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Welcome back!personal success hats

In Self Management And Personal Success – Part 1 we began this subject of self-management and how it affects your personal success and can limit you from reaching your peak performance.

I started by making the point that whatever attitude you have about the world then you will bring this same belief upon yourself. Your attitude is a good indicator of the respect you have about your ability to bring about the type of vision and dreams you want to have.

Today we’ll continue this discussion…

Application

In my coaching, when a client highlights particular goals that they want to work towards it is always easy to begin working on the tangible aspects of that goal. The tangible parts are easier to measure and see. However all aspects of the goals will not be realized if my client doesn’t look at themselves to see what they need to know to be able to attain these goals.

For instance, if a client is not seeing the world in an optimistic way then this is an opportunity for me to coach them and ask them some questions so they can see their world more clearly.

Seeing the world in a negative way is a trained process. When we are born we do not see the world as negative. We see the world as an amazing place, full of things to explore and discover. It is only over time that we are conditioned to see things in a negative way.

We can change this.

We can change the way we view the world and ourselves. You can do this by imagining trying on a different pair of glasses, one’s that shifted your perspective where everything looked beautiful.

What would they see?

How would this new view of the world help you reach your peak performance?

Sometimes you may observe others or even yourself and feel as though they are always wearing a black hat. Edward de Bono came up with a model for a new way of thinking. He would make six hats all of different colors. He would then ask people in a team to each wear a different colored hat. Each hat represented a different thought process that was necessary in thinking creatively.

  • The white hat represented factual information
  • The red hat was for emotions
  • The yellow hat was for positivity
  • The blue hat was for process control, usually worn by the leader of the group who identified when it was time to change hats
  • The green hat was for creative thought
  • The last and final hat was the black hat for critical thinking

The person with the black hat on had to look at the bad points of a decision in a cautious, defensive way. They had to look at all the weak points in the decision.

So now you can see how some people, maybe even you, only ever wear a black hat. Now that you this model of the different hats you can mentally changes hats when you are thinking through important, and even not so important decisions.

The key here is to help you see a different perspective.

Interestingly as well is the color of the black hat. It may be fun to see what impact the other colors have on you as you wear them. Go out and get some different colored hats and physically where one when you are in mist of decision or even a phone conversation.  This is a great way shift your energy from negative thoughts in other realms and set you up for peak performance.

A key aim of my coaching, my blog, podcasts and newsletter is to keep you moving forward. It is important to me to support you to live in a state of positive action so that you can achieve your personal success.

If this sounds exhausting, perhaps I need to define “action” more clearly. When I use the term “living in action? images of marathon runners, or high performing CEO’s may spring to mind.

These people are certainly living in action, but so are we all. All of us live in action, all of the time. We move through the world taking in information and making choices, which allow us to learn, which, in turn, impact on our next set of experiences. The fundamental difference is whether we are in positive or negative action, growth or decline.

Whether this action helps move you towards peak performance and personal success or hold you back and create a victim mentality.

Growth vs. Decline

People are never really sitting still. They are always making choices, which have effects. When they make positive choices, these have positive effects, which then make it easy to make other positive choices. When they make negative choices, these have negative effects, which often lead to other negative choices.

Our choices can sometimes set off a domino effect, which sends us into a growth or decline spiral. In extreme cases this growth or decline can be in a broad range of areas in our lives, however, for most of us we are always growing in some areas and declining in others.

“One of the single greatest obstacles of moving forward in life is the sensation of fear. Fear reveals itself in many ways: the fear of failure, the fear of the unknown, the fear of pain. And, at the heart of fear is inactivity. It is paralyzing physically, emotionally, and mentally. It prevents one from moving forward in life and thus entraps one in a cycle of stagnation.” Bill Turpin – Coach and Trainer

To illustrate, let me tell you a story….a story about Carol’s experience of becoming physically fit, for the first time in her adult life…in her early forties. Carol spent a great deal of her twenties and thirties balancing work and family commitments.

There was very little time left for Carol. At age 40, Carol was finally finding some time for herself and trying to incorporate some exercise into her schedule, when a friend asked her to be a walking partner.

For 3 mornings a week for a year, Carol and her friend met at 6am and walked around a local park. Having her friend waiting for her was just the incentive Carol needed to get out of bed.

After 6 months, Carol’s friend moved away. Feeling uncomfortable walking on by herself, Carol began attending a local gym 3 times a week to walk on the treadmill. After a few months of 3 times a week, Carol found herself waking early most days, so it was a small step to begin attending 5 times a week instead of 3.

A few months later, a trainer approached Carol and asked her if she wanted to include some weight training in her routine. Carol agreed and soon began branching out to other equipment in the gym. Carol is now a very fit lady, with good health and high energy.

This energy is manifesting itself in her work where she is achieving peak performance and personal success.

It is easy to see how one of Carol’s good choices let to another. By choosing to walk with a friend, Carol found that her sleep habits changed and she was able to wake early 5 times a week. By building up her initial fitness, weight training became a small step instead of a huge challenge. Carol’s good choices lead to good results, which made her feel good.

