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Welcome back!  This is a series on “positive motivation” bases on a e-course I’m taking.  The foundation of this is Goal Systemsrooted in positive physiology.

These series, and the e-course takes a look at the different aspects of motivation and how they can affect your personal success and reaching your personal goals.

Again, so far we’ve been talking about the “why” and “what” of motivation.  Today we’re going to explore systems for the achievement of personal goals.

The Goal Systems Approach to Motivation

This “goal systems” approach is in mechanistic in nature.  It sees humans similar to robots that need to be correctly programmed in order to achieve their personal goals and objective.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t resonate with the idea that we are like programmable robots! Although at some level we are all programmed, I like to believe that we can choose the programs to install.

Anyway, when this mechanical approach is combined with the humanistic SDT (Self-determination theory) approach, there is a very powerful resulting process.

To introduce the goal-systems perspective, let’s go back to the “why” question of motivation. SDT says it is best to do anything “because it is enjoyable” or “because I believe in it,” (intrinsic) and not “because I have to” or “because I ought to” (extrinsic).

But if you think about it, the “why” of many behaviors of yourself or others, it very often turns out to be a bit more complex than simply “how I feel about it.” Often one goal is related to another and they can be more accurately described by statements such as “because I needed to complete X before I could move on to Z” or “because X brings me closer to Z.” In this arrangement, X (the lower-level goal) supplies the “how” of Z (the higher-level goal), and Z supplies the “why” for X.

This is how I coach around setting goals.  I have my clients determine an “achievable outcome”, something one year out.  Then they set SMARTER goals for 1, 3, 6, and 9 months out.  The we break it down into strategies, tactics and an action plan.

This has worked VERY well.  So let’s take a look several points in a goals setting system.

Goal Systems Point 1: Hierarchical Organization

This point illustrates, action is hierarchically organized, that is longer-term goals, principles, and values set the agenda for shorter-term skills, processes, and procedures. Then the shorter-term action steps give the means of bridging the gap the between the present state and a desired future state.

In other words, short-term goals act like stepping-stones that help break up overwhelming goals and give us a clear path for progress.  In NLP terms we call this “chunking down.”

Imagine, for example you want to write a book. If you sat in front of a blank page on your computer screen and thought about the overwhelming task of churning out a 350 page story, you might give up, even though it is a meaningful goal to you.

Instead, what you would do is chunk down writing the book into smaller goals. You might consider writing a page or a chapter per day. Then these smaller goals will seem much easier to carry out and still putt you on the road to the long-term goal.

Goal systems are how we pull ourselves into the future — first envisioning, and then actually creating, how we want things to be. In addition, most if not all of  our momentary behaviors can be located somewhere within the overall system.

The ideal action system should have a clear set of characteristics. First, every goal, at every level, should be furnished with lower-level plans, skills, and procedures, that allow people to keep bridging the gap between the present state and desired future state.

Bringing this concept back to reality, ‘self-regulatory’ tools are necessary in order to pursue personal goals effectively and efficiently. That is, goals are not just products of random luck or the shotgun approach.  Succeeding at them is not a matter of effortless trial and error.

Instead, we have to be in control of our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and often at a conscious level in order to succeed. First, we need to be able to keep the goal in mind; second, we need to be able to mentally compare it to our current situation, noticing discrepancies between the goal and the current situation; third, we need to be able to act effectively to bridge the gap, and fourth, we need to be able to detect when the discrepancy is gone (when we have achieved the goal!), so we can stop taking action and celebrate!

The Four Steps of Goal Systems

  1. Keep the goal in mind
  2. Evaluate our current situation, and be able to compare it to where we want to be in terms of the ultimate goal.
  3. Understand what actions we need to take in order to reduce the discrepancy and move closer to the goal.
  4. Recognize when we have achieved the goal so we can quit working and pat ourselves on the back!

Goal Systems Point 2: Goal Conflict

A second positive goal system characteristic is, goals should be consistent with each other, and not conflict with one another.

For example, it would be hard to simultaneously achieve the goals of becoming an Olympic level athlete and reading all of the masterpieces of world literature! The problem here would be a time conflict.  There also can be material conflicts between goals, i.e. ”I want to own a private yacht and helicopter” but “I am dedicated to the idea of working in the non-profit sector for a low salary.” As well as logical conflicts between goals, i.e. to “become a more agreeable and cooperative person” may conflict with the goal to “aggressively grow my business by beating out the local competition”.

