuses, you’re either play the ‘hero’ or you play the ‘victim’, the choice is yours.

We finished up with three options for playing the Blame Game when something goes wrong that does not give us personal empowerment. We’ll now take a closer look at the options.

We are Bad or Wrong: The first option is so painful for us that our tendency is to look to the other two. This becomes easy to do because most situations involve other people who we could choose to blame. Where we can‘t blame other people, there are always circumstances to blame.

Let me explain how this works in practice. Harvey agreed to meet his adult daughter for dinner. He had not seen her for a long time and their relationship was not strong. Harvey rushed out to meet her into a blinding snowstorm and became stuck in the snow (obviously Harvey didn’t live in Southern California). If Harvey were playing the Blame Game, he could either

Blame Himself: He could feel bad or wrong for being foolish enough to drive into a snowstorm. He could feel guilty for neglecting his daughter lately to the point where he didn‘t feel as though he could cancel their dinner, even as the bad weather closed in. In short he could feel bad and wrong, even guilty.

Blame Others: He could feel angry at his daughter for not having the dinner in a more convenient place or for not cancelling when the weather turned bad. He could even sit and think about all the other things she had done in the past to make their relationship strained. In short, he could blame her!

Blame Circumstances: He could blame the car or blame the weather. How could he have known this would happen? If his relationship with his daughter gets worse it will be because the weather was bad and his car is unreliable.

The problem with all three of these options is that they leave Harvey stuck and disempowered!

Not just stuck in the snow drift but stuck in his poor relationship with his daughter, and stuck in his feelings of powerlessness. The problem with the Blame Game is that it is utterly useless for providing Harvey with a way forward and does not give him personal empowerment.

If Harvey chose responsibility and personal power, however, a range of options would open up. Harvey could decide never to drive out in bad weather again, not because he was bad or wrong for doing so, but because taking responsibility gives him the possibility of a different future.

Harvey could decide on personal empowerment and to take responsibility for the performance of his car so that it performs better in poor conditions. Harvey could also choose to take responsibility for his relationship with his daughter to make sure that he never ends up in the heightened state of anxiety again.

Everyone makes mistakes.

We’re human.

When we make a mistake we need to forgive ourselves for it, so that we can move on and embrace our personal power. Most importantly, we need to forgive ourselves so that we can take responsibility. Taking responsibility for our own actions can be freeing and liberating. It saves our energy because we don‘t have to waste any time making excuses about what we did. By taking responsibility we build character, personal empowerment and self-esteem. We build integrity and clarity.

Language

When we are choosing responsibility we use different language to when we are blaming. This helps us to start even the most difficult conversations. When we take responsibility we use “I” language. We let the other person know how we feel and what we are thinking. We avoid blaming them for how we feel or think.

Letting Go and Moving On

When we are choosing responsibility we let go of anger. There is no need for anger when you have the power to change the situation that you are in. Anger is created when you have no choices, when your path is blocked, and when another person has power over you. If you choose responsibility, then you DO have choices and YOU have power over your own life. There is no need for anger. There is also no TIME for anger, as you have the power now to act!

Contemplation

What are three things for which you are taking responsibility in your life?
What effect is taking responsibility having in your life?
What are some things for which you blame other people or other circumstances? What would it look like if you were to choose responsibility over blame?
What are three ways you could have contributed to or caused a given situation in your life?
Why do we need to forgive ourselves in order to take responsibility?

Techniques

Accomplice

There are many techniques that we can use to help us (or someone else) to choose responsibility over blame. One way is to see if you can move part of the way. Often people have trouble taking on the perspective that they are 100 percent responsible. However, people can often see how they contributed to a situation, or at least went along with it. So by asking yourself to see how you were an “accomplice” in this matter, you are allowing yourself to take a big step towards becoming responsible.

Extreme Perspective

This is a great technique that allows you to feel the power of responsibility. Do this; describe how you are not the tiniest bit responsible for a situation. How it was all someone else‘s fault. Then describe how you are 100 percent responsible. How you must have “at some level” caused or attracted everything to happen. Now notice the difference between both extreme points of view. Then ask yourself, which of the viewpoints will allow you to move forward towards what you want.

I hope you found this topic of particular interest. This is by always acting as if your are on the ‘cause’ side you are stepping into your personal power and personal empowerment.

You do make a choice each time…your decision will either give you power or take it away.