Research in the field of Positive Psychology, tells us that even small increases in good feelings such as hope, optimism, and general happiness, can lead to significant improvement in performance.

These periods of positive growth leading to a sense of fulfilment are often referred to as “flow states” or “being in the zone”; a feeling of being engaged with life to the point where time flies and success feels normal. (Kaufman, 2006) Part of a my role is is to keep my clients in this “flow state”.

Request an Introductory Consultation with me HERE to explore coaching further how to get into this flow state for peak performance and personal success.

References

  • Kaufman, Carol, 2006, Positive Psychology: The Science at the Heart of Coaching, in Stober,
  • Dianne and Grant, Anthony (eds), 2006, Evidence Based Coaching Handbook,
  • John Wiley and Sons, New Jersey Kolb, D. 1984, Experiential Learning. Prentice Hall, Englewood Cliffs, NJ

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Greetings and welcome back!Personal success

Today I’d like to talk about self-management and how it affects reaching your personal goals and achieving personal success.

The word management is mainly known through its practical application in business. Management is to handle something successfully using skill or something else. It is usually in reference to the administration of business.

We have all been managed at some time or another and some of us have also been managers or part of management.

Traditionally management has worked around the premise that it is about how to manage something – projects, humans etc. It is not usually referred to on the managing of ourselves.

Managing others is an outward action, managing self requires going within to observe self and to see what needs managing. We have also thought in the past that managing others involves the ability to change people to do the things we need them to do.

The biggest awakening at this moment in time, that needs to occur, is that we cannot change others, only ourselves. Any attempt to change others is futile and highly judgmental. But we can change ourselves; we can manage our own change and create energy to reach our personal goals and achieve our personal success.

“What you think of Yourself is what you think of the World” – Dr. Wayne W Dyer

The way that you view your world is what you think about yourself. If you see the world as a place filled with crime and corruption and you feel that it is generally not a great place, then your pessimistic outlook will be the same as how you feel about yourself.

If you feel that the world is full of happy great people and you are optimistic, then you will feel the same about your own life.

Whatever attitude you have about the world then you will bring this same belief upon yourself. Your attitude is a good indicator of the respect you have about your ability to bring about the type of vision and dreams you want to have.

If you feel pessimistic then you will believe that you are not able to fulfill your dreams and vision. If you feel optimistic then you will believe that it is possible to create your vision and to bring about positive great things.

In his book, “The Power of Intention”, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer tells of a conversation that he heard following the 9/11 events in New York City.

“A grandfather was talking to his grandson, telling him, “I have two wolves barking inside of me. The first wolf is filled with anger, hatred, bitterness, and mostly revenge. The second wolf inside me is filled with love, kindness, compassion, and mostly forgiveness” “Which wolf do you think will win?” the young boy inquired.

The grandfather responded, “Whichever one I feed.” (p. 137)

This story is actually an old Cherokee legend and outlines how we can approach our life.

If we choose to see all the awful, tragic parts of our world, where there is crime and hatred, then we will bring these feelings upon ourselves. If we choose to see the world in a way that is full of opportunity, blue skies, great people, then we will bring this great feeling upon ourselves. We will look at the world from a place of self-love and self-respect and be in a better sate to achieve our personal success.

Our very view of the world is the very view to our soul, our mind, our feelings. What you see is what you will get, is a follow through of this concept.

Self-management is making a choice about the way you see the world and thus yourself.

“Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have” – Doris Mortman

Creating vision or setting personal goals or deciding to have certain kinds of relationships, that are successful, is not achieved by external forces, such as our community or our friends etc.

The most important element in any goal is looking at who we are. There are many ways we can begin the journey of starting to look within ourselves. But first we need to decide if we are going to take a look optimistically or pessimistically. Check which option you are choosing as it will determine what you see.

Then you can begin the journey.

There are a number of principles or values that you can use to strengthen your capacity to look within. Stephen R. Covey, talks about three key’s that are important for him.

They are:

  • Integrity
  • Humility
  • Gratitude

People with integrity are those whose words match their deeds and whose behavior mirrors their values. Their honesty and ethics can be trusted unconditionally. They honor commitment. They are dependable. They are known for doing the right things, for the right reasons, at the right times.

“While numerous tales of integrity take place in the public settings where others can see them, often the most powerful examples occur in the stillness of a private moment – when no one else is looking? (Covey, 2006,p. 158)

The second principle or value is humility. Humility is where we move beyond our ego or sense of felling more important than others. When we boast about our skills or attributes this is not humility. Humility is when we are open to learning, open to not knowing, open to seeing the beauty in others. Humility is the key that opens our minds to learning from others.

“Though humility is not a tangible commodity, we know it when we see it and feel it when we hear it.? (Covey, 2006, p.158)

The third principle is that of gratitude. Gratitude is the shifter of energy; it is the principle or value that reminds us that our worries and concerns are small in comparison to what we have to be grateful for. The moment that you shift your energy outward to think about what you are grateful for is a great moment.