Chronic goal conflict is associated with chronic low-level stress and with increasing health problems over time, and thus it is worth the effort to untangle and sort out any such conflicts.

In NLP parts integration might be used to resolve these types of conflicts.  People who actively pursue conflicting goals find themselves frustrated, ambivalent, or stretched thin.

So far we’ve discussed that in a “positive goal system,”

  • Desired outcomes should be helped by goals at lower levels of the system, and should help goals at higher levels of the system.
  • People should be able to realize when action is needed towards a goal, and take action effectively.
  • Goals should not conflict with other goals at the same level of the system, and ideally, would help and support those same-level goals.

So, how can we tell if these are the case?

One way is to diagram your own goal system thoroughly, and to explore the helpful and harmful interconnections between the different goals.

Goal Systems Point 3: The Importance of Success Expectancies

A very important issue for motivation, from the goal systems perspective, is a person’s expectancies for success. Having high expectations for success (or a high sense of self-efficacy) provides many resources.

For example, when unexpected difficulties emerge, high-expectancy people do not immediately become discouraged and withdraw their effort; No…dig into their mental strength and keep going, and why shouldn’t they, after all this is the warrior mentality.

They expect to succeed in the end. Having high expectancies also allows us to proceed with social confidence and conviction, persuading and selling others on our intentions and thereby securing their help and cooperation.

But what if a person’s expectations seem overly optimistic, unrealistic, or even self-delusory? This can happen, but there this is still an open question of “how unrealistic is too unrealistic?” The existing research suggests that overall, positive illusions provide more benefits than drawbacks, often helping people turn former illusions into current reality. As a result, the take-home message for motivators is:

Always display confidence in your or your friends’ abilities to do what needs to be done, and do not be too quick to criticize your or their high ambitions!

Goal Systems Point 4: Approach and Avoidance Goals Differ

Another important distinction from the goal systems perspective is between approach motivation and avoidance motivation. In NLP we take about “move away from” and “move towards” goals.

Approach motivation is working toward a desirable future outcome, such as making a sale or getting a new client, whereas avoidance motivation refers to trying to avoid an undesirable outcome, such as trying not to get fired or not becoming overweight.

Most goals fall into approach or avoidance. The research shows that approach framing is preferable — both for promoting greater performance and achievement, and for promoting better mood and feeling.

Why?

First, avoidance goals contain an implied reference to failure, which can in the end automatically cue failure. If I am trying not to fail, I am aware of failure as a constant possibility. Just think of when we tell children “Don’t spill your drink!” – and then they do – at least in part because we primed that thought in them!

Second, achieving an approach goal simply requires finding one path to success, from among the many paths that may be available; in contrast, achieving an avoidance goal requires avoiding (or fending off) all possible paths to failure. The latter is often more difficult.

Third, the goal system is built to take action, not to avoid action. This makes avoidance goals logically awkward to pursue.

The take-home message for motivators is therefore:

Try to use approach (moving towards) rather than avoidance (moving away from) framing, whenever possible.

This can extend even to goals like “lose weight;” as framed, this has an avoidance component (avoid weight), and might be better framed as “exercise more” or “eat better.”

Review:

  1. In this post, we discussed the goal systems viewpoint upon motivation. This mechanistic approach, “positive motivation” means to be a high-functioning “robot”, with a well-constructed goal system full of action plans, strategies, skills, sensory acuity, and tactics, and with little conflict between goals. In this case, one makes swift progress towards the goals in the system.
  2. Goal systems thinking can tell us a lot about the “how” and “why” of motivation, by showing which higher-level goals supply the “why” for lower-level goals, and which lower-level goals supply the “how” for higher-level goals. They can also further clarify the “how” with concepts such as planning, bridging the gap, execution intent, and preparation.
  3. But we also noticed that goal system theories don’t talk about how the higher-level goals get into the system in the first place, i.e. did I really decide to become a doctor or this what my parents wanted?
  4. This shows the importance of picking goals that represent one’s true values, interests, and dispositions, rather than the insistence of others – in this case the Self owns the goal system, rather than being owned by it.

OK…I hope you go a lot out of this post…I know I did!  So…what are your thoughts?  Let me know in the comments below.

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Let’s take a short trip.  Close your eyes…well not now, first read the next paragraph. Close your eyes and remember a inner strengthtime in your life when you felt inspired and excited to make a significant change. What happened? Did you go for it or did your inner obstacles get in the way?