References

Goleman, Daniel, Boyatzis, Richard & McKee, Annie, 2002. Primal Leadership. Learning to Lead with Emotional Intelligence, Harvard Business School Press, U.S.A.

For now if you’d like to begin to explore how to stop participating in the Blame Game go ahead and ask for an Introductory Consultation today.

Also, the e-book “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” (also available in a Kindle version) is packed with teachings, questions and exercises to help you move to the “cause” side of the equation.

I’d like to thank ICA for their support and inspiration for this topic.

Unconsciousness Beliefs and Personal Success – Part III (warriormindcoach.com)
The Magical Approach to Personal Empowerment (warriormindcoach.com)
Reframing For Personal Power – Part I (warriormindcoach.com)
Personal Empowerment and Responsibility – Part I (warriormindcoach.com)

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Personal Empowerment and Responsibility – Part I

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Jun 082011

Many people, when they hear the word Responsibility, immediately associate it with burden or having to carry a load. Ironically, it is exactly the opposite. Responsibility leads to Freedom. When you take on the perspective that you created a situation, you can change or modify it. With this realization comes a feeling of power and freedom. However, if you take on the perspective that someone or something else caused the situation, then you have NO ability to change it and you are left feeling powerless and resentful.

This is basis of Cause & Effect. When you are at ‘cause’ you are taking responsibility for your results. When you are on the ‘effect’ side, you have no personal power, you play the victim.

Cause = Results = Hero

Effect = Reasons = Victim

When we are blaming someone or something else, we are actually giving away our personal power and putting ourselves in the place of being a victim. You see, if every situation is completely the fault of someone or something else, then our hands are bound. We have no choice but to accept it. When we choose to blame, we choose a burden.

If, however, we decide that every situation is something that we created (being at cause), then we are back in control. We can make choices, which will change or at least change the situation. When we choose to take responsibility, we choose freedom.

Responsibility = Freedom + Personal Empowerment

Blame = Loss of Freedom + Disempowerment

Perspective Choice

Responsibility is not just a way to act; it is a way to view our entire lives. It is a perspective that we can choose our personal empowerment. Often we think that a situation just is. It is either our fault, or someone else‘s or maybe even just fate. It will not occur to us that we are choosing a perspective.

Instead, our view of the situation appears to be the “truth”. However, by shifting perspective from blame to responsibility, we can alter the “truth” of the situation. We can change the situation from one where we are powerless, to one where we are empowered.

In any given situation you are either taking responsibility (cause) or you are blaming (effect). It’s one or the other. When you notice you are blaming, you can immediately choose responsibility and gain new freedom in any area of your life. Whether you are blaming others, or simply fate, you can reframe your perspective from blame to responsibility and then freedom.

The Blame Game

There are many reasons why we blame others for the way things are in our lives. Perhaps we are fearful that if we take responsibility we will then be blamed if things go wrong. Perhaps we don‘t fully understand our personal power and don‘t believe that we can choose the life we really want. Perhaps blame seems the easiest way to respond.

Blame is extremely seductive. When you play the Blame Game, you do not have to take responsibility for your life. Decisions are left up to everyone else. Life becomes easier (but only in the short-term!) because there are no choices to make; everyone else makes them for you.

Playing the Blame Game can become addictive. If a person persists in maintaining that someone else is to blame for their problems, this perception can radically distort their view of reality. This further limit’s their choices, making them want to play the Blame Game even more. After a time the Blame Game becomes like a record stuck in a groove, with the same disempowering thoughts supporting more disempowering thoughts.

People who play the Blame Game may then unknowingly mentor others in the Blame Game. Families, workplaces and even whole societies can become infected and then trapped in a culture of blame.

Goleman, Boyatzis and McKee in their book, “Primal Leadership, Learning to Lead with Emotional Intelligence”, refer to this as the ‘open loop’. An open loop is the emotional flow between two people. If one person in the emotional loop is releasing negative energy then this can flow into the open loop making the conversation negative. If positive emotional energy is flowing then this will move through the open loop.

How the Blame Game is Played

I‘m sure you recognize the Blame Game. Here are its rules:

Always look outside of yourself for those responsible for doing “it” to you.
Believe that you are powerless to change anything.
Accept that others are stronger, smarter and more resourceful than you.