When you have integrity and then humility, your acknowledgement or appreciation is real. It is felt in the purest way and your words have great meaning. You truly show that you are grateful. Only a person who is truly self-managed and has a healthy optimistic view of the world and themselves can give gratitude.

A person who is negative or pessimistic will not want to be thankful or appreciative for others. They will not have the self-love reserve to be able to give the energy to giving gratitude. Acknowledging, praising, appreciating, being grateful are signs of a healthy body, mind and soul. Gratitude without integrity is insincere. All three principles are critical for the journey of self-management.

The very art of giving is only possible when you feel full and satisfied. It is like sitting down to a large feast. You fill on what you need and then once done you feel replenished.

Giving is the same.

You must ensure that you are full to the brim so that you in turn can give back.

  • If you do not have self-love, then you cannot love others.
  • If you do not have self-respect then you do not respect others.
  • If you do not value your self then you will not value others.

If you think you can show these values to others even when you are not truly believing in them, it will show.

This is deception. You are deceiving yourself if you think that you can pretend to care or love or give to others. If you do not believe this for yourself then your giving will be conditional. Your caring will be conditional and your love will be conditional.

Self-Acknowledgment

Part of self management and achieving personal success is the ability to self-acknowledge.

Self acknowledgement is when you can look at what you are doing and see what you have achieved and take a moment out to recognize your achievements. It is like filling your body up with self-love. It gets stronger and healthier in all aspects. Only when you are feeling strong in your own self-love can you acknowledge the greatness in others.

Purpose

“Self-realization means that we have been consciously connected with our source of being. Once we have made this connection, then nothing can go wrong….” -Swami Paramananda

In her book, “Beingness, A Commitment to Self”, Annette Noontil takes you through a 90 day meditation to attain a state of “beingness.” The 90-day process is to make a commitment to self to work towards a place of inner peace and calm. Each day she takes you through meditation followed by a range of thoughts for the day.

In addition she asks that you write a diary of your dreams and thoughts around the daily questions. This ritual or process can be done for 90-days or for the rest of your life. There are many processes like this to support a person to find their inner strengths and to better know themselves.

Self-management requires you to truly know self then it requires discipline and introducing practices into your day that will support you in achieving this.

If you do not make these practices a priority in your day then you do not value the importance of self-management. If you allow these practices to slip by then you can expect that the absence of them will also mean self-love can become absent too.

Remember that there are many processes or models that have been developed to achieve your purpose, vision, personal success or personal goals. These processes are different to what you need to achieve self-management.

First you must go within yourself to see what you believe and feel. Once you begin this you may find a process that supports your ongoing journey to self-awareness. Self-awareness is not goal setting. It is getting to know who you are. It is uncovering your beliefs, your values, your view of self and the world.

Choose the right process that supports you.

There are many available.

It is just a matter of finding one that is aligned with you and how you want to proceed along your self management journey.

It is also very important to have people around you who support your journey. It may be a friend, partner, spouse or a coach.

You can request an Introductory Consultation with me HERE to explore coaching further and help you become better self-managed so that you can reach you personal goals and personal success.

Select the right person.

The one who reinforces your greatness and your self-worth.

Contemplation

  • Write up a process that will best serve you to become self-managed.
  • What are the values that you are going to choose to live by to achieve self management? Observe how you view your world. It is positivity or negativity?
  • How does this view impact on how you think of yourself?

References

  • Covey, Stephen R,. 2006, Inspiration for a meaningful life: everyday greatness, Rutledge Hill Press, Tennessee.
  • Dwyer, Wayne W. Dr., 2004, The Power of Intentions: Learning to co-create your world your way, Hay House Inc., USA
  • Noontil, Annette, Beingness, A Commitment to Self, McPherson?s Printing Group, Australia. ISBN 0 646 30218 3.

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Welcome back!success coaching and visulization

Last week we took a slightly different look at visualization.  In Success Coaching and Visualization – Part 1 we looked at why visualization works, hope and how words create images.

Today I’m going to finish up with application for success coaching

Application

Visualization has a powerful role success coaching and in helping a person maintain their hope of achieving their goals. By using visualization, we aim to make the end point of our goals seem as normal and natural as arriving home at the end of the day.

We do this by creating a persuasive picture…by “seeing” the end point in complete detail using all our senses.  We want to see, hear, feel smell and even taste our personal goal.  Through visualization the impossible can seem possible and utterly compelling.

The Visualization Process

When I take a client through the visualization process, I normally begin by making sure my client is comfortable and will not be distracted.  I then guide them to focus on the sounds, sights and feelings of their imagined future.  By focusing only of their future goal they eliminate any present sounds, sights and feelings that might distract them.

I ask them to close their eyes and to take a few deep breaths. As they breathe out I ask them to release any tension that is in their body. If they have difficulty doing this, I might ask them to work their way up their body tensing each body part and then releasing it.

This reminds the body what it feels like to be tense and what it feels like to be relaxed and usually helps them to let go of any tension they are holding through habit or lack of awareness.