Your beliefs, thoughts and feelings are the foundation on which you build your mental strength, hence your personal success. A solid house can’t built on a foundation of shifting sand, or a compose pile.  The same applies to achieving success by using mental strength.

If your beliefs that lead to your thoughts are shaky, scattered and uncontrolled, they will creates internal obstacles that will hold you back unless you destroy them.

Many times it’s our “good intention” friends, colleagues and family members who plant the seed of doubt by trying to talk you out of changing your path. It is when you decide to make a better life for yourself that your decision will be met by all kinds of warnings and cry’s of “look out!”

People will tell you “That sounds great, but do you have any idea how much that will cost you or how long it’ll take to get the kind of result you want?” Or, “What makes you think YOU can do that?” Or, “Why in the world do you want to change? Just put in your time and be happy.”  Or the big one…”What will happen if . . .?”

Regardless of who and where this “advice come from, they only serve to increase your level of anxiety and self doubts. The best way to handle such opinions is to say what my good friend T. Harv Eker says, “Thanks for sharing” and then immediately forget what they said.

Learning to handle obstacles is the best way to exercise your inner strength, stand your ground and succeed. While listening or running away only serves to undermines your self esteem.

The Universe presents you with these challenges in order for you to learn to how to develop mental strength, grow stronger and more confident in yourself.

To succeed at overcoming obstacles you need to have the mental strength to stick through any adversity, if you truly believe in your personal goals.  You must see things through; to have the mindset to believe more in yourself than in the obstacles and to have the willingness to do what it takes to turn the obstacles around.

This means, you need to stand up to your obstacles and not just believe you can overcome them, but take action AND overcome them! When you attack your obstacles head-on, you’ll find that they will simply evaporate.  Heck, you might even have some fun at the same time.

Standing up to and conquering your obstacles develops the inner strength within you and creates sense of accomplishment that reinforces the sense of your personal power. By developing mental strength habits, you instill into your psyche a strong message of endurance and success. This strengthens the belief in yourself and what you can accomplish.

Sometimes you may have to resort to some other measures to overcome obstacles. Here a few simple yet powerful techniques to assist you in developing mental strength

Contemplation:

Ask yourself if the obstacle can be ignored. Your fixation of the problem only renders it more cumbersome. If possible, stop paying attention to it. Remember, energy flows where attention goes and results show.

Use humor to neutralize obstacle. This helps to diffuse the tension around the issue.

Take the bull by the horn and address the challenge head-on. This might be challenging at first, particularly if you are not used to confrontation. Yet the more you do it, the easier it will become.

Action Steps:

1.See obstacles as a learning to move you forward, fail forward fast!

2. Repeat loudly as often as necessary to yourself: “I have overcome this”, or “This to shall pass.”

3. Confront obstacles as habits of success (and not of failure.)

4. Develop the ability to overcome, bypass, or eliminate obstacles.

5. When difficult circumstances arise, take massive and immediate action.

You can only allow other people to put obstacles in your path, you either accept them or not, it’s totally up to you. Learn how to develop mental strength by standing up to the challenges without complaining. Have the mental strength to change your thoughts and beliefs that you can succeed and you will reach peak personal performance.

If you’d like to find out more about developing mental strength, inner strength and how to step into your personal power and become a better communicator so that you can achieve personal success sooner, pick up a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior” today.

If you’d really like to make fast progress towards realizing your full personal power and potential as well as develop the mindset of confidence, request your Introductory Consultation today!

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Setting goals, concentration and imagery are basic mental strength skills which are crucial in sports and personal Inner Strengthperformance.

However, what does an athlete do exactly whenever worry and anxiety find their way into your thoughts at and during a competition and jeopardize their performance?

Symptoms of nervousness; things like sweaty hands, rushing heart, edginess, tight muscles, doubts, worry as well as trouble concentrating tend to be typical experiences for a lot of sports athletes.  However, they are particularly disturbing right before and especially during competition. Make no doubt about it, this stress and anxiety WILL have a detrimental impact on overall performance.

And so, what can an athlete do?

Change Your Perception

When I have discussed anxiousness previously, it had been emphasized that on occasion, stress and anxiety may harm performance, but not necessarily all the time. Sadly, it’s often the case that when an athlete experiences anxiety, or nervousness before a competition, he or she automatically thinks, “oh no, I am nervous…this is not good…this is going to end badly.”