How to Stop Playing the Blame Game

Know that no one can make you feel anything without your permission.
Understand that responsibility is a privilege and start becoming responsible for yourself.
Accept that you are human and will make mistakes and this is okay.
Realize that not making a choice is making a choice.

Unfortunately, what we don’t realize when we play the Blame Game is that as long as we blame other people or external conditions for what is happening to us, we have no control over our own lives. We become helpless victims of circumstance.

Blame keeps us from fully enjoying life and engaging in our lives. When we view responsibility as a privilege, instead of as a burden, we are truly awakened to the many possibilities in our lives.

Forgiveness

Letting go of blame often involves forgiveness. Forgiving others, and ourselves, doesn‘t mean that we make whatever happened right. It simply means that we let go and embrace the present. Forgiveness is self focus. Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person, but it has everything to do with us. When we forgive someone, we release ourselves, and free ourselves from the burden of blame. As soon as we stop blaming and decide to forgive, we can let go of that which brings us pain, and embrace the possibility of something else.

Two great processes for forgiveness are Time Empowerment® and ho’oponopono, which is associated with the ancient Hawaiian teaching of Huna.

Forgiving Ourselves

Before you can end the Blame Game you have to learn not to blame yourself. Often we are our own harshest critics. If we make a mistake, instead of accepting that this is a normal part of the human journey, we tell ourselves that we have failed because we are bad or wrong! Others may have trained us into this mode of thinking.

Unwittingly, parents, teachers and others in authority can mentor us into the Blame Game. However we got into this habit, our wish to avoid feeling bad or wrong, makes us look around for other things or people to blame.

Responsibility is not about blaming yourself. Responsibility is not about feeling bad or wrong. Responsibility is about accepting that you have choices ahead of you in the future. Your past choices are gone. They no longer matter. They are never worth blaming yourself for. Responsibility is about giving up on the chance of a different past and focusing on choosing the future.

When something goes wrong, the Blame Game offers us three options:

We are bad and wrong.
Someone else is bad or wrong.
The situation is out of our control.

Next week we’ll take a closer look at each of the options.

For now if you’d like to begin to explore how to stop participating in the Blame Game go ahead and ask for an Introductory Consultation today.

I’d like to thank ICA for their support and inspiration for this topic.

Forgiveness and Personal Power (warriormindcoach.com)

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Forgiveness and Personal Power

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May 032011

In our “Beyond Limits” class last night the topic was forgiveness. Now I’ll be the first to admit that this topic is still one I’m trying to understand at a deeper level.

You see, when I first heard about and even thought about forgiving someone I thought it was indicating that what ever action the person did was acceptable. This is why I found it extremely difficult to forgive certain individuals.

Then as I continued on my path I discovered that this is NOT what forgiveness is. As we were told in class last night, forgiveness is allowing the person safe passage through our mind. Another definition we discussed is: “forgiveness is forever giving up the right to ever bring up again that which you forgave.”

Another interesting aspect of forgiveness is in relation to The Law of Attraction. If, as we have been told and it has been proven, that we are all connected at some level. And if everything is energy, then by us not forgiving we are in essence ‘holding back.’ And “as we so so shall we reap”, that is, by us holding back energy, then that aspect of us that is the Universe must hold back as well. When we forgive, we release energy and this energy must circulate and come back to us.

Like I said…this is an ongoing practice for me to understand and practice forgiveness.

Every culture, spiritual practice and religion at its core has a concept of forgiveness…gee…do you think it’s important!?

In the support of forgiveness there are two concepts of power and peace. Last night we contemplated power (I’ll call it personal power) the definition we were asked to consider is that “power is asking for what you want and accepting what you get.”

For peace we were asked to contemplate that “peace is giving up that ‘something is wrong here.”

An interesting contemplation is that by focusing on the past with unforgiveness, lack of personal power and lack of peace, can it be that we are possible creating or recreating the very things was want to get out of or get rid of?

OK…so those are some of the topics associate with forgiveness.

The question now is, how does one forgive?

There are numerous methods for forgiving or at least looking at a situation that might need forgiveness. One is the Hawaiian form of forgiveness ho’oponopono. I discussed this in a previous post “Time For Some Physical and Emotional Cleaning”. Another great process is “The Sedona Method” cofounded by Hale Dwoskin. And one more that has to deal with relationships is Byron Katie’s “The Work.”

Last night we were introduced to another method, and I don’t know if it actually has a name and for now I’ll call it “beyond forgives.”