When the client is feeling relaxed, I begin by asking them to move their focus into a time and place in the future; a future in which their goal has been achieved. I take them through some questions, which complete the whole picture or the experience. Some of the questions I ask them are:

  • Where are you?
  • What do you see yourself doing?
  • Where are you?
  • What do you see yourself doing?
  • Who are you with?
  • If you are somewhere that engages your senses of smell and taste, what are you aware of?
  • What can you hear around you?
  • What do you see?
  • How do you feel?

Any questions that assist them to have a full experience of their future are helpful.

Success Coaching, Visualization and The Wheel of Life

Some of my clients come to me with a specific set of personal goals. Others need more support and success coaching to focus on what they want from the future.

These individuals tend to have a general idea that they want their life, i.e. be more successful, more balanced, more meaningful or more exciting, but they don’t really have a greater sense of their end goal.

Visualization can be a useful tool for helping them to clarify their personal goals.

You may be familiar with the Wheel of Life. The wheel is a visual representation of each of the important aspects of a person’s life. It is designed to be a tool for focusing on development in a balanced way.

For individuals who are unsure about their goals, a good strategy is to look at each of the aspects of the Wheel of Life and to give themselves a rating out of 10 for each one.

Then, with either through success coaching or self-reflection a personal can then be lead through the visualization process for each of the sections focusing on the question: “What would a ?10? look like in this area of your life?”

You would be unlikely to focus on every section of the Wheel of Life in one or two hours. In fact, I would suggest that you only focus on one section in an hour or in a given success coaching session, unless of course you are have practiced and are skilled at visualization.

A good question to get started is what area of your life will have the biggest impact? You may or may not choose the section where you have the lowest score or the section where their goals are less clear or a section that they value the most.

Using Words and Pictures

Once you have visualized your ideal life, you might want to work on strategies and tactics to keep the image fresh in your mind. A great tactic is to draw a picture or produce a collage…a vision board.

Once again the Wheel of Life, can be a useful framework. Images engage a different part of the brain to words and can create a pathway into the subconscious mind. Be playful with this, choose images from magazines, draw pictures yourself, use the Internet, use any resource that will help to remind you of your personal goals, personal success and your future life.

Steps Along the Way

The next step after visualizing the end point is to determine steps along the way, the strategies and tactic to make your vision a reality.

The beautiful thing about visualization is that the clearer the image of the end goal and the more natural and normal you have managed to make it; the easier it is to see the pathways to it. The helicopter view that comes with visualization helps to clearly see multiple pathways to the same goal.

If at some point you find yourself struggling to find ways to move forward, or if your feeling despairing because you have hit a barrier on their way, returning to the visualization of your personal goals can be an incredibly powerful way to move forward again.

Visualizing Small Goals

Visualization is a powerful strategy for looking at life purpose, values and life vision. However it can also be useful for smaller goals and strategies.

If you are working on particular challenge, for example, giving a presentation at a meeting, it can be extremely powerful to visualize what it will look and feel like when the presentation has been successfully completed.

This can give you something to “hang on to” to counteract any apprehension they might be feeling beforehand.

Visualization can also be used in conjunction with role-play. For example, if you’re having a difficult conversation with your manager, it might be useful to combine visualizing the situation and then role-playing the conversation with a friend or coach acting as the manager.

You can visualize sitting in the manager’s office, reflect on what you see, the sounds, the smells, how you feel, then begin the role-play conversation. This helps fully prepare you so that the different environment of the manager’s office don’t through you off and possible forget everything that you have practiced in the role-play.

Safe Journey

I’ve notice that visualization can be confronting for someone who has never experience success coaching at this deep of a level before. It is also unlikely to work for a person that is not completely relaxed, as the individual will be too distracted to focus.

In a success coaching situation, visualization requires high levels of trust on behalf of the client. For these reasons it’s important for me to check with my client first to see if this is a strategy that they feel comfortable with. Some questions I ask are:

  • Have you ever practiced visualization before?
  • Are you familiar with visualization?
  • Would you like to give it a try as a strategy to really focus on this challenge?

I normally begin with small visualizations so that my client can feel the power of the strategy before challenging them with visualizing big goals or aims. If you’re new to visualization, you might have a go at a “smaller” goal before moving on to the full-blown successful life.

Visualization is a skill, and, like any skill, it improves through practice. People who become practiced at visualization find that it is a resource they can draw on regularly in their lives. If they meet a challenge, they can visualize the end point.

When they reach a barrier, they are able to draw on their vision of their end goal to put the barrier in context and not focus on it to the exclusion of all other possible pathways.

As my clients and I become more comfortable working together visualization greatly enhance the success coaching relationship.

Contemplation

  • What are some other ways that visualization can be used in your life?
  • What area of your life can you write a visualization script for?

References

  • Kauffman, Carol, (2006) Positive Psychology: The Science at the Heart of Coaching in Stober, Dianne and Grant, Anthony, (Eds), Evidence Based Coaching, New Jersey: John Wiley and Sons
  • Snyder, C.R, (2000) Handbook of Hope: Theory Measures and Applications, New York: Guildford Press

If you’d like to find out more about personal success coaching and how it can help you achieve your personal goals request an Introductory Consultation today.