Being nervous and stress should not necessarily be an “oh no” occurrence, as anxiety doesn’t always hurt performance. In fact, various theories help us understand the relationship between anxiety and performance and suggest that anxiety can actually help performance—up to a point.

Think about it from a useful standpoint. Haven’t you found that occasionally a little nervousness or anxiousness gets you primed to compete?

Of course you have.

And maybe it’s all in how we label the emotion.  If we didn’t have words to describe the feeling we would simply acknowledge that we have “a funny feeling.”  Interesting, if you took away the label of anxiety or nervousness and just compared the feeling of the energy, the location of it and the size it, I bet it would almost the exact same as excitement.

Here’s a quick tip, when you begin to get those pre-competition emotion such as anxious or nervousness just reframe it and call it excitement, i.e. “Wow…I’m really feeling excited about this match.” This simple reframe will work wonders!

OK…back to the main issue…

The increased emotions before a competition boost in arousal before and can elevate your heart rate and raise your body temperature, helping your body’s physiological systems get ready for the event. So, be careful in “labeling” any apprehension you experience as damaging and something you need to abolish.

Instead, realize that of what you are experiencing and change your point of view regarding anxiety and its role on performance.

See ‘anxiety’ as something that can help improve your performance and take the necessary steps to keep control of it…I have had much success with athletes and tactical athletes simply reframing/relabeling the feeling to “excitement.” After all, only good things are going to happen when we’re excited right?

Establish Your Most Favorable Anxiety Levels

If you’re going to continue to label the emotion as anxiety, then….

If some anxiety and nervous seems to help performance (at times), but too much anxiety hurts performance, what are you supposed to do?

How much nervousness is the right amount?

The answer…it depends on you.

That is, the best possible anxiety levels are individualized; some athletes have peak performance with a little anxiety, others with modest anxiety and still others with elevated anxiety levels. Think back on your past competitive experiences and begin to access which level you perform best under.

Think back to before your peak performances and take note on how nervous or anxious were you? What were you specifically thinking about and feeling? Now go back to your inferior performances and do the same.   Write them down…just don’t think about them.    You can even at a point score, i.e. very nervous = 5, great performance = 5. This will give you a comparison. You’ll then be able to see patterns emerging that connect certain levels of nervousness to levels of performances.   Now, using mental training, think about duplicating or modeling the exact and identical level of energy (anxiety) that produced the best results.  As opposed to thinking “oh no” when experiencing pre-competition anxiety.

You will need to exercise your mental strength and learn, practice and implement these anxiety management skills regularly. The mental strength skills to manage anxiety are fairly basic and easy to understand, but they are hard to put into implement effectively, especially when they needed the most.

Think about this…how many time do you still see an elite level athletes tensing up and missing a critical field goal, a shot on goal or overthrowing a ball in the baseball game?

Yup…it happens to the best of them.

What Type Are You?

If you’re more prone to be overwhelmed by the physical symptoms of anxiety (as described above), your pre-competition agenda should be to focus on calming your body using techniques like:  controlled breathing, mild massage, stretching, affirmations (mantras), moving around, dynamic warm-ups to stay lose and relaxed.

If you’re more affected but the mental anxiety…the ‘monkey talk’, then your primary focus should be to calm the mind.  Successful skills include; focusing on functional and process goals, use positive self-talk, meditation, listen to music and remind yourself of past successes. The key here is to distract yourself and not think about the “what if’s” and being worried and staying calm and focused.

There is a powerful method that does involve ‘outcome’ visualization.  It’s been found that when an athlete, or any person, is anxious about a particular situation, they are seeing the end results as something they DON’T want, i.e. tripping in a race, not making the shot, etc.

When this comes up an easy method to reverse this is to see yourself a few minutes after successfully completing the task at hand.  Actually visualize yourself seeing the successful completion of the event.  Then come back to ‘now’ and see if you’re still anxious.  If not, give your attention to process that will make this goal a reality.

An important note is that these mental strength skills and techniques must be practiced regularly. Practice them during your training sessions by intentionally setting up situations that will increase your anxiety.  This will present you with a great opportunity to practice your energy (anxiety) management skills.

Understanding The Fundamental Causes of Anxiety

While it is important and critical to have skills to deal with stress sand anxiety, it is likewise, if not more important to look for and identify the “whys” behind nervousness. Why are you more nervous today than you were before the game last week? What’s going on?  Self observation and questioning are crucial in understand how you and why you respond the way you do.