Here’s the process:

Step 1: Write down the name of the person that you have the issue with (that requires forgiveness for you to move on).

Step 2: Write down your inauthentic way being when you are around them. That is, if you are normally a fun, outgoing and carefree person, do you with withdraw? The key here is to see how and what you change into when you are around this person. What type of façade or mask do you put on? So, your authentic self is NOT how you act when you are mad at someone, but how you are “normally”…this is your authentic self. Then what happens when you are near this person…this is your inauthentic self

Step 3: Contemplate, what is the impact of this way of being to others in your life? For example, if you’re having a good time talking with friends and the person you are mad at walks by, how does your metamorphosis…you’re inauthentic way of being, affect the others? Do you change the subject from something happy to complaining about the person? Do you withdraw from the conversation completely? Do people notice the shift and not want to be around you? For ever action there is a reaction. When you shift your energy to an inauthentic way of being there are ramifications…what are they?

Step 4: Ask, “What can I give up?” Can you give up being distant? Can you give up the anger? To help answer this question I strongly recommend looking into “The Sedona Method” and “The Work.” Both of these processes provide excellent re-frame’s to allow you to release and let go.

In my 2 ½ Day Intensive, The 2^nd Passage, I spend a significant amount of time on forgiveness and the results are amazing.

In order for personal growth, personal development and personal empowerment to occur for you, you MUST practice the art of forgiveness. Forgiveness is essential in living a rich, full, happy and meaningful life…and this is what you want, isn’t it?

I hope this gave you something to think about and consider looking into how forgiveness can help you reclaim your personal power so that you can live a life filled with joy!

Oh yea…here’s a great re-mix of Dolly Parton – Peace Train (Junior Vasquez Extended Club Mix). I guess it fits with forgiveness…I just really like it!

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Baggage and Personal Empowerment

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Apr 192011

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Over the past few weeks on Tuesday, I’ve been highlighting a topic or topics from a class I’m taking (Beyond Limits). This is a 10 week class that investigates how we ‘think our reality into existence.’

The information we’re studying has been around for thousands of years, and more recently has been named “New Thought.” If you’ve ever heard of Michael Beckwith, John Randolph Price or Ernest Holmes, these are all “New Thought” leaders. The move “The Secret” in large part is centered on “New Thought”, but it only scratches the surface of assisting you with your own personal empowerment.

One area we discussed last night was a section in the book “Repacking Your Bags: Lighten Your Load for the Rest of Your Life.”

SIDE BAR – I developed a saying about 20 years ago after I started dating again after a divorce and this was “Everyone has baggage; just make sure the contents are cleaned and folded nice.” It appears that this message went out to the Universe and was picked up by Richard J. Leider and David A. Shapiro (the authors of the book)

Anyway, back to class…we talked about the first five areas for “Repacking Reflections”. These are my interpretations:

1 – Rediscover your Hidden Talents:

Life is all about creating. If you take a look at Nature, creation is going on constantly. Nothing in this world would exist without mans ability to create. Talents are the creative core of you life. I look at talent as those things you are naturally good at and skills are something you have learned. So, let me ask you, what exactly are you creating through your talents? Have you become so focused on our skills that your talents have been neglected?

I see talents as a doorway to our Soul, when are deeply involved in using our talents we are connected with our Higher-Self, and we are connected with our Higher-Self amazing things happen! When was the last time you really exercised your talent muscle? If you have forgotten what your talent(s) are, ask a close friend, they see your talents all the time. If you feel uncomfortable about asking a friend or family member, find a coach and with work with them. The key here is rediscover that part of you that makes you com alive and start to express that on a regular basis.

Are you expressing your talents fully? If not, how can you?

2 – Reclaim You Purpose:

Talents develop best when coupled with your purpose, or at least a worthwhile cause. In The 2^nd Passage we discover a person Purpose, and then help create a Vision and develop a Mission around it.

I look at your Purpose as why you are here, your Vision as how your going to express your Purpose and your Mission is how you are going life “into” your Vision…that is, who are going to be to make your Vision a reality. When all of those three are aligned and you add in your talents…well then you’ll be living a life of Power, Purpose and Passion!

If you haven’t discovered your purpose yet, that’s OK…it will always be there ready for you to find it. And until then, you still can utilize your talents. When you use your talent in support of something you truly believe in, you will feel more energetic, more committed, and more enthusiastic about everything you do.