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I’ve discussed the use of visualization many times before.  In my performance coaching I call mental imagery, mental visualization for personal successrehearsal or mental practice.

In success coaching I call it visualization or imagination. Regardless of what I or anyone else calls it, it is a powerful tool to achieve your personal goals and personal success.

For me, success coaching is about getting my clients to deeply experience their goals.  I want them to experience so deeply that they create an unstoppable desire, back by action, to achieve their personal goal.

So today in this success coaching session I’m going to take a different perspective on visualization in hopes that you’ll get just how powerful it is!

Imagine you are walking to your home across a field. When you are almost there, you notice that a tree has fallen across your path blocking your way. Your thoughts immediately turn to how you are going to solve the momentary problem and get home.

You begin looking for ways to climb over it, perhaps push through the branches, or maybe walk around it. You would be highly unlikely to simply give up on getting home and camp out for the night.

In this circumstance, you are exercising activity. Your end point (getting home) is so real and compelling that you don’t give up, not even for a minute. The barrier in your way appears to be a temporary distraction and you immediately move into problem solving mode, secure in the knowledge that you will achieve your goal.

Imagine if achieving all of your personal goals were as simple as walking home across a field.

How much easier would life be if, when confronted with an obstacle, you remained so completely secure in your end goal that you didn’t pause for a moment to consider an alternative to your success?

Imagine if the achievement of your ideal life felt as natural as walking through your front door at the end of the day. There is a way that you can create this same surety, determination and purpose with your personal goals. It is through the use of visualization.

Why Visualization Works

If I asked you to visualize arriving home at the end of the day, I’m sure you would have no trouble doing so. Arriving in our home is a very familiar activity. It seems natural and normal to us because we do it most days. It is easy to visualize.

In fact as you’re reading this, I suspect images of your own home are bubbling up easily in your mind’s eye with no pressure at all. I bet you can see your home; you know what it sounds like and smells like and you know what it feels like to walk through the door, don’t you?

With success coaching, the challenge is with bigger goals and aspirations as they are part of the ‘unknown.’ We have never lived them so they don’t seem naturally with us.

The image of our end point is not so strong in our mind that we view barriers as temporary blockages. In fact the end point is so unfamiliar to us that we see barriers and blockages as bigger than they are.

We start to think: maybe this goal is impossible? Maybe it was just never meant to be.

Success Coaching and Hope Training

In success coaching maintaining your hope for the future is difficult to do when your vision of that future is shaky. Yet hope plays a crucial role in a person’s life.

Research has indicated that people with high levels of hope are much more likely to face and overcome obstacles and are likely to rate higher on a range of success indicators such as academic performance, athletic achievement, interpersonal effectiveness and physical health and well-being. (Snyder, 2000) People who are able to clearly “see” a brighter future, are much more likely to achieve it.

Language vs. Images

Another important aspect of visualization is that it is using a different part of the brain. The right side of the brain is the side that we use to be able to visualize things.

Visualizing images, pictures or stories using the right brain supports another way of learning. A great deal of our previous learning has been done through the use of language which is a left brain activity.

Visualizing a situation opens up the creative elements of our brain and permits us to see things in a new or different way. In addition to this, the space that we create to visualize is a meditative space. The stillness of a meditative space ensures there are no distractions and it allows us to use another part of the brain.

Looking at your life in many different ways supports you in being able to really “see” where you want to go, i.e. your personal goals and personal success.

Your self-vision connects your subconscious and conscious minds and this informs your path forward. The beauty of visualizing your vision is that it takes a purpose and starts to turn it into specific images and ideas and possibilities.

You may have a similar purpose to someone else but when you visualize your purpose it will be completely different to another person’s. This is what makes you unique and your journey unique. Visualizing brings creative thoughts to life and helps us to see them.

Success Coaching Application

Helicopter View

By focusing on the end point of a journey, you develop helicopter view. From a helicopter you can easily see that there are many pathways to any destination. One of the differences between high-hope individuals and those with low-hope is that high-hope individuals recognize this simple fact.

If they hit an obstacle, they don’t think; “Oh no this is impossible!” they think; “This pathway hasnt worked, Ill find another one.” Like the person encountering the tree in our beginning story, instead of shifting into despair, they shift into problem solving mode. They look at all the possibilities; going around the barrier, going over it, pushing through it, climbing under it and so on.

Your Own Visualization Exercise

Below is a link to an audio of a visualization track from my Mental Training for Personal Success.  It takes you through a visualization process.

Please sit back and relax, get yourself into a comfortable position and when you are ready listen to the audio and take yourself through your very own visualization exercise.

Celebrate what you see once you are complete, take notes of your visualization and refer to them.

Tell a friend or your coach about what you visualized. Speaking out loud your visualization – your vision, will bring it into your conscious mind and into a new space for you to hear and see. Some believe that speaking out loud what you want to create in life, brings it about. Go ahead and give it a go…what you do have to gain?