Various research studies have pointed out that the greater the importance of the event, the more pumped-up your anxiety will become. It’s worth noting that the importance is decided by you and no one else. This is why you’ll generally feel greater anxiety before the state championship or regional championship game than you will before a pre-season and apparently “meaningless” competition. In addition, the greater the uncertainty about the event, i.e. who will be there, who’s my competition, etc, the more elevated your anxiety will be.

I know, you’re thinking, “of course there is uncertainty, that the nature of the beast.  There is always uncertainty around who’s going to win” Sure, but you are able to control this uncertainty…the uncertainty in you mind. You need to recognize that while the outcome of an event is uncertain and is completely out of your control.  You can however, control 100% of your performance!

So focusing on the outcome of the game (what you can’t control) instead of on the things you can control (your performance) will, most likely, increase your anxiety. To manage pre-competition anxiety, it will be advantageous to focus on the controllable all aspects of your personal performance…to focus on what you need to do to perform at your best.

The athlete that is focused on controlling of his/her own skills and capabilities will be the one who wins the majority of the time.

Now you have some more mental strength tools to do your best and keep your nerves under control, now go use them and achieve peak personal performance.

What are some of your favorite techniques for eliminating anxiety?  Let me know in the comments below.

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Do we really have free will?Warrior Mind Podcast

Joe Dispenza – Evolve Your Brain and Eldon Taylor – Mind Programming would argue that we don’t…or at least we don’t exercise our free will

We have been programmed…er…educated by teachers, parents, religion, media, peers and friends.

Most of us only make choices on what we know.  We are selecting from a multipart question. i.e. should I do A, B or C today?

If we make choices based ONLY on what new know is that really free will?

Cultural Dictionary Definition of Free Will

The ability to choose, think, and act voluntarily. For many philosophers, to believe in free will is to believe that human beings can be the authors of their own actions and to reject the idea that human actions are determined by external conditions or fate. ( See determinism, fatalism, and predestination.)”

When we use our mental strength and to really start to exercise our free will we will be in our personal power and have the ability for consistent personal success and  peak personal performance.

Here’s today podcast on free will:

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Who Ever You Think You Are, You're More Powerful Then That

Please let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

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Recently, I received an email from an athlete looking for resources to guide him in the “how” of mental strength training. He indicated that he knows a little about the various mental strength skills and the importance of them, but has trouble actually performing the techniques.

This echoes comments I’ve heard from a numerous coaches and athletes.  It also confirms the opinion of many athletes – mental strength/mental training /sport psychology concepts are fairly easy to understand (concentration, self-confidence, goal setting, or motivation) – but these same concepts are tough to learn and difficult to put into practice.

Think for a minute about a wide receiver in football who yells at himself after dropping a critical pass in the end zone to “C’mon…focus…before your blow this game.” Can this athlete, who says he knows about focusing and the importance of keeping his mind in the game, effectively implement a refocusing strategy in the middle of a playoff game? He knows that he should, but can he?

The same could be said for a sales person in the middle of a negotiation.  He/she may be so concerned in making the sale that they lose their mental edge.  Sure, when the deal is done…or not, they can look back and realize what happened, but in the middle of battle…not so much.

Ask yourself this…”Have I learned and developed my mental training enough for my success, or does the wide receiver example have some truth in it for me?”

One of my goals on my post is to address the action part of the mental training and less on the “knowing” part.  Oh yea, did you know that the three deadliest words a person a can say, “I know that.”  We’ll get into how to apply specific mental strength skills in to action so that you’ll be prepared and ready to reach your peak performance.

Let us begin this session with the skill of goal setting. Yea, yea, yea…I can hear you already…not another session on goal setting.  So, let me ask you, if you’re really good at goal setting can you tell me exactly what do you want, how will you know you have it, all the steps necessary to archive it and what’s stopping you from getting it?

Didn’t think so…and that’s OK. I’m here to help you.