Have you discovered or reclaimed your purpose? If not, what can you do to find it?

3 – Reinvent Your Job:

You may have loved your job at one time, or perhaps you still do. But when things are repeated over and over again become mundane, boring and mechanical. What once was brought you satisfaction now leads to and brings dissatisfaction. Everything we enjoy and love will become stale if we don’t renew them regularly.

Even if your current career isn’t your aligned with your purpose, mission or even leveraging your talents, you still can bring back the spark that once lead you to what you’re doing. If what you’re doing is just to “pay the bills”, you still can reinvent your job…and I would say it might be a “must” if you desire to attract more income.

Remember, “How you do anything is a tendency on how you do everything.” If you can’t reinvent your job, what else in your life can’t you reinvent or rekindle…like your relationship?

So, are you regularly reinventing your job, or just complaining about the way things are? Are you on the look out for solutions to problems or issues you can be passionate about? How can you reinvent your job (and your life) so you get up every morning excited about the possibilities that are ahead?

4 – Reassign Your Higher Council

(In the book it is labeled “Reelect Your Personal Board of Directors)

Most of us can trace our success to significant support from other people. These people could have been friends, family, real or even fictitious. We may not be aware, but at many critical times or decision we hear a voice in our head providing guidance. Unfortunately we have another voice trying to stop us.

What you want to do here is to “reassign” who is going sit on your High Council…the ones that will provide support and encouragement and let the others go that do not provide what you are looking for.

So, take a look at your Purpose, Vision or Mission…if you don’t have that, then think of something big you want to accomplish. The think of the important relationships that have sustained you along the way and the new ones you want to create. Who are the people in your life that you’ve relied on for counsel an advice and how else can you add that will help you achieve your personal goal and reach your personal success?

Here’s the great thing….you never have to ask them! You create a virtual Higher Council in your imagination. You can also think of them as your own personal board of directors. Picture yourself at the meeting with your Council, perhaps you are all sitting around a round table.

Who is there? Where is everyone sitting – including you? Then, as you sit there, right now, what issues would you like to bring before the Council? You know them all (at some level) and you know what they would say to you it they were really physically there with you. What kind of support are you looking for?

5 – Resharpen Your Growth Edge:

I’m a big believer and supporter of personal growth and personal empowerment. If you’re not learning at the same rate, or better, than the pace of change in today’s environment…you’ll be left behind. This applies to personal and professional growth equally.

There have been hundreds of advances in personal develop via the brain, exercise, nutrition and NLP…to name a few. Equally there have been leaps made in how business is being conducted.

Just like a successful company invests in its R&D department you too need to research new opportunities and develop new skills. You are a good learner…you’ve made this far on everything you’ve learned…keep it up. Learning brings a sense of aliveness.

What are you excited about learning. How can you continually sharpen your growth edge?

When you look at “repacking” or any of the other “re’s” above you are at the center of them all! This repacking and resifting provides a great opportunity for personal empowerment and personal development.

If you haven’t found your purpose, vision or mission yet, or you feel like you’re just going through the motions, take a look at The 2^nd Passage. These 2 ½ days will absolutely turn your life around!

OK…please let me know your thoughts on the subject of “repacking” in the comments below.

Warrior Mind Podcast Episode 31- Know Your Purpose (warriormindcoach.com)
Spring Cleaning For The Mind (warriormindcoach.com)
Acknowledging for Personal Growth – Part I (warriormindcoach.com)

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Mental Strength Tip #13 – Personal Success Starts With Integrity

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Nov 012010

Achieving peak personal performance and personal success begins with a mental strength mindset and empowering beliefs. Personal success starts in the mind and finishes with peak performance…taking massive action.

This is one in a series of mental strength tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach you peak performance, personal success and develop your personal empowerment.

I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions. The intention of these ‘sessions’ is for you to write the questions in a success journal reflect on them and answer them.

This series of posts is for YOU! If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To help you make the connection between self image and behavior and assist you in conduct in manner the builds and demonstrates confidence and self-esteem. One leads to the other, regardless of the order. That is, you can think of yourself as confident and a great self-image and you will have the behavior to go along with it. Or you can “act as if” and this in turn will change how you see yourself (self-image). When both are aligned, you are taking action from integrity.

For the purpose of the tip integrity is when what you think, say and do are the same. When a person is in integrity personal success and peak personal performance come with ease.