It’s putting out to the universe your intent and creating it.

http://warriormindcoach.com/audio/Future-Success.mp3

Personal Success Contemplation

  • Have you ever had a goal or desire that felt absolutely natural and normal?
  • What were the factors that made if feel this way?
  • Have you ever had an area of your life that you wanted to improve but you couldn’t clarify exactly what you wanted from it?
  • What is the relationship between visualization and achieving your goals?
  • How have you used visualization in your own life?
  • Listen to the audio and do your own visualization. What did you see?

If you’d like to find out more about personal success coaching and how it can help you achieve your personal goals request an Introductory Consultation today.

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Welcome back to this series on motivation.  Over the past few weeks we’ve been taking a look at the many aspects, goalsor faces, of motivation and how you can use it to reach your personal goals and personal success.

We left off with Part III with goal system approach.  Today we’ll discuss:

Attribution and Achievement Goal Perspective’s

WTF!?

Yea I know, it seem like I’ve gone off the deep end…hang in there I promise it will make sense.

We’re going to look at goals and motivation in a somewhat different way this week, by checking out two additional goal/motivation philosophies; ‘attribution’ and ‘achievement’. These theories supply yet a third way of considering the “why” question of motivation that is “why am I pursuing this particular target?”

Causal Attribution: How We Explain the Past Affects the Future

We’re all naturally inclined to want to explain events that happen to us, especially unusual success or failure events.  This explanation helps with the desire that we can gain better control over those events in the future.

The ‘Causal attribution’ perspective categorizes the various types of explanations we use. For example, do you think your failure was caused by something internal in you, such as a lack of effort or preparation, or by something about the external situation that you couldn’t control, such as poor team effort, bad weather, or faulty equipment?

Was it caused by an unstable and likely temporary factor, i.e. bad weather, or by something more stable and likely to persist over time, i.e. a character flaw in a teammate?

Combining these concepts leads to four basic types of attribution:

  • Internal-stable, i.e. attributing the outcome to our traits or abilities.
  • Internal-unstable, i.e. attributing the outcome to our effort or our temporary sickness.
  • External-stable, i.e. attributing the outcome to societal prejudice against our
  • Ethnicity.
  • External-unstable, i.e. attributing the outcome to luck or chance.

These are four basic types of reason people use to explain why things happen.

Why Does it Matter?

Because, explanations for our past successes or failures influence our motivations and expectations for the future.

Suppose you thought your failure was due to a stable internal factor, i.e. I’m dumb; I’m uncoordinated; I’m boring. This means it’s you who is at fault, so it really hurts on a personal level; and it is stable, so you believe you can’t do anything about it. Imagine the devastating impact this could have on your future motivation!

Suppose instead you thought your failure was due to an unstable external factor, i.e. the test covered unexpected material; the wet turf made you slip; the audience was burnt out from the long day prior. This failing really wasn’t due to anything related to you, it was a fluke, and next time could be better. Not so bad — you can bounce back from that!

So, explaining failures via an external-unstable attribution seems more motivational and emotionally beneficial than explaining failure via an internal-stable attribution doesn’t it?

On the other hand, explaining successes via an internal-stable attribution, i.e. I’m smart!…coordinated!…interesting! also seems more beneficial than explaining them via an external-unstable attribution such as I made lucky guesses! My opponent fell! I looked good compared to the terrible speaker before me! Internal-stable attributions for success in a personal achievement can help us to feel good about that personal achievement, and to want to take on more of the same because of the high level of expectations for personal success.

If you’re like me you are probably a bit suspicious about this aren’t you?

You may be asking yourself: so, all I have to do is make some blame-deflecting excuse after failure, and always take the credit after success? As the saying goes “That was easy.”

Both of these perspectives reflect “self-serving biases,” that let us feel good, or at least, not too bad about ourselves, but they also hide the true causes of the outcome.

When we “fail”, (and remember, there is no “failure” only feedback), maybe it was in part something about us, which we should take a look at and perhaps try to change! And when we succeed, maybe there was a “luck” factor involved, that we should recognize so we don’t rely on it next time.

In other words, before making any self-serving attributions, we should be sure not to distance ourselves from reality.

On the other hand, we saw last week post that “positive illusions” can be beneficial, sometimes acting as self-fulfilling prophecies. So, what determines when illusions are too “pie in the sky”, so that they turn into a negative? This is a very difficult question to answer and basically comes down to you…do these perspectives support in moving closer to your personal goal?

Entity vs. Incremental and Self Ability

An “entity” type person is someone who thinks a person’s is stable – you either have it or you don’t. ‘Entity’ type people hope they have it, and try to demonstrate to themselves and others that they have it.

For example, an ‘entity-oriented’ salesman might think that the ability to win others over is just something you are born with, some have it, and others don’t. This is an important point because, to some degree, all of us make these types of absolute character judgments.

An “incremental” person, by contrast, is somebody who thinks that ability is dynamic and can be developed, bit by bit, with effort. Incremental individuals hope to develop their ability, and are not so concerned with showing themselves and others that they already have it. For example, an incremental salesperson might think that sales ability can always be improved and sharpened.