You see, most athletes already set goals…kind of…so the challenge is not in setting goals. Rather, the challenge is in setting the correct goals that will influence behavior and achieve your personal goal, that is, in setting effective goals. To do this, we’ll apply scientifically-derived goal setting principles. Research on goals tells us that the following factors consistently enhance the effectiveness of goal setting (1):

  • Goals should be specific (versus • general or “do your best” types of goals)
  • Goals should be moderately difficult so as to challenge
  • Short- and long-term goals should be set
  • Goals that relate to both outcome (e.g., Win, achieve a specific time) and the process of performance (“explode out of the blocks”) are important, but performance goals are controllable
  • Set goals in practice and competition
  • Goals need to be recorded and evaluated

That seems like a lot of things to think about and incorporate and there’s a simple acronym that will help in setting goals: SMARTER

S = Specific (and keep it simple and positive)

M = Measurable (it must be meaningful to you)

A = Achievable (is this something you CAN do?)

R = Realistic (is this goal really reasonable taking into account all areas of your life)

T = Time bound (when are you going achieve this goal)

E = Evaluate (document your results, are you making progress towards your goal?)

R= Revise (if you’re not making progress, or not in the time frame revise your goal or your actions in obtaining it)

The following exercise is one way of how to “do” goal setting effectively. Keep in mind that there is no best way to do this, but there probably is a best or certainly way that is better for you. Your job is to adapt it to your unique situation.

While you will read quickly through the following section, it is meant for you to come back to when you have time and can really put some thought into your responses.

1. Write down your season goal.

Notice the first word—WRITE. Commit this to paper to make it “real” and also enable you to honestly evaluate this and ensuing goals. Is your goal challenging yet realistic for you to accomplish with hard work and dedication? Is it positive?  That is, is it’s something you want instead of something you DON’T want. If you are like most athletes, you did not hesitate in knowing your long term goal.  But are your daily, weekly and monthly goals written down too? By writing down the subsequent “short” term goals and achieving them you’ll automatically achieve your long term goal and hit your peak personal performance.

2. Identify the primary skills and abilities you have and will need to achieve this goal.

Your long-term goal may be to win State or qualify for Nationals, but what is needed to accomplish this? Many athletes and coaches only focus on what’s missing.  This tends to unconsciously emphasize that the athlete is not good enough.  There will ALWAYS be room for improvement and to focus only on those areas can create doubt in the athlete.

Make list (yes another list) of all the qualities you possess in relation to your goal.  Keep adding to this list and read it everyday.  If you don’t think you have any ask a teammate, a coach or a fan.  They’ll be able to give you a ton!

Now on to the areas of improvement…some skills and abilities you may need could include developing greater strength, increasing flexibility, improving a specific aspect of technique or enhancing our emotional control during games.

List, specifically, the things you can and need to do to develop these skills and abilities. For example, suppose you need to develop core strength if you are to achieve your goal of running a sub-11 seconds 100 meters. You will need to identify the specific core exercises and proper progressions to develop this strength. It may be helpful to solicit input from your coach as to specific skills and abilities that will lead to long-term development and success.

4. Based on this goal breakdown, identify one thing you are going to work on today to help you reach your long-term goal. Then, do the same tomorrow and the next day.

Is the goal for practice specific enough such that you (or your coach) will know if you accomplish it? While your daily goal may seem far removed from where you want to be at the end of the season, it is a necessary step to get there.

Goals, when set effectively, can provide direction, enhance training motivation, and build confidence as you see success and improvement (that may otherwise go unnoticed). OK, now it’s time for you to get to work on the “doing” of setting goals.

References

  1. Weinberg, R. & Gould, D. (2007). Foundations of Sport and Exercise Psychology. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics.
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In Acknowledging for Personal Growth – Part I, I discussed the difference between acknowledging and encouraging as personal successwell as when we acknowledge others we are also recognizing that which is in ourselves.

Before I move on to Part II and other aspects of acknowledging, I’d like to thank my coaching school, ICA, for the support and much of the information about ‘Acknowledging.’

Celebration

Celebrating means giving yourself permission to stop for a moment and enjoy what you already have accomplished. It provides the opportunity to stop and take a look back in time and savor the moment. It also provides a chance to review what worked and what did not work. What you want to do more of in your life and what actions you will not repeat in the future. This is a time to acknowledge your achievement and personal success and to celebrate them.

Many of us are not in the habit of celebrating…at least, not the small things in life. Most people usually celebrate special events and major accomplishments. However, it is worth celebrating the small steps along the way that help us reach our major personal goals in life. Celebration is important because it gives us time to reflect on our accomplishments, our personal performance and to acknowledge our achievements; this in turn provides a sense of personal growth.