Let’s Get Started:

Let, me as you….whom do you admire when it comes to conducting themselves in public and private, in a manner that you would describe as coming from integrity?

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

Why did you select this person as your role model of integrity?
How often do you qualify as behaving in integrity in your everyday life?
What would it take for you to behave in integrity all the time?

Unsupportive Beliefs about Integrity

You can only have integrity when you have money and no financial worries.
It’s easy to have integrity if you can afford all the latest styles, fashions and gadgets
Integrity is something you’re taught only if you grow up in a privilege situation.

Mental Strength Beliefs about Integrity

Integrity is about self respect and respect for others.
Integrity has nothing to do with money. It’s about behaving in a manner that matches your self-image, inner dialogue and actions.
Integrity is a reflection of your inner beliefs and values. The more you think of these and take corresponding action, the integral you will be.

Outrageous Questions:

What makes you believe integrity has anything to do with success and money?
Who taught you your beliefs about integrity?
Is it possible your self image is holding you back from a higher level of integrity?

Reflective Questions:

On a scale of 1 to 7, 7 being highest, how would you rate yourself in the terms of you exhibiting integrity in your daily life?
Do you believe there’s a link between self-image and integrity?
Do you think the integrity (or lack of) exhibit has an impact on your relationships?

Mental Strength Coaching:

Once you’ve made the connection between self-image and integrity, it’s time to address the issues that are eroding your level of self respect. I encourage you to really see yourself as the most integral person on the plant. This will allow the kind of behavior that goes with that vision to unfold. By doing this, you’ll be able to ‘test drive’ what it feels like to have the mental strength aspect of rock solid integrity. The longer you ‘pretend’ to be this person, the more you’ll prefer to operate in this mode. Loving and respecting yourself feels great, and carrying that into your interactions with others just adds to the jubilations you’ll experience.

Final Thought

Some might say that integrity can’t be coached, that’s it’s; something you just have or you don’t…don’t buy into it! Almost anything can be coached if the coach is competent enough to break it down in to small steps and patient enough to give the person time to grasp it. I encourage you to select a role model and simply pretend to be this person when it comes to operating from integrity. Walk a mile in their shoes, and watch the transformation begin. You’ll then have the mental strength to be aligned for peak person performance and personal success.

If you’d like to get started on developing radical mental strength for personal development, personal empowerment or personal success request your Introductory Consultation.

Also, “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” is a fantastic e-book that helps you develop awareness, consciousness and mental strength with a step-by-step plan.

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Warrior Mind Podcast – Episode 16 – Interpreting the Magi Code

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Oct 242010

In the last podcast we discussed a technique called “Over the Wall” or as I refer to it “Through the Vail”.

In the podcast I’m going to go over ways of interpreting the symbols you received during this journey to help with your personal success.

Below the podcast are bullet points discussed:

Out run the editing function of the conscious mind so that personal performance can be easier achieved.

Exfirmation ( filtered info)

Bring into conscious focus with mental strength.

All info in consciousness is encoded as representations as VAOKG. This of an experience as a complex of I/R.

Our I/R (image)

Content – What it is

Process – how it is presented in the mind

Submodalities

The more the detailed the description of the image the more info there is to interpret, the more your personal empowerment.

Observe – describe – interpret

I/R is a metaphor based on our experience vocabulary.

This is why methodology and stories are so powerful…they go directly into our subconsciousness.

After setting intention/posing question cross through the vial and keep describing until end or an ah-ha comes. Don’t stop and try to interpret the message/images.

Get three different “answers” (images/scenes) then compare similarities and differences. Use the process triangulation (3 points coming together at the same location). Reoccurring associations

Notice facts (characteristics) vs. feelings (interruptions, projections, mind reads)

Make a list of images and associations/interpretations. List on left side of paper the images and then on the right side the corresponding association or interpretations.

Us the “when/then”…”When I saw…then I…”

Only you can interpret your messages.

If beliefs changes I/R and images will change as well!

Let me hear what you felt about this podcast in the comments below.

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Mental Strength Tip #10 – Segmenting Emotions

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Oct 182010

This is one in a series of mental strength tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach you peak performance, personal success and develop your personal empowerment.

This series of posts is for YOU! If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To help you build the skill and confidence of focusing on one problem or challenge at a time. By developing this mental strength aspect you’ll be able to address a number of situations with confidence and ease. You’ll then be better prepared to achieve your personal success.