Entity Theory

  • “You have a certain amount of intelligence, and you can’t really do much to change it.”
  • “Your intelligence is something about you that stays the same.”

Incremental Theory

  • “Intelligence is something that we develop over time, through effort.”
  • “People can learn to be more intelligent in their lives.”

Take a moment and think about which of these statements sounds like you.

Performance vs.  Mastery Goals

Looking at various physiology studies on goals there emerges a distinction between “performance” goals and “mastery” (or learning) goals.

I’ve talked about outcome goals and performance goals in other posts and this very much the same with a different name, but more importantly how the different goal effects motivation.

In physiology terms, when we have a performance goal, we are trying to do well relative to others, or relative to some external standard or norm of success. We are trying to win the competition or make the grade.

When we have a mastery goal, we are trying to do well relative to our own past performance, or relative to some internal standard of success. We are trying to learn and improve.

Lots of research shows that mastery goals do in fact lead to more improvement, as well as deeper learning and knowledge. Mastery goals though do not necessarily lead to better performance, because mastery-oriented people are often more concerned with learning what is interesting, rather than “winning.” However, this new learning usually pays off later.

Performance goals tend to be associated with more anxiety and less enjoyment, although they can also be associated with great concentration and persistence, since the ego is on the line. Take a minute to reflect, which better describes your approach to achievement situations, performance or mastery?

Approach vs. Avoidance

If you’ve been reading my posts for a while you know that I (and NLP) talk about “moving towards” or “moving away from” motivation, this is the same thing.

Four Basic Types of Achievement Goals

So in looking at Mastery and Performance goals it would seem that are performance goals always “bad” right?

Well performance goals aren’t necessarily a “bad”, what research has found is that it depends on whether they involve approach or avoidance motivation.

In his “2 x 2 Achievement Goal matrix,” there are four basic types of achievement motivation:

  • Mastery approach.
  • Performance approach.
  • Non-performance avoidance.
  • Non-mastery avoidance.

These are the four basic “whys” of achievement behavior.

For example, in business, performance-approach goals orient people towards the bottom line or objective production targets; performance-avoidance goals orient people towards not screwing up in the eyes of others; mastery-approach goals orient people towards skill-development workshops and improving on past performance; and mastery avoidance goals orient people towards maintaining their skills, a concern sometimes seen in older workers who are compensating for cognitive declines.

Research shows that performance approach goals actually do produce greater performance, and it is only when fear of failure enters the picture that difficulties come up.

This makes sense, and is actually reassuring — it would be awkward to have to conclude that competing against others, or trying to reach objective performance standards, is “bad” by definition!

So, what does all this mean for those who want to positively motivate themselves and others?

  1. First, even in the most objective performance condition, try to focus yourself and others on what can be learned and developed in the situation, rather than focusing on the final outcome (success/failure) and its implications.
  2. It is OK, and sometimes even necessary, to also have objective performance goals. However, don’t over-emphasize such goals, if at all possible!
  3. When failures and set-backs occur, be sure not to interpret them as failures of the self or others’ selves (remember only feedback). Instead, keep on thinking of achievement as a process, which takes continued effort and skill-development.

By following this point you will produce the most benefit for yourself and others in the long run.

Let’s Review

  • In this post, we looked at how we explain past events affects our motivation for the future: internal-stable attributions for success and external-unstable attributions for failure provide the greatest emotional benefits and perhaps subsequent motivation. However, we have to be careful to avoid “self-serving biases” that keep us from learning what needs to be learned!
  • We also compared “entity” and “incremental” styles of personal ability. Entity type people believe ability is fixed, and are concerned with proving their ability; incremental type people believe ability is changeable, and are concerned with improving their ability.
  • Entity perspectives are vulnerable when failure occurs, because they tend to make internal-stable attributions for failure and withdraw effort – or, they self-handicap and set up the conditions for further failure (by not sleeping, preparing, etc., for the next achievement situation).
  • Incremental perspectives can better handle failure — since their true goal is to learn and develop, failure provides valuable information about where they need to focus effort.
  • Finally, we compared “performance” and “mastery” achievement goals, which go along with entity and incremental self-theories. We looked at performance goals and how they are generally beneficial, as long as they involving approaching success rather than avoiding failure. It is only in the latter case that failing at performance goals produces the “helpless” motivational pattern.

Key References

    1. 1 Dweck, C. S. (1999) Self-theories: Their role in motivation, personality, and development. New York: Psychology Press.
    2. 2 Dweck, C. S. (2002). Beliefs that make smart people dumb. In R. J. Sternberg (Ed), Why smart people can be so stupid (pp. 24-41). New Haven, CT: Yale University Press.
    3. 3 Dweck, C. S., & Leggett, E. L. (1988). A social-cognitive approach to motivation and personality. Psychological Review, 95(2), 256-273.
    4. 4 Dweck, C. S. (1999) Self-theories: Their role in motivation, personality, and development. New York: Psychology Press.
    5. 5 Elliott, A. J. Shell, M. M., Henry, K. B., & Maier, M. A. (2005). Achievement goals, performance contingencies, and performance attainment: An experimental test Journal of Educational Psychology, 97(4), 630-640.
    6. 6 Elliot, A. J. (2006). The hierarchical model of approach-avoidance motivation. Motivation and Emotion, 30(2), 111-116.
    7. 7 Elliot, A. J. (2006). The hierarchical model of approach-avoidance motivation. Motivation and Emotion, 30(2), 111-116.