The art of celebrating also provides the opportunity for others the chance to participate in you personal performance, and allowing them to acknowledge us for what we have done. It also provides an opportunity for us to acknowledge the people in our lives who have supported and assisted us in reaching our personal goals and dreams. Hardly ever does anyone achieve something by themselves. An all-important step in goal setting that is sometimes overlooked is the need for celebration. When setting goals, one of the most powerful questions to ask yourself is: “How will I celebrate the achievement of this particular goal?

Creating structures for celebration builds in an automatic way to reward and reflect on the accomplishment(s). To support yourself, get into the habit of building in a structure for celebrating. This helps reinforce the concept of taking time to think about and enjoy the progress.

Ways that we can celebrate:

  • Buy something special, like one beautiful rose or some rich chocolate or a new power tool (that was for the guys)
  • Indulge in a treat that you have not experienced in a long time.
  • Take a bubble bath while sipping a favorite beverage…yes guys…you should try this too!
  • Get a massage at a local spa.
  • Take a trip to a favorite place.
  • Keep a gratitude journal.

Ways that we can celebrate in a work environment:

  • Take the team to see a sporting event.
  • Host a team building exercise
  • Keep a gratitude list on the lunch room wall
  • Make celebration a permanent agenda item for meetings.
  • Start with celebration before launching into problems or challenges.
  • Bring in some beautiful flowers to celebrate your success.

Celebration is so individual in its expression. Find out what it means to celebrate for each of your friends. What are they grateful for and how do they celebrate their achievements? Develop your own celebration list that will increase your sense of personal power and personal growth. This list can then serve as a way to create more celebrations as well as remove the overwhelming feeling from trying to think of something immediately.

Contemplation

  • What difference would it make in your life, over the next five years, if you received 50 percent more acknowledgment than you do today?
  • Think of a time in your life when you have been acknowledged for your personal performance…no matter the outcome, how did it make you feel?
  • Describe what life feels like when we make efforts without acknowledgment?
  • What can you celebrate right now?

Application

In my personal coaching, acknowledgment comes after my client’s have taken action. However acknowledgment is not just about the action, it is about who my client’s are ‘being’ while they are taking action. I acknowledge my client’s for their values and their purpose and not just their activity. I cheer them on, support them to take the next step with courage and mental strength, and help them to see what they did to get their results.

I don’t always acknowledge what is “successful.” Many times some of the best lessons come from what did not work out well, when it did not turn out to be exactly the way my client’s wanted it. As a personal coach, I then acknowledge what action they took, what lessons were learned and how it will now support them in their personal growth and personal development. This means that I acknowledge all the steps my client’s make from beginning to end.

As a point of reference, it’s important when acknowledging someone, to avoid the word “but” after saying something wonderful to them. For example, “that was great, but…” The word “but” in a sentence has a tendency to negate what was said before it.

When acknowledging, I want my client’s to feel good about what they did even if it did not produce the desired result. I emphasize the experience to learn from it in order to grow and improve upon it next time.

Remember, this is a process and not everyone is going to go out and get it right the first time. It takes time and this is why acknowledgment is so important because it supports others to learn and develop further. For me, it helps my client’s understand what aspects of what they did worked.

Holding a Vision

Part of holding a vision is also reminding my client’s of how far they have come. A powerful strategy I use for holding their vision is to have them look into their past to recall experiences they have had which seemed impossible but became possible. When we hold a vision for our clients we say things like:

  • What evidence do you have to prove to yourself that you can do this?
  • Tell me what happened when you were challenged with reaching for your personal goals (that they achieved)?

As a life coach, I help turn my client’s vision into reality, their dreams into an achievement and their personal goals into an accomplishment. Encouragement leads them to persistence and attainment.

You also can “coach” effectively by just using acknowledgement, encouragement, and celebration. If you simply help someone see and appreciate their strengths you will empower them to do better and reach for their own peak performance. If you acknowledge them when they are operating at their best, then you allow their “best self” to grow. When you encourage them at moments of self-doubt you will drive this doubt away. To focus on what is good in their life right now and what they are doing right will often produce significant results irrespective of other techniques.

Reflection

  • What would your life look like if you acknowledge yourself more often?
  • What would other’s lives look like if you acknowledge them more often?

References

Angier, Michael, 2006, Self Improvement and Motivation, SuccessNet.org

Kegan, Robert and Lahey, Lisa, 2001, How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work. Jossey-Bass, San Francisco

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