Let’s Get Started:

Let me ask you something….think about this carefully…how do you handle multiple problems, challenges, etc without becoming emotionally overwhelmed? Or don’t you?

Being able to look at, assess and find solutions to one issue at a time, not only exercises your mental strength, but it helps progress you towards peak performance.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

What’s the best technique you’re learned for segmenting your emotions?
Do you believe the ability to segment is something you’re born with or something you learn?
How do you think the president of a country or military leader segments their emotions while making life and death decisions?

Unsupportive/Limiting Beliefs about Segmentation

Segmenting is only important during crisis situations
You can’t learn to segment emotions. You either have the skill or your don’t
You can’t practice segmenting emotions

Mental Strength Beliefs about Segmentation

Practicing segmentation is an ongoing process that never ends
Segmentation is a skill you build through practice and discipline
Segmentation gives you the ability to focus on the most critical task and keep you from becoming emotionally overwhelmed

Outrageous Questions:

If you were better at segmenting would be farther ahead in you personal success?
How skilled are you at directing and controlling your mental strength energy?
How often do you become overwhelm emotionally?

Reflective Questions:

How can you improve you segmentation skills?
How can I help you improve your segmentation skills?
How can improving this skill help you with your personal success, peak performance becoming more fulfilled?

Mental Strength Coaching:

Observe yourself in pressure situations where focusing exclusively on one problem at time is a necessity. Now for the ‘fun’ part…see how many challenges you can throw at yourself (or ask some on to help you) before you become emotionally overwhelmed and experiences a mild mental “meltdown.” One you know where this breaking point is, become aware of the exact point where it happens. Then develop a plan to slowly expand your capacity/comfort zone a little at time.

One good way is what some military and paramilitary personal do; they use the “WIN” formula. WIN stands for “What’s Important Now?” When you know what is important at this every moment, you can address it and move on to the next issue. If however you get stuck in thinking about ALL the issues, you’ll be parallelized and not take any action.

Final Thought

The size of the leader can be measured by their mental strength capacity to handle multiple challenges without becoming emotionally paralyzed. The skill of segmentation is being able to maintain focus at the task at hand, no matter what is happening on the outside. It’s all about harnessing mental strength energy and consciously directing it towards the task at hand without distraction.

If you’d like to get started on developing your mental strength for personal development, personal empowerment or personal success, request your Introductory Consultation.

Also, “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” is a fantastic e-book that helps you develop awareness, consciousness and mental strength with a step-by-step plan.

OK…now it’s your turn! Let me know about your thoughts on this subject in the comments below.

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Warrior Mind Podcast – Over The Wall

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Oct 172010

This week’s podcast is on a process called “Over The Wall”

Milton Erikson once said that people see hypnotherapists because they are out of rapport with their unconsciousness mind (I’m paraphrasing).

Truth is, the majority of us are out of rapport with our unconsciousness mind and we don’t even know it. We can tell we’re out of tune when we look at our results and we’re not getting what we want, i.e. personal success, peak performance, personal empowerment, etc.

Imagine streaming is one method used to set-up the connection with our unconsciousness mind. It was developed by Win Winger from Project Renaissance.

In the podcast below I go over how to imagine stream and what are some of the benefits.

Most of this presentation is a single experience, a hands-on encounter with a combination Socratic and Einsteinian procedure known as “Over-the-Wall.” The remainder of this brief is a script of step-by-step instructions for solving problems or finding answers by means of this method. Our hope is that, with the experience you receive here, plus this script of step-by-step instructions, you will be able to carry forward freely to address any and all issues around you with full creative ingenuity by means of this specific method.

For this procedure you need another person as a live listener, or a tape recorder as “potential listener,” which evokes from you a response very different from when you use a purely imaginary listener or “describe to yourself.”

The “Over-the-Wall” procedure has been called other things as well—the “Revealed Surprise” method and the “Sudden Answer Space” Method. Although it is a receptive visualization—meaning that you give your subtler resources the opportunity to surprise you with what they provide you in answer—”Over-the-Wall” is also in part a directed visualization. The directed part is an imaginary, beautiful garden, bounded on one side by a high wall beyond which you are requested not to look for the time being. Beyond the wall let there be an answer space, the scene where your answer is put on display for you….more