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In last weeks post (Part I) I gave an overview of The Four Questions of Motivation, the Self-determination theory motivation(“SDT”) and how they can affect your personal success and reaching your personal goals.

Again, so far we’ve been talking about the “why” of motivation — looking for the reasons behind the goal, while ignoring what the goal itself is. We could call the goal itself the “what” of motivation – the “X” that we pursue, for whatever reason.

This week I’m going to go over…

The “What” of Motivation – And Why it Matters

Some people pursue love, others money; some people want a new television, others want to finish the novel they are reading; some people want to take up jogging, others want to quit smoking; some people pursue success, others try to avoid failure.

SDT research in the 1990s began to discuss the “what” question, by distinguishing between two different types of values or goals: “extrinsic” and “intrinsic.”

I used these same terms when talking about motivation in general, but they can also apply to the “what,” to the target goal itself. Extrinsic goals are those that are done for some “external” reason. Extrinsic goals include trying to enhance our physical appearance, trying to gain status or become more well-known, and trying to acquire money and luxuries.

By contrast, intrinsic goals include trying to enhance intimate relationships, trying to serve groups or communities beyond the self, and trying to grow and develop as a person.

Extrinsic personal goals may sound “shallow,” like something you don’t really do — but let’s face it, everybody is susceptible to the lure of luxury, personal success, the pull of power, and the appeal of appearance!

These goals certainly have their place, but it seems they should not predominate within the motivational system, or else the person may experience problems. Research conducted by psychologist Tim Kasser and his colleagues shows that focusing too much on extrinsic goals (relative to intrinsic goals) is negatively associated with well-being, happiness, and adjustment (Kasser, T. (2002). “The high price of materialism”. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press.) As the sayings go, “money can’t buy you love,” “beauty is only skin deep,” and “fame ain’t what it’s cracked up to be.”

Studies also show that merely framing tasks in intrinsic versus extrinsic terms has effects on peoples’ performance and mood. For example, in three experiments, Maarten Vansteenkiste (a prominent young Belgian researcher) and his colleagues showed that framing information about recycling, business communication styles, or a fitness activity in intrinsic terms (“this will help the environment, your personal development, your health”) versus extrinsic terms (“this will help you save money, help you get a high-paying job, help you look better”) made a difference.( Vansteenkiste, M., Simons, J., Lens, W., Sheldon, K.M., & Deci, E. (2004).

Motivating processing, performance, and persistence: The synergistic role of intrinsic goal content and autonomy-supportive context. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 87, 246-260.)

Participants randomly assigned to do the requested activity with the intrinsic frame had greater learning/understanding, better performance/ achievement, and greater persistence/follow-through, compared to performing the activity with the extrinsic frame — in part because the intrinsic frame produced more internalized motivation for doing the activity.

The implications for motivating others and ourselves was clear – whenever some course of action is being suggested, try to frame it in intrinsic and not in extrinsic terms.

For example, a team-leader, might frame the team’s goal as to “grow as a team,” not to “boost the bottom line.” A sports coach might frame a skater’s goal as “giving your best performance yet at the Nationals,” not “winning a medal at Nationals.”

Extrinsic versus Intrinsic Framing Examples

  • Extrinsic
    • Do well to impress my boss at work
  • Intrinsic
    • Do well to earn more responsibility at work

 

  • Extrinsic
    • Earn more to boost my status
  • Intrinsic
    • Earn more to take the kids on vacation

 

  • Extrinsic
    • Increase time on the treadmill to look
  • Intrinsic
    • Increase time on the treadmill to more attractive improve my health

 

  • Extrinsic
    • Go green to save money
  • Intrinsic
    • Go green to help the planet

Summary:

  • Self-Determination Theory (SDT) and its supporting research talk about both the “why” and the “what” of motivation. SDT works hand in glove with positive theory of motivation, because it emphasizes intrinsic motivation and peoples’ natural growth processes.
  • SDT is not mindlessly positive, because it also emphasizes the difficulty of internalizing one’s actions in a world that does not always support free choice and self-expression.
  • According to the SDT research, it is ideal to pursue “intrinsic” goals about growth, intimacy, and community more so than “extrinsic” goals such as money, fame, and beauty, and, to pursue these goals with intrinsic or at least identified motivation, more so than external or introjected motivation.
  • When participating in goal setting for self or others it’s also best to frame the goals in intrinsic terms (this will help your health/development/the environment), and to emphasize internalized reasons for doing them (this is enjoyable and/or important).

OK…I hope you find this topic as fascinating as I do and see how the different types of motivation will affect your level of personal success.

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